Tell me your reasons for not allowing sleepovers

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize my 3 sons were going to be sexually molesting all your girls at sleepovers. Seems like it is a nightly offense her in the DC Metro area.

You parents are beyond creepy. I feel scared for anyone with boys.

Hello the equivalent of Brett Kavanaugh's parents...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Thank you!

These anxiety ridden Mommies destroying their kid's lives one neurotic episode at a time.

They can't walk to the bus stop alone.
They can't cross a street.
Go to the park - alone? Never!
Sleepovers? A complete travesty waiting to happen.

It’s called parenting. Try it.

I do a lot of hiring...anxiety ridden moms have no idea how much damage they have done to their adult kids. That's what they are adult kids. It's sad to see how much hand holding they need because mommy never let them out to play alone. I have such fond memories of riding my bike around all day in the summer with my friends. Exploring nature, etc. It was so much fun. I had rules to follow, like check in every two hours, always be home when the lights come on, etc. What you are robbing from your kids is a travesty.

I have one question that I ask potential new employees....when did you learn to ride a bicycle? It is so sad that 5 out of 10 have never learned because I quote, "Mom didn't like me being out on my bike alone and she didn't ride a bike." I don't hire these kids....

You sound pretty obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

One of dd’s best friends since K has never been allowed to have or attend a sleepover. The girls are in 5th grade now and her dad is finally allowing her to stay over for our dd’s 10th birthday. He is the one who forbids them, her mom says she doesn’t fully understand or agree with his reasons, but it’s something she has chosen to go along with for years. Not sure if she finally put her foot down or he finally relented this time, but either way dd is ecstatic that her friend can come!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Thank you!

These anxiety ridden Mommies destroying their kid's lives one neurotic episode at a time.

They can't walk to the bus stop alone.
They can't cross a street.
Go to the park - alone? Never!
Sleepovers? A complete travesty waiting to happen.

It’s called parenting. Try it.

I do a lot of hiring...anxiety ridden moms have no idea how much damage they have done to their adult kids. That's what they are adult kids. It's sad to see how much hand holding they need because mommy never let them out to play alone. I have such fond memories of riding my bike around all day in the summer with my friends. Exploring nature, etc. It was so much fun. I had rules to follow, like check in every two hours, always be home when the lights come on, etc. What you are robbing from your kids is a travesty.

I have one question that I ask potential new employees....when did you learn to ride a bicycle? It is so sad that 5 out of 10 have never learned because I quote, "Mom didn't like me being out on my bike alone and she didn't ride a bike." I don't hire these kids....

You base your hiring decisions on someone’s athletic abilities from childhood? Instead of educational experience, GPA, and character? That’s totally messed up! What kind of company do you run?

Not the PP, but probably one with employees with social skills, independent decision making skills, determination, and grit. A GPA means nothing.

A high GPA from a good college means the kid works hard, has determination, and is smart. He/she can learn easily, work in a group, think, and make deadliness. You can determine social skilss from the interview. You’re an idiot.

[Anonymous]

My wife was molested and raped as a kid. One of the incidents happened at a sleepover. Another happened kind of fast at a playdate where her friend's older brother made her go down on him. I've dated a number of women who've shared horrific stories of things that happened to them. I was totally on board when my wife said that she didn't want any playdates or sleepovers. I know the statistics, but it's not a risk I'm willing to take.

We weren't graphic, but we explained to our daughter that some people do things to kids, and it would be safer to wait until she was in high school. She's nine now. She's had the more graphic sex talk, and we went a little more detailed into what rape and molestation were. She connected the dots with playdates and being mindful of strangers.

[Anonymous]

I may be an outlier but I don’t have great memories of sleepovers really. There was always gossip, playing tricks on the first one to fall asleep, basically bullying and then as we got older it just seemed to center around sneaking other parents alcohol or cigarettes. There were some fun times in the mix, but my kids can live without it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was molested and raped as a kid. One of the incidents happened at a sleepover. Another happened kind of fast at a playdate where her friend's older brother made her go down on him. I've dated a number of women who've shared horrific stories of things that happened to them. I was totally on board when my wife said that she didn't want any playdates or sleepovers. I know the statistics, but it's not a risk I'm willing to take.

