Tell me your reasons for not allowing sleepovers

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

I don't allow sleepovers. I was sexually abused when I was 5 by a "trusted adult", a nice, very born again Christian man, church leader. In my experience I've never been shot at, or in an accident, but I was abused. It's much more common than what you think.

Sorry this happened, but how what does this have anything to do with letting a 10 year old so sleep over a friend's house?

Do your kid's go to church, school, play sports, or have activities. Aren't there risks in all of those things too. The Church and schools especially.

I relate my experience to sleepovers because it was in an intimate home environment where my abuse occurred. It can happen rather quickly so I do worry about who is in the house and what can happen. I know there are risks in life but this is a risk I can control and why I do not let my kids have sleepovers. Yes my kids play sports, they’re active they’re involved but it’s always in a large group with several adults supervising. As to church, we don’t go and kids are not alone with an adult at schools.

(And while my avoidance to this is extreme, yes there are risks in life but don’t we all do things in our life to avoid risks? Whether dietary, Vehicular, or in my case, sleepovers, I think as parents we all avoid risk for our kids based on our own experiences in one way or another.)

At a good church, kids shouldn’t be alone with an adult either. Ours is very particular about it. I’m sorry that happened to you.

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No sleep overs because they are a pia and ruin the next day(s).

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sleep?

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Anonymous wrote:More children are sexually abused by COACHES & FAMILY MEMBERS than at sleepovers. And I see a billion soccer threads on this sight. No one is stopping their child from playing sports or seeing family.

They estimate 33-50% of girls abused are perpetrated by FAMILY MEMBERS. It is known that molesters gravitate towards jobs where they work with children like priests or coaches.

STOP THE FEAR MONGERING WITH SLEEPOVERS.

Why do you care so much? It doesn’t impact you at all if someone chooses not do sleepovers. You’re shrieking into the void about something that has zero effect on you.

This is what I am wondering, as well. Why do you all care if I don’t let my kids sleep at your house? My kids are not suffering - they had a double sleepover this weekend. They had friends over Friday, and then slept over at another friend’s house last night. One set of people we have known for six years, the others I went to college with the mom (I’ve known her for 25 years, and her husband for 12). Why does it bother you that I won’t let my kid sleep at your house and I don’t even know you?

I don't care about where your children are sleeping. I do care that people are misinformed about sexual abuse.

Here’s the thing - that’s not all people are worried about.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy Hell. Not only do we have all these excuses about why kids can't go to sleepovers, but we are starting a new list of why kids can't ride a bike.

You parents listing all of these reasons? Just wow.

They aren't china. You babying them with every excuse in the world is not going to help them. I thought all the studies showing the damaging mental damaging to helicoptering was going to change the mindset of current parents of young kids. Whoa.

Since when is riding a bike a life skill?

Apparently it’s now necessary to explain when you learned to ride for job interviews, too?

Again, not a life skill! Hell, I think swimming is a life skill, but I don't expect everyone to know how to swim either! As I tell my children -- different families have different rules; different families have different priorities.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy Hell. Not only do we have all these excuses about why kids can't go to sleepovers, but we are starting a new list of why kids can't ride a bike.

You parents listing all of these reasons? Just wow.

They aren't china. You babying them with every excuse in the world is not going to help them. I thought all the studies showing the damaging mental damaging to helicoptering was going to change the mindset of current parents of young kids. Whoa.

Since when is riding a bike a life skill?

Apparently it’s now necessary to explain when you learned to ride for job interviews, too?

Again, not a life skill! Hell, I think swimming is a life skill, but I don't expect everyone to know how to swim either! As I tell my children -- different families have different rules; different families have different priorities.

What if the candidate can swim, but not ride a bike...do they have a shot at your asinine company?!

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

This is simply un true. One in four girls is sexually abused before the age of 18. I know of two little girls abused recently, both by teenage boys in a home where they were sleeping over. (separate cases, different boys...) All of our children are much more likely to be sexually abused, generally by someone they know, than they are to be shot or killed Ina a car accident.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people care so much about this. Raise your kids as you see fit and give other people the space to do the same. There are a number of different ways for kids to have fun - if a sleepover isn't on option for a particular family, it doesn't mean that their children have no fun at all.

This.

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Are sleepovers mostly an American thing? I don’t have any memories anyone having them where I’m from.

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Anonymous wrote:Are sleepovers mostly an American thing? I don’t have any memories anyone having them where I’m from.

We also didn't have them but because we had plenty of free time to play together without any adult supervision. We also were able to sleep in a dent summer time without parents. Sleepovers are for kids to spend time together.