Coming to terms with paying so much for an unmotivated student who hates college?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! Be happy he's still chugging along. A lot of people would be dropping out. What do they call the person with the lowest gpa who graduates? A GRADUATE! Someone like him with lower ambition really needs that degree, so keep supporting him. And you know what? He may end up much happier than someone who is completely driven. Life is long; balance is good.

No guarantee students like this graduate. Anyone can plod along through remedial and 100-level courses, but students like this often sink when 300 and 400-level work just can't be faked anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Do employers not look at colelge GPA during the interview process?

They absolutely do!

When the students go on the career center website to sign up for interviews, emploeyers can set minimum requirements. The most common are major and GPA. The best jobs require a 3.5 then there’s the less competitive jobs with a 3.0 cutoff and then there are the ones with no minimum.

+1. Literally nobody will even see your resume if GPA is below the threshold.

College career centers have this GPA bias built into job search, but if he looks through other venues they won't. Sure, it's BETTER that he has better GPA, more drive etc. But if he doesn't, but is passing, it's better that he finish and get the degree than not.

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I wonder if this OP could update us on her son's progress over the past year?

I found this thread after searching "unmotivated" and OP's son sounds exactly like my 12th grade son. He's awaiting admissions decisions now. We are OK to be full pay, and predict he'll get C's. He's likeable and does just barely enough to get through things. Our two daughters are the exact opposite, but our son has always been this way.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

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Both my H and brother were like this.

H graduated with 4.0 from grad school at 32.

Brother graduated #1 in his law school (at 30)

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In-state public school so you can minimize the cost burden in the very real case that they drop out. Save the difference for grad school, in case they are a late bloomer. Not uncommon with men.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

This is a cope. Wishful thinking. As delusional as using Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates as the typical college dropout success story.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

Selective employers will absolutely ask about college grades and the absence of a GPA on a resume is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

Selective employers will absolutely ask about college grades and the absence of a GPA on a resume is a red flag.

Also a red flag when young persons omit ACT/SAT, college GPA and honors from LinkedIn. Everyone knows why they’re not on there, you’re not conning anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

Selective employers will absolutely ask about college grades and the absence of a GPA on a resume is a red flag.

Also a red flag when young persons omit ACT/SAT, college GPA and honors from LinkedIn. Everyone knows why they’re not on there, you’re not conning anyone.

I think that, for OP's purposes, the C's are just for the purpose of having a college degree. It's better to have C's and get the degree, than to not get the degree. I have a DS like OP's son, and they are not so delusional as to think that they can get some highly competitive job for which top grades are required.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

Selective employers will absolutely ask about college grades and the absence of a GPA on a resume is a red flag.

Also a red flag when young persons omit ACT/SAT, college GPA and honors from LinkedIn. Everyone knows why they’re not on there, you’re not conning anyone.

I told my DC to take her GPA off her resume, because I thought it looked odd.

I have never seen a resume with a GPA on it?

Is this the new norm?

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

Selective employers will absolutely ask about college grades and the absence of a GPA on a resume is a red flag.

Nope!

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Anonymous wrote:What does he like, OP?

College grades only really matter if you are going to grad school. Otherwise, yes, he needs to just cross that finish line. Is there a line of work he likes that he could pursue while he's in school? Internships that sort of thing? Because his next stop is employment. Focus on that.

Agree with this.

Selective employers will absolutely ask about college grades and the absence of a GPA on a resume is a red flag.

Also a red flag when young persons omit ACT/SAT, college GPA and honors from LinkedIn. Everyone knows why they’re not on there, you’re not conning anyone.

I told my DC to take her GPA off her resume, because I thought it looked odd.

I have never seen a resume with a GPA on it?

Is this the new norm?

No it’s weird.

[Anonymous]

If you're going to let him drag to the finish line to have the degree on his resume, make sure he has a useful major and plenty of work and internship experience to have a network when he graduates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're going to let him drag to the finish line to have the degree on his resume, make sure he has a useful major and plenty of work and internship experience to have a network when he graduates.

That will be up to him since he will be an adult by then