DH won’t let me track his Phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman. I would never allow anyone to track me. Completely invasive. I am with your DH.

+1

Another +1. And sure, it could be useful, but we all survived when we didn’t even have smartphones!

[Anonymous]

We don’t track our phones nor would I want to. How likely is it you will become hurt or incapacitated?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, all of your reasons for wanting to “track” him sound pretty silly and dramatic to me. You know he gets home within a certain window generally - why wouldn’t you wait for him to eat dinner? Etc etc. Just weird.

I cook real dinners almost every night. Most taste best when just cooked and still hot. And I have young kids I like to feed on the earlier side if possible because they get hangry. Yeah it’s not a dealbreaker- it’s just one of those things that would be convenient.

This is silly. So you wait to see if he's left the office in the tracker before starting to cook? Stop it. If the lukewarm meals start to annoy him that much, then he can initiate and better coordinate timing with you; otherwise use the microwave buddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, all of your reasons for wanting to “track” him sound pretty silly and dramatic to me. You know he gets home within a certain window generally - why wouldn’t you wait for him to eat dinner? Etc etc. Just weird.

I cook real dinners almost every night. Most taste best when just cooked and still hot. And I have young kids I like to feed on the earlier side if possible because they get hangry. Yeah it’s not a dealbreaker- it’s just one of those things that would be convenient.

You could try something like this: Text him to ask if he will be home for dinner. If he doesn’t respond by X time, go ahead and start eating dinner.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn’t give a shit what her husband thinks and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks either. Despite the consensus that it’s invasive and/or unnecessary she’s gonna remain steadfast in her stance and whine til she gets her way.

My condolences to her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't turn on any tracking. It ends up showing up too many places and I don't need every app and site knowing where I am.

I am also big on privacy.

I also mostly use incognito for browsing. Again, just adds a slight more privacy and maybe reduces tracking / sharing of every page I visit.

I hate tracking for similar reasons. We are giving up a lot of our privacy to external entities on a daily basis in order to get convenience.
OP - is your husband in IT? people in IT are often more aware of the implications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, all of your reasons for wanting to “track” him sound pretty silly and dramatic to me. You know he gets home within a certain window generally - why wouldn’t you wait for him to eat dinner? Etc etc. Just weird.

I cook real dinners almost every night. Most taste best when just cooked and still hot. And I have young kids I like to feed on the earlier side if possible because they get hangry. Yeah it’s not a dealbreaker- it’s just one of those things that would be convenient.

Ok, so he can’t call you on the way home and you start dinner then? That’s a pretty lame excuse for wanting to track.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see how knowing where he is every second of the day helps you guys respond to texts better. So if one of you is out with the kids and doesn’t hear a text, what? Will you look up his location and drive over there to ask the question?

If he doesn’t let you know when he’ll be home for dinner, just cook dinner when it’s convenient for you. Stop worrying that he won’t enjoy the meal as much because it’s not pipping hot. He clearly doesn’t GAF about the temperature of his food, you shouldn’t either.

I thought it was bad enough that some couples had such bad anxiety that they needed to be in contact 24/7. Never thought it would come to the point where couples are so anxious they need to track each others’ whereabouts 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Wanting to track so you know when to start dinner is a silly excuse, OP. Humans have lived for many decades in modern society with other means of knowing when to start dinner— like a call or text before he leaves work.

Sounds like you don’t trust him. And his behavior— the paranoia about hiding his browsing habits; his willingness to track you but not vice versa— indicates he is hiding something or at least not being transparent.

[Anonymous]

OMG OP. I would never allow tracking to be turned on (and I have never cheated on anyone). I am getting anxious just reading your posts. Your poor DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is he tracking you? Sounds like double standards. If you can’t trust him than you shouldn’t be with him, but nobody should need to track anyone.

It’s not a double standard. She wants to be tracked. His standard is to let everyone do what they want. I’m sure he wouldn’t mind if she turned off tracking, but she’s concerned about collapsing while jogging or something. I guess she thinks no one would find her if the husband can’t track her...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband (married nearly 20 years) refused. Yes, he was cheating.

My kids and I track each other - they're teens now, and they are used to it. It helps me know when they are on the bus, home from school, when soccer is done and they are at the ice cream shop, etc etc.

They track me home from work and demand treats as I drive by the supermarket. This is the new world, OP, and your husband sounds really shady. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, all of your reasons for wanting to “track” him sound pretty silly and dramatic to me. You know he gets home within a certain window generally - why wouldn’t you wait for him to eat dinner? Etc etc. Just weird.

I cook real dinners almost every night. Most taste best when just cooked and still hot. And I have young kids I like to feed on the earlier side if possible because they get hangry. Yeah it’s not a dealbreaker- it’s just one of those things that would be convenient.

This is silly. So you wait to see if he's left the office in the tracker before starting to cook? Stop it. If the lukewarm meals start to annoy him that much, then he can initiate and better coordinate timing with you; otherwise use the microwave buddy.

Lady, use a microwave. Your behavior is going to drive him away. I would not blame him. People need some free time and space. Being tracked is being treated like a child. I am a woman and would not put up with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t give a shit what her husband thinks and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks either. Despite the consensus that it’s invasive and/or unnecessary she’s gonna remain steadfast in her stance and whine til she gets her way.

My condolences to her husband.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, all of your reasons for wanting to “track” him sound pretty silly and dramatic to me. You know he gets home within a certain window generally - why wouldn’t you wait for him to eat dinner? Etc etc. Just weird.

I cook real dinners almost every night. Most taste best when just cooked and still hot. And I have young kids I like to feed on the earlier side if possible because they get hangry. Yeah it’s not a dealbreaker- it’s just one of those things that would be convenient.

This is silly. So you wait to see if he's left the office in the tracker before starting to cook? Stop it. If the lukewarm meals start to annoy him that much, then he can initiate and better coordinate timing with you; otherwise use the microwave buddy.

Lady, use a microwave. Your behavior is going to drive him away. I would not blame him. People need some free time and space. Being tracked is being treated like a child. I am a woman and would not put up with it.

+1

It's creepy af behavior. Awful.