DH won’t let me track his Phone

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

and I check his locations so I can make sure his martini is ready when he walks in the door and do not interrupt his conference call. See the difference? You seem paranoid and dim.

I see. You're a surrendered wife, with no money of her own, so you're petrified that he'll cheat on you and leave you for another woman, rendering you destitute. Hence, you track. Who's paranoid now, Donna Reed?

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

and I check his locations so I can make sure his martini is ready when he walks in the door and do not interrupt his conference call. See the difference? You seem paranoid and dim.

I see. You're a surrendered wife, with no money of her own, so you're petrified that he'll cheat on you and leave you for another woman, rendering you destitute. Hence, you track. Who's paranoid now, Donna Reed?

I don't agree with pp. She can make him his drink or dinner when he gets in the door. Or have him text her. Now with OP's DH there's a red flag. I would check up on him and periodically since he's a one way train. Anyone can track another person if they want, there's no way to prevent it. If there are red flags I'm going to check up on my spouse. Mainly where they wouldn't know.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

and I check his locations so I can make sure his martini is ready when he walks in the door and do not interrupt his conference call. See the difference? You seem paranoid and dim.

I see. You're a surrendered wife, with no money of her own, so you're petrified that he'll cheat on you and leave you for another woman, rendering you destitute. Hence, you track. Who's paranoid now, Donna Reed?

Even if that's pps real reason she'll get 50% of the assets and half the 401k so not to worry. At this point he'll turn his phone on/off although she'll figure that out. And that will lead to a PI or gps, so if someone wants to see what their spouse does before, during, and after work it's quite easy.

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OP - you are showing a real lack of respect for your spouse.

He is entitled to a different opinion. Shame on you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you are showing a real lack of respect for your spouse.

He is entitled to a different opinion. Shame on you.

Sounds like you didn't even read the first post. DH had no problem with tracking OP but won't let OP track DH. Also, DH's reason for not being wanted to be track is because he doesn't want companies to know where he is--but surprise surprise it's unavoidable, might as well not use a smart phone or cell phone nonetheless.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you are showing a real lack of respect for your spouse.

He is entitled to a different opinion. Shame on you.

Sounds like you didn't even read the first post. DH had no problem with tracking OP but won't let OP track DH. Also, DH's reason for not being wanted to be track is because he doesn't want companies to know where he is--but surprise surprise it's unavoidable, might as well not use a smart phone or cell phone nonetheless.

you need to re-read the first post. DH doesn't care that OP is willing to be tracked herself. He minds that OP wants to track him. Pretty big difference than how you have portrayed it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you are showing a real lack of respect for your spouse.

He is entitled to a different opinion. Shame on you.

Sounds like you didn't even read the first post. DH had no problem with tracking OP but won't let OP track DH. Also, DH's reason for not being wanted to be track is because he doesn't want companies to know where he is--but surprise surprise it's unavoidable, might as well not use a smart phone or cell phone nonetheless.

you need to re-read the first post. DH doesn't care that OP is willing to be tracked herself. He minds that OP wants to track him. Pretty big difference than how you have portrayed it.

Yes that's what makes me suspicious. Otherwise there's no need to constantly monitor someone. If somethings fishy I'll get to the bottom of it, and so should OP but in a stealthy way.

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I love the tracking. It’s convenient, and it would annoy me and make me suspicious if my husband didn’t think so too.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

and I check his locations so I can make sure his martini is ready when he walks in the door and do not interrupt his conference call. See the difference? You seem paranoid and dim.

I see. You're a surrendered wife, with no money of her own, so you're petrified that he'll cheat on you and leave you for another woman, rendering you destitute. Hence, you track. Who's paranoid now, Donna Reed?

I don't agree with pp. She can make him his drink or dinner when he gets in the door. Or have him text her. Now with OP's DH there's a red flag. I would check up on him and periodically since he's a one way train. Anyone can track another person if they want, there's no way to prevent it. If there are red flags I'm going to check up on my spouse. Mainly where they wouldn't know.

What red flag? Simply the fact that he doesn't want to be tracked is a red flag? Are you one of those "if you have nothing to hide you won't object to being tracked" folks? Some of us object to it on principle.

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Anonymous wrote:I am with your dh. He gave an acceptable reason. Accept it and consider who is tracking you.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously something wrong with somebody that has to hide their whereabouts from a spouse.

Get a tile and put it in his car.