We weren't graphic, but we explained to our daughter that some people do things to kids, and it would be safer to wait until she was in high school. She's nine now. She's had the more graphic sex talk, and we went a little more detailed into what rape and molestation were. She connected the dots with playdates and being mindful of strangers.

I am so sorry these things happened to your wife. We are pretty strict about no cleepovers, too, for reasons similar to yours. People who are dismissive about these possibilities are truly lucky they have never experienced them.

[Anonymous]

My mother never allow me to have sleep over until I finish high school ( but allow my friends to sleep over at my house)
I turned out normal.

I have A son and no he will not be sleep over at anyone’s house. His friends are welcome to our house to have sleep over. I do not trust anyone and do not want to allow any chance for horrible things to happen to my son. Call me crazy if you want but I don’t care

[Anonymous]

I don't like it when screaming kids wake me up at 5 a.m. on a Sunday morning. If your kid is an early riser like that, there is no second sleepover, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Not to hijack the post but for those with kids who still wet the bed would you still allow them go on a sleepover? For fear of my son being made fun of, I don't allow him to until he stops and he is almost 8.

[Anonymous]

I love the “we are a safe family and kids can sleep here” parents. But they forbid their kids from going anywhere or sleeping over anyone else’s house. LOL

Great values to teach your kids. People must trust you, but you can not trust anyone else in your life.

[Anonymous]

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My mother never allow me to have sleep over until I finish high school ( but allow my friends to sleep over at my house)
I turned out normal.

I have A son and no he will not be sleep over at anyone’s house. His friends are welcome to our house to have sleep over. I do not trust anyone and do not want to allow any chance for horrible things to happen to my son. Call me crazy if you want but I don’t care

Until you finished high school????

You were already an adult. Weren’t you in college?

[Anonymous]

we hosted once to help someone out. The child was up all night missing her mom. We have 3 kids and don't get enough sleep as it is - it will be a long while before we do that again.
My children don't go to sleepovers because they've only been invited to group parties and I have serious concerns about a mean girl in the group. It's one thing to do a 2hr party, but overnight is long enough for things to really take off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife was molested and raped as a kid. One of the incidents happened at a sleepover. Another happened kind of fast at a playdate where her friend's older brother made her go down on him. I've dated a number of women who've shared horrific stories of things that happened to them. I was totally on board when my wife said that she didn't want any playdates or sleepovers. I know the statistics, but it's not a risk I'm willing to take.

We weren't graphic, but we explained to our daughter that some people do things to kids, and it would be safer to wait until she was in high school. She's nine now. She's had the more graphic sex talk, and we went a little more detailed into what rape and molestation were. She connected the dots with playdates and being mindful of strangers.

I am so sorry these things happened to your wife. We are pretty strict about no cleepovers, too, for reasons similar to yours. People who are dismissive about these possibilities are truly lucky they have never experienced them.

I was molested at a sleepover, as well as while just hanging out at a friend's home during the day, and I have spent many years in therapy so I do not let my past painful experiences inhibit my children from partaking in normal, fun, and developmentally appropriate and important childhood experiences like sleepovers and playdates. It is not that I am dismissive of these experiences - it's that I take steps so that my own anxieties don't get passed on to my children. It would be selfish and incredibly damaging to my children of me to do otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love the “we are a safe family and kids can sleep here” parents. But they forbid their kids from going anywhere or sleeping over anyone else’s house. LOL

Great values to teach your kids. People must trust you, but you can not trust anyone else in your life.

It’s not so much that they think other people *must* trust them as it is that (as this thread proves) most people are very trusting. If I’m not comfortable having my kid sleep at your house, but you’re totally fine with your kid sleeping at my house, then guess who’s hosting the sleepovers? You’re free to say no to your kid, and I’ll understand and not bad mouth you because I’d do the same.