Tell me your reasons for not allowing sleepovers

[Anonymous]

My DD is in 4th and has had a few sleepover with my best friends kids and the next door neighbors whose kids are the same age. Outside of this my DD hasn’t really asked to attend sleepover or to have anyone over for one. I know they will start to happen for frequently as DD gets older, especially for birthdays. My DH work has him dealing with criminals and often times sex offenders. To him it is nonnegotiable to allow our kids to attend classmates slumber parties. I’m not entire sold on allowing them with families we don’t know, but feel there can be some flexibility depending on the slumber party size and familiarly with the parents and other siblings. How have other families that don’t allow their kids to attend handle turning invites down etc or explaining to their kid?

[Anonymous]

I am honest. Like your husband, I've seen too many bad things and in less we know you well and have been in your home, no.

[Anonymous]

Guns in homes that aren’t secure

(That’s the main one for me.)

Also...
Potential Access to alcohol/drugs
Unlimited/unmonitored screen time
Creepy people/others in the household I don’t know
Different values

[Anonymous]

Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

+1. Unless you have some specific reason to fear this parade of horribles, it is really crazy to prevent your kid from sleeping over because of your paranoia.

[Anonymous]

My reason is the kids don't sleep. Can't deal with it the next day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Yes, but it happens and it's something you can prevent. Like OP, I allow my children to sleep over with certain friends. Others, no. I don't know enough about the families of random friends at school to allow my kids to sleep over. They will be fine. Guns, drugs, random people in the house, unmonitored screen time, etc. People do weird sh!t - that they don't think is weird. Others have people that they never tell you about in and out during the sleepover. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Yes, but it happens and it's something you can prevent. Like OP, I allow my children to sleep over with certain friends. Others, no. I don't know enough about the families of random friends at school to allow my kids to sleep over. They will be fine. Guns, drugs, random people in the house, unmonitored screen time, etc. People do weird sh!t - that they don't think is weird. Others have people that they never tell you about in and out during the sleepover. No thanks.

People die in car crashes. You can prevent that by never driving. Do you do that?

[Anonymous]

Kids don't sleep and Michael Gardner. He's not the only normal-looking child abuser out there.

[Anonymous]

I didn't allow my DD to sleep over at the houses of two kids:

1. The girl was MEAN. She was crafty and lied to her parents and jerked them around and seemed the type to encourage my kid to jump off a roof.

2. Single mother. She had an older son severely autistic and her daughter was quite slow. I think the mother was a former junkie who was also slow (possibly from drugs but possibly not). I could see DD calling me to say the house was on fire and they were all asking her what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Thank you!

These anxiety ridden Mommies destroying their kid's lives one neurotic episode at a time.

They can't walk to the bus stop alone.
They can't cross a street.
Go to the park - alone? Never!
Sleepovers? A complete travesty waiting to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Thank you!

These anxiety ridden Mommies destroying their kid's lives one neurotic episode at a time.

They can't walk to the bus stop alone.
They can't cross a street.
Go to the park - alone? Never!
Sleepovers? A complete travesty waiting to happen.

But but! My precious might get extra "screens" time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Thank you!

These anxiety ridden Mommies destroying their kid's lives one neurotic episode at a time.

They can't walk to the bus stop alone.
They can't cross a street.
Go to the park - alone? Never!
Sleepovers? A complete travesty waiting to happen.

But but! My precious might get extra "screens" time

It's a travesty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are more likely to get shot in a school shooting or get into a car accident driving with you, than something happen to them at a sleepover.

Fear mongering at it's finest.

Thank you!

These anxiety ridden Mommies destroying their kid's lives one neurotic episode at a time.

They can't walk to the bus stop alone.
They can't cross a street.
Go to the park - alone? Never!
Sleepovers? A complete travesty waiting to happen.

It’s called parenting. Try it.

[Anonymous]

As long as you know the family and the kid, I don't see why you wouldn't allow it. I'm less comfortable with large-group sleepovers than one-on-one, which I generally think are fine. I agree with the PP that said the sleep deprivation of the kid and cranky attitude the next day make sleepovers unappealing to me, but I don't disallow them except when we have other things going on that will be severely impacted by my kid being super tired. Also, I do limit how often.