Coming to terms with paying so much for an unmotivated student who hates college?
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+4 As long as he doesn't need to get into graduate school his GPA won't matter too much. And I love the Bush quote above! There is nothing like the pot calling the kettle black to make a point. |
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George Bush Jr’s advice to 2.0 students:
https://youtu.be/FcSa_S8tlNc |
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Easy major at a top 100 big state u is most likely communications, sociology or marketing. |
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Good advice for regular Joes! Grades don’t matter... when you’re born into American aristocracy and attend most elite boarding school, most elite college and most elite business college. |
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Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and Zuckerberg were drop outs not born to American aristocracy. Jobs background was part Syrian, a refugee country. |
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Some other jobs for college grads
1. House painters 2. Jobs in the trades 3. Buy a franchise like 2 men and a truck but would still need some parents money 4. Entry level govt jobs, these are generally pretty low pay and typically don't require college but you can move up in the system. *****I know male college grads doing the above mentioned jobs but even they have some hustle. |
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A lot of bartenders have college degrees
But again most of them have some hustle. |
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Most successful sales professionals are pretty internally
driven. |
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| OP you committed to pay for college. Your son is making his own choices. If he isn't super motivated it's all the more important he get that degree. If the school thought he was unworthy they'd be kicking him out. Use a tough love approach and by that I mean the opposite: shower him with love and let him know how much you care about him and his future and keep the dialog open. Encourage or require him to start visiting his career center to start thinking ahead. |
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As long as the checks clear, schools want the cash, and they have systematically lowered rigor and removed requirements (https://edsource.org/2017/cal-state-drops-intermediate-algebra-requirement-allows-other-math-courses/585595), so really, anyone who doesn't physically leave campus can plow through a BA. Most students I see "kicked out" were on financial aid and either stopped attending classes and/or completion percentages or grant/loan limits were exhausted. |
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| OK so the kid will be at a disadvantage without a degree compared to all the other slackers who slouched through. |
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I’m not sure how to make him
more motivated - I was self motivated as a kid. But since he’s passing and working towards a degree I think it’s odd and counterproductive when people suggest pulling him off that track and making him go to community college. I think that risks throwing him off track and he may drift off and never graduate. Don’t give him spending money - that can go towards beer and drugs. Make clear he’s going to have to get a job after college and you will stop bank rolling him. And that you won’t tolerate or bankroll him taking more than four years to graduate. |
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If he's passing and on his way to a degree, I wouldn't pull him out or lay down an ultimatum. He hasn't found his mojo yet. He may be entrepreneurial, creative, or social and hasn't figured that out yet. A regular classroom may be boring for him so he's doing just enough to scratch by.
I do agree that you need to let him know that he's expected to get a job after college--and that he really needs to give some thought to his goals. |
Anonymous
DP. Nice to hear from you, Grayson! Seriously, I'm sure every single one of you has encountered a person like that who's doing just great, thankyouverymuch, despite not lifting a finger in his life. I have relatives like that so I'm speaking from experience. No need to pounce on OP for speaking the truth. |
Anonymous
You sound very envious. Most of us don't care what other people have or do. |