Donor eggs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I acknowledge that many people are happy with DE choice. However, the most important person in every infertility story should be a child. I consider knowing one's genetic origins a basic human right. Also, a child should be free to pursue or not pursue contact and a relationship with his/her biological parent. In fact, only donors open to such possibility should be donors.
Therefore, I think that all third party reproduction should be open (DE, sperm, surrogacy). The closed ones should be banned.
If something has to be hidden than it simply cannot be right.

Ugh you are bitter. Glad you are not doing donor eggs. Are you also the OP of the other thread who gets offended if someone suggests adoption?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I acknowledge that many people are happy with DE choice. However, the most important person in every infertility story should be a child. I consider knowing one's genetic origins a basic human right. Also, a child should be free to pursue or not pursue contact and a relationship with his/her biological parent. In fact, only donors open to such possibility should be donors.
Therefore, I think that all third party reproduction should be open (DE, sperm, surrogacy). The closed ones should be banned.
If something has to be hidden than it simply cannot be right.

Ugh you are bitter. Glad you are not doing donor eggs. Are you also the OP of the other thread who gets offended if someone suggests adoption?

I am OP. No, that’s not me. We will actually consider an adoption if IVF fails. And it will be an open adoption only.

[Anonymous]

I donated when I was 23 - had graduated from university and grad school and wanted a chunk of money to pay down grad school loans. And I liked the idea of helping a couple have a baby since I was pretty sure I wasn't going have my own. I signed a paper saying that I'd be willing to be contacted when the child turned 18. That's in 2 years now and I am married with 2 boys. My DH knows and we'd welcome any contact if and when the time comes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I donated when I was 23 - had graduated from university and grad school and wanted a chunk of money to pay down grad school loans. And I liked the idea of helping a couple have a baby since I was pretty sure I wasn't going have my own. I signed a paper saying that I'd be willing to be contacted when the child turned 18. That's in 2 years now and I am married with 2 boys. My DH knows and we'd welcome any contact if and when the time comes.

It’s admirable that you are willing to be contacted so that any children you helped create do not wonder aimlessly where they come from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I donated when I was 23 - had graduated from university and grad school and wanted a chunk of money to pay down grad school loans. And I liked the idea of helping a couple have a baby since I was pretty sure I wasn't going have my own. I signed a paper saying that I'd be willing to be contacted when the child turned 18. That's in 2 years now and I am married with 2 boys. My DH knows and we'd welcome any contact if and when the time comes.

You sound like a truly good person, and the recipient and result of your eggs should both feel thankful and honored. Thank you for sharing your perspective in what has become a really effed up thread at times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many people who don’t “get” de are childless. As a parent of conceived naturally, I can see how little of being a parent is dependent on a genetic relationship.

Actually, I totally disagree. Children can be frustrating and exhausting, especially if one is dealing with special needs. With your own genetic child, the love and connection is there automatically. If raising a difficult child that is not your own, I can see how it would be much harder to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many people who don’t “get” de are childless. As a parent of conceived naturally, I can see how little of being a parent is dependent on a genetic relationship.

Actually, I totally disagree. Children can be frustrating and exhausting, especially if one is dealing with special needs. With your own genetic child, the love and connection is there automatically. If raising a difficult child that is not your own, I can see how it would be much harder to deal with.

Do you say the same to adoptive parents?

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but using a DE is immoral. It is incredibly selfish to INTENTIONALLY create a person who is half adopted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many people who don’t “get” de are childless. As a parent of conceived naturally, I can see how little of being a parent is dependent on a genetic relationship.

Actually, I totally disagree. Children can be frustrating and exhausting, especially if one is dealing with special needs. With your own genetic child, the love and connection is there automatically. If raising a difficult child that is not your own, I can see how it would be much harder to deal with.

Do you say the same to adoptive parents?

Of course I don’t say it, but yes the same applies to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many people who don’t “get” de are childless. As a parent of conceived naturally, I can see how little of being a parent is dependent on a genetic relationship.

Actually, I totally disagree. Children can be frustrating and exhausting, especially if one is dealing with special needs. With your own genetic child, the love and connection is there automatically. If raising a difficult child that is not your own, I can see how it would be much harder to deal with.

Do you say the same to adoptive parents?

Of course I don’t say it, but yes the same applies to them.

You sound bitter. I feel sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

OP here - previous PPs should not be so angry. I though we could have an open-minded discussion about a touchy subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - previous PPs should not be so angry. I though we could have an open-minded discussion about a touchy subject.

Open-minded? You've been anything but, just lecturing everyone with your same 2 points over and over. We get it that you don't like adoption or donor-conceived children. What do you want to accomplish? Have everyone bow down to your viewpoint? Accept that there are people who feel differently than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - previous PPs should not be so angry. I though we could have an open-minded discussion about a touchy subject.

Actually it's increasingly looking like you came here just to stir the pot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - previous PPs should not be so angry. I though we could have an open-minded discussion about a touchy subject.

Actually it's increasingly looking like you came here just to stir the pot.

No one is forcing you to read and respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but using a DE is immoral. It is incredibly selfish to INTENTIONALLY create a person who is half adopted.

GTFO of here, troll. Half-adopted? LOL