Starting to Think I'll Never Meet Anyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would be most compatible with a retired firefighter or retired military, as long they are done having babies. Must love dogs. They need to be gainfully employed.

Perfect example of women with too many demands. She wants the sliver of men who retired from a certain profession, and they have to like dogs, AND they have to have a new career after retirement that keeps them gainfully employed.

How many 50-year old men meet all that criteria? 0.01%? To put it in perspective, just looking at CURRENT law enforcement officer of both genders and all ages, they represent 0.2% of the US population.

They’re at the top of my list because they're great guys. They’re marriages usually didn't work out through no fault of their own. Many of them had kids young, so they're kids are grown and out of the house. They’re usually employable for realtors or contractors or some second career. They’re that rare combination of working class, yet quiet educated professional.

[Anonymous]

I think it's actually wise to not date anyone for a couple of years after a divorce. Everyone needs time to heal after a difficult marriage and divorce...EVERYONE. This is the time you should be taking to heal from your past marriage so you do not bring the negatives into any new relationships. I learned this the hard way. I remarried very quickly and brought all my insecurities with me so now I'm trying to heal while married again...not impossible but certainly not ideal. I actually do think you should give it a rest for a while. It usually happens when we least expect it but are ready. Take time to nourish yourself. If you haven't already, start seeing a counselor so you can work on making sure you don't end up having the same types of relationships as your past. Nobody thinks it will happen that way but it always does if there was no healing. This should be a time of learning and growth for you. You will greatly benefit and so will any future relationships you have!!!

[Anonymous]

I'm 56 and the last thing I want to deal with is a 35-45 YO women with kids at home. Give me a 50+ YO empty nester any day of the week especially if she is well over her divorce and is happy and independent.

[Anonymous]

I think it's actually wise to not date anyone for a couple of years after a divorce. Everyone needs time to heal after a difficult marriage and divorce...EVERYONE.

No, that’s you, not EVERYONE. I don’t understand this mindset. “I got into a car accident on the Beltway and it took me 2 years to drive on the Beltway again without freaking out. If you have an accident, no one should drive on the Beltway for 2 years.” Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40yo divorced dad and I can admit that one of the main reasons I tried to hang in my marriage was fear that women wouldn’t want to date someone my age with kids.

Most of the women I’ve dated are 31-35. When i have dated someone closer to my own age, they are also dating 50+ guys.

Really? No way. I would never have dated a 40 year old divorced dad when I was 31-35. And I am 41 now and the guys I date tend to be 35-45. Oldest was 47.

[Anonymous]

Majority who remarry do so within 4 years of divorce, less if the woman is under 25 and wants kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40yo divorced dad and I can admit that one of the main reasons I tried to hang in my marriage was fear that women wouldn’t want to date someone my age with kids.

Most of the women I’ve dated are 31-35. When i have dated someone closer to my own age, they are also dating 50+ guys.

Really? No way. I would never have dated a 40 year old divorced dad when I was 31-35. And I am 41 now and the guys I date tend to be 35-45. Oldest was 47.

This is PP. I’ve been stunned as well but it’s true. It’s not uncommon to have a woman say she’s not interested because she values spontaneity or doesn’t want to deal with kids, but that’s fine. I’m not trying to date every woman, just looking for one. I’ve been the one to end my last two relationships of six months, both times with attractive 31yos who were great but I moved on when I knew it wouldn’t work long term for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40yo divorced dad and I can admit that one of the main reasons I tried to hang in my marriage was fear that women wouldn’t want to date someone my age with kids.

Most of the women I’ve dated are 31-35. When i have dated someone closer to my own age, they are also dating 50+ guys.

Really? No way. I would never have dated a 40 year old divorced dad when I was 31-35. And I am 41 now and the guys I date tend to be 35-45. Oldest was 47.

This is PP. I’ve been stunned as well but it’s true. It’s not uncommon to have a woman say she’s not interested because she values spontaneity or doesn’t want to deal with kids, but that’s fine. I’m not trying to date every woman, just looking for one. I’ve been the one to end my last two relationships of six months, both times with attractive 31yos who were great but I moved on when I knew it wouldn’t work long term for marriage.

Where do you live?

[Anonymous]

I am 41 female, and I JUST now started being willing to date divorced guys with kids. No way would I have done that in my thirties. Too many guys who don't have that baggage available to date.

[Anonymous]

I think the cases of 35-40 year old women dating 50 year old men speak more to the desperation of single women ages 35-40 than anything else.

[Anonymous]

This is the stupidest thread ever.

People meet each other at all ages. Sometimes they are older, sometimes younger. Sometimes it is a long term relationship, sometimes not.

Good summary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the stupidest thread ever.

People meet each other at all ages. Sometimes they are older, sometimes younger. Sometimes it is a long term relationship, sometimes not.

Good summary?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the stupidest thread ever.

People meet each other at all ages. Sometimes they are older, sometimes younger. Sometimes it is a long term relationship, sometimes not.

Good summary?

Yes thank you. I think this was overtaken by someone me overzealous men and women with cases to make for whatever reason - mostly their insecurity

Divorced dad here who keeps an open mind about meeting women of all ages. Try it some time

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to be in a new serious relationship? You have two teens, you seem to be able to have causal sex, what more is needed at this point? This sounds like a recipe for another failed relationship. Life happens or not, you being desperate to be in a serious relationship is opposite of living your life. Nothing good can come out of forcing something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the cases of 35-40 year old women dating 50 year old men speak more to the desperation of single women ages 35-40 than anything else.

Again, post divorce 50yo professional men very often land the 35-39yo women. I’d love to what see these 25-40yo guys you’re talking about look like.