Tell me your reasons for not allowing sleepovers

[Anonymous]

As a person not growing up here, I really don’t understand the sleepover thing. In my home country, nobody does sleepover and we all turned out ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love the “we are a safe family and kids can sleep here” parents. But they forbid their kids from going anywhere or sleeping over anyone else’s house. LOL

Great values to teach your kids. People must trust you, but you can not trust anyone else in your life.

We had something really bad happen that taught me not to trust anyone outside family. It greatly impacted my child in ways you could never understand. I used to be trustful, till the unthinkable happened. Its easy to dismiss what goes in in the world, but there are so many bad things that are either justified by others or ignored. My child has a hard enough life without anything worse happening again.

[Anonymous]

Severe allergies. Everyone's house is dirty, and people allow their pets to trample all over the place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to hijack the post but for those with kids who still wet the bed would you still allow them go on a sleepover? For fear of my son being made fun of, I don't allow him to until he stops and he is almost 8.

My nephew used to wet the bed and he would wear a pull-up at night, at sleep overs he would just bring the pull-up and put it on before bed. Obviously he probably didn’t tell the other kids. He was still doing this at age 11. I think he grew out of it by age 13.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I may be an outlier but I don’t have great memories of sleepovers really. There was always gossip, playing tricks on the first one to fall asleep, basically bullying and then as we got older it just seemed to center around sneaking other parents alcohol or cigarettes. There were some fun times in the mix, but my kids can live without it.

Same. Sleepovers with just 1 friend were fun but group parties usually involved bullying and getting into trouble.

[Anonymous]

MCPS with 7 and 9 year old boys. One of my 2 boys has doing sleepovers since the end of grade 1. He has a great group of friends and I’m fine with him sleeping at his friends’ houses. His friends often sleep here too. I say no a lot because he just doesn’t sleep enough. Once a month or so is fine. My other boy hasn’t expressed interest in sleepovers yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Severe allergies. Everyone's house is dirty, and people allow their pets to trample all over the place.

I find this post fascinating. You must have an insanely clean house. And hate dogs.

A kid with severe allergies slept over here once. I watched a you tube about epi pens before I went to bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Severe allergies. Everyone's house is dirty, and people allow their pets to trample all over the place.

I find this post fascinating. You must have an insanely clean house. And hate dogs.

A kid with severe allergies slept over here once. I watched a you tube about epi pens before I went to bed.

New poster here. You should have “watched” a you tube video prior to the kid coming over.

[Anonymous]

As one PP said, MICHAEL GARDNER. Google it.

Many PPs said they allow sleepovers if they know the parents well. The parents of the kids Gardner molested knew him and his family well, that didn't prevent him from molesting his daughter's friends at her sleepover.

Some of his friends in the community defended him relentlessly even though he ended up sentenced to 20 years in prison as a result of his guilt. And then there is the further travesty of him trying to put out a hit on the kid victims from jail so they couldn't testify.

Yes it's unlikely to happen to your kid. But no, you won't know who is likely to do it just because you think you know them well.

[Anonymous]

I was never allowed to do sleepovers. My husband wasn’t allowed either. So we have no problem with restrictions on this. We don’t host because we have firearms, and we know that’s an issue for many families in our social circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know allow sleepovers unless I know the parents. I think that's a reasonable rule.

What do you mean until you know them? You have to be friends with all of your kid's friends parents. You think that is attainable in ES, MS, and HS?

And what do you think you are preventing by "knowing" them. Just curious?

You really let your kids spend the night at complete strangers' houses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize my 3 sons were going to be sexually molesting all your girls at sleepovers. Seems like it is a nightly offense her in the DC Metro area.

You parents are beyond creepy. I feel scared for anyone with boys.

#boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy Hell. Not only do we have all these excuses about why kids can't go to sleepovers, but we are starting a new list of why kids can't ride a bike.

You parents listing all of these reasons? Just wow.

They aren't china. You babying them with every excuse in the world is not going to help them. I thought all the studies showing the damaging mental damaging to helicoptering was going to change the mindset of current parents of young kids. Whoa.

Since when is riding a bike a life skill?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy Hell. Not only do we have all these excuses about why kids can't go to sleepovers, but we are starting a new list of why kids can't ride a bike.

You parents listing all of these reasons? Just wow.

They aren't china. You babying them with every excuse in the world is not going to help them. I thought all the studies showing the damaging mental damaging to helicoptering was going to change the mindset of current parents of young kids. Whoa.

Since when is riding a bike a life skill?

Apparently it’s now necessary to explain when you learned to ride for job interviews, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to hijack the post but for those with kids who still wet the bed would you still allow them go on a sleepover? For fear of my son being made fun of, I don't allow him to until he stops and he is almost 8.

My nephew used to wet the bed and he would wear a pull-up at night, at sleep overs he would just bring the pull-up and put it on before bed. Obviously he probably didn’t tell the other kids. He was still doing this at age 11. I think he grew out of it by age 13.

We use pull ups here too. He has been asked a few times and would love to go but doesn't want anyone to find out.