"Are You Working Yet?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with 12:56. Do you really respect those moms who go on about not being able to take a shower and go to the bathroom?

Uh, yeah. I know how my house is on the weekends. I could never do that, that's why I come to my office every Monday with glee.

[Anonymous]

New name...
but yet another SAMH v. WM thread.

[Anonymous]

oops -- SAHM

[Anonymous]

It's not about the SAHM v. WM. It's about how a mom characterizes her children and home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again. Thanks to everyone for responding and making me feel better (mostly). I've since 6am and have re-heated my coffee at least four times.

I would hire help to clean the house if my husband were not a cheapo.

And I honestly do not need validation from anyone regarding my decision to stay home. It just saddens me that my certain friends feel it belittles women to be home with their children. I do work hard and I do enjoy it (most of the time). What I do is not glamorous or always fun but I am with me little one. At some point I will go back to a paying gig but for now this is my job and it does not make me less of a woman, as they think it does.

OP- No disrespect regarding your decision, but wow. I can't believe you would call your husband a cheapo -- a husband who is willing to be the sole breadwinner and live on one salary in this area. Unless he makes a minimum of $300.000/year (and maybe he is) he's not being cheap.

My husband calls himself a cheapo, he also calls himself lazy. If it doesn't offend him, it should not offend you. Please don't snap at me when you have no idea what you are talking about.

Also, once again, my rant was personal and directly related to something that was said to me in a rude context, while it was implied I do nothing all day. I, in turn, was expressing the fact that I DO WORK. Ok?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again. Thanks to everyone for responding and making me feel better (mostly). I've since 6am and have re-heated my coffee at least four times.

I would hire help to clean the house if my husband were not a cheapo.

And I honestly do not need validation from anyone regarding my decision to stay home. It just saddens me that my certain friends feel it belittles women to be home with their children. I do work hard and I do enjoy it (most of the time). What I do is not glamorous or always fun but I am with me little one. At some point I will go back to a paying gig but for now this is my job and it does not make me less of a woman, as they think it does.

OP- No disrespect regarding your decision, but wow. I can't believe you would call your husband a cheapo -- a husband who is willing to be the sole breadwinner and live on one salary in this area. Unless he makes a minimum of $300.000/year (and maybe he is) he's not being cheap.

My husband calls himself a cheapo, he also calls himself lazy. If it doesn't offend him, it should not offend you. Please don't snap at me when you have no idea what you are talking about.

Also, once again, my rant was personal and directly related to something that was said to me in a rude context, while it was implied I do nothing all day. I, in turn, was expressing the fact that I DO WORK. Ok?

Why is the OP so bad tempered????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again. Thanks to everyone for responding and making me feel better (mostly). I've since 6am and have re-heated my coffee at least four times.

I would hire help to clean the house if my husband were not a cheapo.

And I honestly do not need validation from anyone regarding my decision to stay home. It just saddens me that my certain friends feel it belittles women to be home with their children. I do work hard and I do enjoy it (most of the time). What I do is not glamorous or always fun but I am with me little one. At some point I will go back to a paying gig but for now this is my job and it does not make me less of a woman, as they think it does.

OP- No disrespect regarding your decision, but wow. I can't believe you would call your husband a cheapo -- a husband who is willing to be the sole breadwinner and live on one salary in this area. Unless he makes a minimum of $300.000/year (and maybe he is) he's not being cheap.

My husband calls himself a cheapo, he also calls himself lazy. If it doesn't offend him, it should not offend you. Please don't snap at me when you have no idea what you are talking about.

Also, once again, my rant was personal and directly related to something that was said to me in a rude context, while it was implied I do nothing all day. I, in turn, was expressing the fact that I DO WORK. Ok?

Why is the OP so bad tempered????

Why do you give a rat's @ss?

[Anonymous]

I'm not bad tempered at all. Sorry if it reads that way. I enjoy my husband and my toddler very much. What was said to me just kind of pissed me off and I am defending/replying to strangers on a forum. Sorry if it comes off in print as being bad tempered. I'm not. Not at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again. Thanks to everyone for responding and making me feel better (mostly). I've since 6am and have re-heated my coffee at least four times.

I would hire help to clean the house if my husband were not a cheapo.

And I honestly do not need validation from anyone regarding my decision to stay home. It just saddens me that my certain friends feel it belittles women to be home with their children. I do work hard and I do enjoy it (most of the time). What I do is not glamorous or always fun but I am with me little one. At some point I will go back to a paying gig but for now this is my job and it does not make me less of a woman, as they think it does.

OP- No disrespect regarding your decision, but wow. I can't believe you would call your husband a cheapo -- a husband who is willing to be the sole breadwinner and live on one salary in this area. Unless he makes a minimum of $300.000/year (and maybe he is) he's not being cheap.

My husband calls himself a cheapo, he also calls himself lazy. If it doesn't offend him, it should not offend you. Please don't snap at me when you have no idea what you are talking about.

Also, once again, my rant was personal and directly related to something that was said to me in a rude context, while it was implied I do nothing all day. I, in turn, was expressing the fact that I DO WORK. Ok?