Why not then put a keylogger on his computer, and a hidden camera in your bedroom? Inject him with sodium pentothal and grill him on everything? Where does it end? Either you trust or you don't. If you don't, your marriage is already over in spirit. If you secretly take drastic measures, and he finds out, it might well be over legally as well. I know I would divorce over this.

If you trust your spouse you will trust they are not tracking your every move. If you can’t trust them your marriage is already over.

I’d divorce your paranoid batshit crazy self.

+1 I would not put up with this behavior and personally I would divorce over it. I would be more bothered by constantly being monitored than a spouse cheating on me. I would not necessarily divorce over cheating but I would divorce over someone needing to control me and knowing my whereabouts all of the time. I am a grown woman. Not a child. People have no freedom or privacy anymore. If I am out at the gym, mall or whatever, no one needs to know when I get there and when I leave. The idea of being accessible to anyone 24-7 made me delay getting a cell phone in the early 2000s. Just being able to be called on my own time alone bothered me. Now it is out of control. I do not share my location with anyone and do not like to be bothered out of the house unless it is an emergency. This invasiveness today is ridiculous.

Do you think you are a normal, middle-of-the-road sane person?

New poster and I totally agree with the PP and also delayed getting a phone when they came out for the same reason. And I see no difference between being tracked by location vs having a key logger installed to track what I do on line. It's fine if other couples feel differently, not my marriage

That is insane to say your spouse knowing you are at the mall and logging every keystroke is the same.

It's also bizarre that you don't want your spouse to know you are at the mall, do you have a shopping addiction?

If he asks where I've been, I will tell him. I will not permit technology to play Big Brother in my marriage. See the difference?

No. Why is he asking you where you have been, that is very invasive. Doesn't he trust you, does he track your every move.

See how ridiculous that sounds. Just because the find a friend is on your phones does not mean they are tracking your every move. If you are married to somebody that would track your every move, you have more problems than your iphone.

He is asking about my day, because he loves me and is interested in my life. He asks "what did you do today?", not "where were you", and then I mention where I went and what I did. See the difference? You seem a little dim.

and I check his locations so I can make sure his martini is ready when he walks in the door and do not interrupt his conference call. See the difference? You seem paranoid and dim.

I see. You're a surrendered wife, with no money of her own, so you're petrified that he'll cheat on you and leave you for another woman, rendering you destitute. Hence, you track. Who's paranoid now, Donna Reed?

I don't agree with pp. She can make him his drink or dinner when he gets in the door. Or have him text her. Now with OP's DH there's a red flag. I would check up on him and periodically since he's a one way train. Anyone can track another person if they want, there's no way to prevent it. If there are red flags I'm going to check up on my spouse. Mainly where they wouldn't know.

What red flag? Simply the fact that he doesn't want to be tracked is a red flag? Are you one of those "if you have nothing to hide you won't object to being tracked" folks? Some of us object to it on principle.

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Disagree with some of the posters. My husband and I can find each other anytime. We have nothing to hide. I’d be somewhat concerned that he doesn’t want to be tracked. What’s the big deal?

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Anonymous wrote:Disagree with some of the posters. My husband and I can find each other anytime. We have nothing to hide. I’d be somewhat concerned that he doesn’t want to be tracked. What’s the big deal?

lol why do you need to know where he is at all times? That's bizarre. DH and I don't track each other. We communicate verbally, that's more than enough for us both.

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Anonymous wrote:Disagree with some of the posters. My husband and I can find each other anytime. We have nothing to hide. I’d be somewhat concerned that he doesn’t want to be tracked. What’s the big deal?

lol why do you need to know where he is at all times? That's bizarre. DH and I don't track each other. We communicate verbally, that's more than enough for us both.

The point is that it’s not a big deal. No one has time to sit there and track anyone constantly but it’s not a big deal to give each other access to location. I guess we have nothing to hide and so don’t care.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife tracks me. I just turn off my phone when I do not want to be tracked.

Yep forget the phone. Let him think you're monitoring his phone OP. Stop bringing it up, but buy a decent gps with a magnet. Put it under his car. If someone steals the car you'll know where it is - another plus.

That shows how little you know about this technology. If you want that GPS to report location to you, you have to subscribe to a monthly cellular data plan. Then it will work for as long as the batteries last, maybe a whole week. Unless you hard wire it back to the car battery. Or, you can attach the GPS, let it capture and store the data for your later retrieval. Those are your choices.