Starting to Think I'll Never Meet Anyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I don't know what a 50yo man looks like in your set, but I am a 50yo man and I find I click very well with women from 35 on up. Reasonably fit 50yo men with their life in order and decent post-divorce situations can be a very attractive feature to a 35 to 42 yo woman. I would be happy to have more kids if necessary, but no pressure either way. I don't see much competition from men in those younger age brackets, maybe because a lot of them are married still? And if they aren't married they have some reason why they never married by 40 or so. In any event, the "50+ crowd" isn't all early dinners and false teeth. It's more like work, gym, interesting daily life with friends and family, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

Really? Women that want to stay at home obviously. The 50s are a man's highest earning years. Where can I sign up?

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree. My limit is about seven years older and even that feels a little old. When I was early 30s I didn't even want to date guys who were forty.

There are guys on this board who constantly try to convince women:
A) they need to sleep with men right away
And b) they need to date guys way older because guys around their age and a little
Older aren't interested.

I have zero friends who are willing to date guys fifteen years older or even ten years older.

This is my concern. I am 48, woman, never married no kids, career. No cats. I am being told that I can only find a man 15+ older.

I will move back to my home town in the midwest and date a high school friend, plenty of whom are my age and single.

In the midwest, huge age gaps are very uncommon. Once they have kids I have plenty of men 3 and 5 years younger who I am compatible with. I don't care about a guy's wallet.

Age gap relationships especially for 2nd marriages have a greater chance of divorce. How stupid are these men in their 60s who don't want women their own age?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 51 yo single woman, have dated a lot but not the one. I’ve been ion all of the online sites, dated someone 20 years my junior to 10 years my senior - just not working. I’m pretty close to giving up. I think I’ll be alone forever and I’m not sure I’m ok with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 51 yo single woman, have dated a lot but not the one. I’ve been ion all of the online sites, dated someone 20 years my junior to 10 years my senior - just not working. I’m pretty close to giving up. I think I’ll be alone forever and I’m not sure I’m ok with that.

There’s your problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 51 yo single woman, have dated a lot but not the one. I’ve been ion all of the online sites, dated someone 20 years my junior to 10 years my senior - just not working. I’m pretty close to giving up. I think I’ll be alone forever and I’m not sure I’m ok with that.

There’s your problem.

From another thread, presumably written by a guy: “I remember when i was in my 20s every woman I knew had income requirements, height requirements, good looks requirements, and then stuff like a strong preference for British accents. They literally could be that picky. My only requirements then we’re not morbidly obese and preferably moderately sane”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In your early 50s you should be looking for a man around 65. An early 50s man with his act together has a lot of younger options

As do I, but not for anything long-term. My last boyfriend (of three months) was 22 years my junior. Then he decided it was time to start a family and he reconnected with an old ex for that purpose. I don't get why I have to look at someone 15 years older than me, especially since the ones I see online tend not to have kept themselves up and may well have health problems, while I don't. I almost think I need to move out of the area once my kids are in college. I've also run into the ego thing of guys not wanting me to make more than they do several times. I don't see how dating a retiree would fix that.

A well put together 50 year old man can get a 35 year old easily. I'm sure you are a nice person but you aren't in demand in that demographic. You will have to find an older partner or decide you are ok with casual relationships. That's just life. It ain't fair but it's real

Lol this is so untrue. Like 3% of 50 year old men are still that desirable. Stop spouting Hollywood fantasies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“A well put together 50 year old man can get a 35 year old easily. I'm sure you are a nice person but you aren't in demand in that demographic. You will have to find an older partner or decide you are ok with casual relationships. That's just life. It ain't fair but it's real.”

There’s a cover for every pot, but most 50 year old guys are looking for women their age who are able to support themselves, have similar interests, are at a similar place in life, and are not interested in having (more) kids.

Obviously written by a woman

Go away woman hater! I think you're sock puppeting on this thread. Go back to looking at teen porn.

[Anonymous]

Many women run decent men out of their lives with unusual expectations. I am pretty sure if OP lowers her sight, she can find someone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree. My limit is about seven years older and even that feels a little old. When I was early 30s I didn't even want to date guys who were forty.