Fair enough. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess for the same reason that SAHMs think their jobs are so hard while nannies who have the same schedule have it easy. I am always amazed at how many SAHM friends I have will talk about how lazy nannies are and should have all this free time. Maybe they've bitten themselves in the butt because people without kids hear that and think, gee, what do they do all day?

I always wondered about that contrast between nannies and moms. The nannies make it seem so easy and don't complain about not getting anything done. Sure they complain about their employers, benefits, and raises, but hardly about the rigors of the job.

The answer to that is obvious: it's because the nannies aren't doing most of what a parent is, if the nannies I observe daily are any indication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess for the same reason that SAHMs think their jobs are so hard while nannies who have the same schedule have it easy. I am always amazed at how many SAHM friends I have will talk about how lazy nannies are and should have all this free time. Maybe they've bitten themselves in the butt because people without kids hear that and think, gee, what do they do all day?

I always wondered about that contrast between nannies and moms. The nannies make it seem so easy and don't complain about not getting anything done. Sure they complain about their employers, benefits, and raises, but hardly about the rigors of the job.

The answer to that is obvious: it's because the nannies aren't doing most of what a parent is, if the nannies I observe daily are any indication.

Or maybe the nannies have figured out how to mange the kids and how important it is to teach discipline and responsibility so they can actually get things done with the kids. Most of the working moms I know let their kids run wild and are stressed out all the time. You will see the same kid with the nanny and he's being so sweet and helpful. WMs need to figure out that throwing gifts at your kids and letting them get away with murder isn't an even exchange for spending real, quality time with your kid. Something many nannies and SAHMs have figured out a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

My personal opinion - SAHMs have it easer than WOHMs. Especially the ones with just one child.

Now, they like to make it seem like they don't but inventing all these things they must "do".

I was home for almost 6 months and was bored to tears. So bored in fact, that I on occasion I would go up into my DD's room with the hopes she would stir from a nap so I could say "oh your awake! Great!" and have something to do. My house was never as clean, I never cooked so much, read so much or got so much done. And I am single mom (by choice).

Now, I could have signed up for tons of baby classes, joined moms groups and then spent all my time complaining "I am soooo busy!" but I actually found plenty of other stuff to do with my DD.

Now I work full time AND do all the tasks of SAHM. Really, its hard for me to muster alot of respect for someone who claims they can't find time to take a shower or do laundry when they are home day in and day out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess for the same reason that SAHMs think their jobs are so hard while nannies who have the same schedule have it easy. I am always amazed at how many SAHM friends I have will talk about how lazy nannies are and should have all this free time. Maybe they've bitten themselves in the butt because people without kids hear that and think, gee, what do they do all day?

I always wondered about that contrast between nannies and moms. The nannies make it seem so easy and don't complain about not getting anything done. Sure they complain about their employers, benefits, and raises, but hardly about the rigors of the job.

The answer to that is obvious: it's because the nannies aren't doing most of what a parent is, if the nannies I observe daily are any indication.

Or maybe the nannies have figured out how to mange the kids and how important it is to teach discipline and responsibility so they can actually get things done with the kids. Most of the working moms I know let their kids run wild and are stressed out all the time. You will see the same kid with the nanny and he's being so sweet and helpful. WMs need to figure out that throwing gifts at your kids and letting them get away with murder isn't an even exchange for spending real, quality time with your kid. Something many nannies and SAHMs have figured out a long time ago.

You are absolutely right. If a Mom has a job (outside of the home - easy, OP), she throws gifts at her kids and lets them get away with murder and run wild and spends no real, quality time with them. SAHMs of course, have disciplined, responsible kids with whom they spend 24/7.

Now...back to our regularly schedule program of REALITY.

You have got to be kidding me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My personal opinion - SAHMs have it easer than WOHMs. Especially the ones with just one child.

Now, they like to make it seem like they don't but inventing all these things they must "do".

I was home for almost 6 months and was bored to tears. So bored in fact, that I on occasion I would go up into my DD's room with the hopes she would stir from a nap so I could say "oh your awake! Great!" and have something to do. My house was never as clean, I never cooked so much, read so much or got so much done. And I am single mom (by choice).

Now, I could have signed up for tons of baby classes, joined moms groups and then spent all my time complaining "I am soooo busy!" but I actually found plenty of other stuff to do with my DD.

Now I work full time AND do all the tasks of SAHM. Really, its hard for me to muster alot of respect for someone who claims they can't find time to take a shower or do laundry when they are home day in and day out.

I assume you were home when she was first born? Not a toddler? And a good sleeper to boot? Hang with a toddler 24/7 and report back, Super Mom.

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Anonymous wrote:

Or maybe the nannies have figured out how to mange the kids and how important it is to teach discipline and responsibility so they can actually get things done with the kids. Most of the working moms I know let their kids run wild and are stressed out all the time. You will see the same kid with the nanny and he's being so sweet and helpful. WMs need to figure out that throwing gifts at your kids and letting them get away with murder isn't an even exchange for spending real, quality time with your kid. Something many nannies and SAHMs have figured out a long time ago.

Or maybe it is because the kids know that parents are always going to love them no matter how bad they act or disobey while the nanny they can't be sure if that's the true. Nannies come and go. Parents are around always.