Starting to Think I'll Never Meet Anyone

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

For most of them it's a brief sugar daddy thing, nothing more, nothing less. I have a 33 year old friend dating a 50 something guy who in six months has taken on at least three great trips. She knows its not going to be a LTR but she's having some fun.

The guy is an idiot.

[Anonymous]

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I would be most compatible with a retired firefighter or retired military, as long they are done having babies. Must love dogs. They need to be gainfully employed.

Perfect example of women with too many demands. She wants the sliver of men who retired from a certain profession, and they have to like dogs, AND they have to have a new career after retirement that keeps them gainfully employed.

How many 50-year old men meet all that criteria? 0.01%? To put it in perspective, just looking at CURRENT law enforcement officer of both genders and all ages, they represent 0.2% of the US population.

They are not just looking for men. They are looking for high hitters. Women can try what men have been doing for centuries. Go to east Europe or the Middle East, Mexico, Central America, South America... There are plenty of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In your early 50s you should be looking for a man around 65. An early 50s man with his act together has a lot of younger options

50s guy dating woman one year older - she’s amazing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

Really? Women that want to stay at home obviously. The 50s are a man's highest earning years. Where can I sign up?

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Women accuse men of ageism when men go younger but they refuse to consider older men themselves. Isn't that being ageist too? -Signed, a woman

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You might not, OP. It happens to a lot of people.

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Have faith it will work out and be willing to put yourself out there and meet people while living life. What activities are you interested in pursuing? Have you reconnected with old friends including the guys? Have someone look over your on line profile to see if it needs updating. I remember two strangers that I struck up conversations and both had divorced with teenagers. One person I met on plane had a spouse that after 20 years wanted a divorce. They divorced and she had a few years of dating that went nowhere. She somehow reconnected with a guy she knew from high school that had divorced (I think they had mutual friends) and now dating and very much in love. The other woman was someone I talked to during a training class. Think she was SAH mom with teenagers and sounded like spouse was the type to say she couldn’t do better and would never leave him. Sounded like a gem. She left, started over and worked her way up in her new career. Owned her on place, was dating a great guy etc.

I guess I’ve seen lots of friends in mid-late 30’s divorce with kids and almost everyone is in a long term relationship. About half of them remarried to guys that have never been married that were no more than 7 years older and likely same age or younger. They met these guys at work, online, and through friends.

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Just be glad you're not 70. Men live shorter lives than women, so the retirement communities are full of women with only a few men around. Some of them have been having outbreaks of STDs (not kidding) since the post-menopausal crowd isnt' worried about pregnancy, and that generation didn't grow up in fear of AIDS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very early 50s divorced mom of two teens. I keep reading all these stories about not giving up, etc., or you become self-defeating, but I really don't think I am going to meet anyone. For casual? Sure. Someone wanting me to be his mistress? Yes, I can find that, and have been asked that, but I won't do it. Younger guys curious about having a relationship for a bit with an older woman until they decide it is time to start a family? Sure. But somebody age appropriate who is actually looking for a girlfriend or other committed relationship? Nope.

I've tried all the dating sites, and there just doesn't seem to be anyone on there looking for anything real. All my friends are either married or in committed relationships and don't know anyone. One friend was going to introduce me to someone who was married to her best friend who passed away, but she was giving the guy time to grieve. While she was being respectful, he took up with his dog walker!

Tons of friends, male and female, say it is 100% going to happen for me, that I'm such a catch, blah, blah, blah. Well, where all all these "catchers"? I sure don't see them. Should I just give up? I'm tired of wanting something that may never happen. My ex had a girlfriend before the divorce was even final, but we've been divorced over two years and there is nothing on my horizon. I've read that stat that most people get remarried within three years of the divorce. I can't even find a serious date! I'm allergic to cats, so please don't suggest I become a cat lady, but I also don't want to hold out hope for something that won't happen if that is actually the truth.