There are guys on this board who constantly try to convince women:
A) they need to sleep with men right away
And b) they need to date guys way older because guys around their age and a little
Older aren't interested.

I have zero friends who are willing to date guys fifteen years older or even ten years older.

This is my concern. I am 48, woman, never married no kids, career. No cats. I am being told that I can only find a man 15+ older.

I will move back to my home town in the midwest and date a high school friend, plenty of whom are my age and single.

In the midwest, huge age gaps are very uncommon. Once they have kids I have plenty of men 3 and 5 years younger who I am compatible with. I don't care about a guy's wallet.

Age gap relationships especially for 2nd marriages have a greater chance of divorce. How stupid are these men in their 60s who don't want women their own age?

I don't know that most men would believe this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree. My limit is about seven years older and even that feels a little old. When I was early 30s I didn't even want to date guys who were forty.

There are guys on this board who constantly try to convince women:
A) they need to sleep with men right away
And b) they need to date guys way older because guys around their age and a little
Older aren't interested.

I have zero friends who are willing to date guys fifteen years older or even ten years older.

This is my concern. I am 48, woman, never married no kids, career. No cats. I am being told that I can only find a man 15+ older.

I will move back to my home town in the midwest and date a high school friend, plenty of whom are my age and single.

In the midwest, huge age gaps are very uncommon. Once they have kids I have plenty of men 3 and 5 years younger who I am compatible with. I don't care about a guy's wallet.

Age gap relationships especially for 2nd marriages have a greater chance of divorce. How stupid are these men in their 60s who don't want women their own age?

I don't know that most men would believe this.

I would be most compatible with a retired firefighter or retired military, as long they are done having babies. Must love dogs. They need to be gainfully employed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree with this. I'm in my early 30s and don't know a single woman around my age dating men in their 50s. There are plenty of men available younger than that. Dating someone 50 plus would be undesirable because you're likely dealing with his kids from first marriage, or reproducing with a man in his 50s. I think this idea of women going after men 20 plus years older is from an age when women were dependent on men for income. I suspect many of the men posting this are from older generations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree with this. I'm in my early 30s and don't know a single woman around my age dating men in their 50s. There are plenty of men available younger than that. Dating someone 50 plus would be undesirable because you're likely dealing with his kids from first marriage, or reproducing with a man in his 50s. I think this idea of women going after men 20 plus years older is from an age when women were dependent on men for income. I suspect many of the men posting this are from older generations.

ITA. I'm in my early 40s and none of my single friends want old guys, especially with kids and ex-wives, unless they make $$$$$$ (like $500+ K / year) and then they'd still have to deal with the alimony for the ex wife, failure to launch young adult kids who want $ for house downpayment etc. Etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these 35 year old women gagging to go out with men in their 50s? I just turned 40, and am happily married, but there's no way I or my younger friends would be looking at the 50+ crowd. Maybe the women who can't get men closer to their own age, but then they don't seem like such great catches...

I agree with this. I'm in my early 30s and don't know a single woman around my age dating men in their 50s. There are plenty of men available younger than that. Dating someone 50 plus would be undesirable because you're likely dealing with his kids from first marriage, or reproducing with a man in his 50s. I think this idea of women going after men 20 plus years older is from an age when women were dependent on men for income. I suspect many of the men posting this are from older generations.

Agree with this as well. I'm in my early 30's and my partner is ten years older than me. This is by far the largest age gap amongst my girlfriends and their husbands/boyfriends, whatever. I HAVE a large age gap in my relationship and generally have dated older and would still not consider a man in his 50s. I only know of one relationship like this and it's a clear trophy wife situation. I don't really run with that kind of crowd, so that's the only couple where I have seen this kind of gap and it is a real outlier.

[Anonymous]

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I would be most compatible with a retired firefighter or retired military, as long they are done having babies. Must love dogs. They need to be gainfully employed.

Perfect example of women with too many demands. She wants the sliver of men who retired from a certain profession, and they have to like dogs, AND they have to have a new career after retirement that keeps them gainfully employed.

How many 50-year old men meet all that criteria? 0.01%? To put it in perspective, just looking at CURRENT law enforcement officer of both genders and all ages, they represent 0.2% of the US population.