OP - I'm in exactly the same boat, and could've written your post. Maybe we can start a club. I'm discouraged, but I refuse to accept that I'm headed for kaftans and cats.
I won't give up if you don't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women accuse men of ageism when men go younger but they refuse to consider older men themselves. Isn't that being ageist too? -Signed, a woman

And when WILL we start thinking about racism against white people???!!! Get out of town. This is a thread that's been derailed by someone suggesting it's basically hopeless for a 40 something woman to date anyone who is not a senior citizen. When 50 something women overwhelming have the opinion that 50 something men are old, gross, wrinkly disgusting POS who don't deserve the time of day, we can have this conversation. Actually, not only that, but that this is what one is entitled to. We're not there, so this is apples and oranges.

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Anonymous wrote:Women accuse men of ageism when men go younger but they refuse to consider older men themselves. Isn't that being ageist too? -Signed, a woman

And when WILL we start thinking about racism against white people???!!! Get out of town. This is a thread that's been derailed by someone suggesting it's basically hopeless for a 40 something woman to date anyone who is not a senior citizen. When 50 something women overwhelming have the opinion that 50 something men are old, gross, wrinkly disgusting POS who don't deserve the time of day, we can have this conversation. Actually, not only that, but that this is what one is entitled to. We're not there, so this is apples and oranges.

Early 50's. Point stands.

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Anonymous wrote:In your early 50s you should be looking for a man around 65. An early 50s man with his act together has a lot of younger options

As do I, but not for anything long-term. My last boyfriend (of three months) was 22 years my junior. Then he decided it was time to start a family and he reconnected with an old ex for that purpose. I don't get why I have to look at someone 15 years older than me, especially since the ones I see online tend not to have kept themselves up and may well have health problems, while I don't. I almost think I need to move out of the area once my kids are in college. I've also run into the ego thing of guys not wanting me to make more than they do several times. I don't see how dating a retiree would fix that.

A well put together 50 year old man can get a 35 year old easily. I'm sure you are a nice person but you aren't in demand in that demographic. You will have to find an older partner or decide you are ok with casual relationships. That's just life. It ain't fair but it's real

This is complete BS, don't listen to this person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

For most of them it's a brief sugar daddy thing, nothing more, nothing less. I have a 33 year old friend dating a 50 something guy who in six months has taken on at least three great trips. She knows its not going to be a LTR but she's having some fun.

The guy is an idiot.

Why is he an idiot? A bit creepy...yes...but an idiot..no. If he's having a good time and so is she then what's the problem? If anyone is the idiot it's the woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree. My limit is about seven years older and even that feels a little old. When I was early 30s I didn't even want to date guys who were forty.

There are guys on this board who constantly try to convince women:
A) they need to sleep with men right away
And b) they need to date guys way older because guys around their age and a little
Older aren't interested.

I have zero friends who are willing to date guys fifteen years older or even ten years older.

+ I’m turning 35 this year and the thought of dating a 50 year old turns my stomach. I don’t really care for men over 40 but I’ll go early 40s. Most men I’ve dated have been 30 something and some were a little younger.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree. My limit is about seven years older and even that feels a little old. When I was early 30s I didn't even want to date guys who were forty.

There are guys on this board who constantly try to convince women:
A) they need to sleep with men right away
And b) they need to date guys way older because guys around their age and a little
Older aren't interested.

I have zero friends who are willing to date guys fifteen years older or even ten years older.

This is my concern. I am 48, woman, never married no kids, career. No cats. I am being told that I can only find a man 15+ older.

I will move back to my home town in the midwest and date a high school friend, plenty of whom are my age and single.

In the midwest, huge age gaps are very uncommon. Once they have kids I have plenty of men 3 and 5 years younger who I am compatible with. I don't care about a guy's wallet.

Age gap relationships especially for 2nd marriages have a greater chance of divorce. How stupid are these men in their 60s who don't want women their own age?

I don't know that most men would believe this.

I would be most compatible with a retired firefighter or retired military, as long they are done having babies. Must love dogs. They need to be gainfully employed.

Is the person saying not interested in a guy's wallet the same person saying the above? If yes, what about retired firefighter and military do you like? Are you assuming they are more fit or something? I'm a woman, but if you are the same poster for both replies, that is a lot of expectations. Wouldn't a retired F or M already have a pension? Plus you expect them to be employed now on top of that? Hmm... unless the second post was written as a joke by someone new, the first post and the second post seems inconsistent.