What are your rules about smoking pot at home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Love how some here have the only options to allow drugs in house or the ADULT offspring is homeless.

Adult home from college: Hi, Mom. Here’s my laundry. What’s for dinner? I’m home from college!
[adult home from college lights up to smoke in house]
Parent: Hey, no smoking in house, rules haven’t changed since you’ve been at college.
Adult home from college: Lighten up, I’m an adult now. Oh and wake me tomorrow at noon, I’m meeting friends for lunch. I’ll need cash.
[parent hands over cash, does laundry, makes dinner, sets reminder to wake at noon and says nothing more about smoking so adult home from college won’t end up homeless]

You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts.

This is how it goes with my stepkids coming home from college, and now, when they visit post-college. DH does their laundry, Venmoes to reimburse them when they go out to eat during their stay, picks up after their dirty dishes that they leave out, once lent out my car for them to take to a party where they were drinking (his car is too nice afterall), ignored a vape and pot brought into the house (blamed it on our nanny, even though this only ever happend when they were here), and didn't protest them coming in loudly at 2 in the morning even though we had very young kids at home. I know, because I'm a stepmom, I'm evil for even feeling anger and resentment over how it went down. Now, when they visit over the holidays, my kids and I leave for my family's vacation home. Out of sight, out of mind. Therapy helped me realize that all of my anger goes to DH for being an absolute s*** spouse whenever they are here, so I leave now.

Take it up with him. We don't care or need to know about your shitty marriage.

PP directly refuted the statement, "You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts" by sharing how her DH is saying precisely that.

No she didn't. Before she went on that rant no one was, in fact, saying any of that. Are you really that dumb?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Love how some here have the only options to allow drugs in house or the ADULT offspring is homeless.

Adult home from college: Hi, Mom. Here’s my laundry. What’s for dinner? I’m home from college!
[adult home from college lights up to smoke in house]
Parent: Hey, no smoking in house, rules haven’t changed since you’ve been at college.
Adult home from college: Lighten up, I’m an adult now. Oh and wake me tomorrow at noon, I’m meeting friends for lunch. I’ll need cash.
[parent hands over cash, does laundry, makes dinner, sets reminder to wake at noon and says nothing more about smoking so adult home from college won’t end up homeless]

You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts.

This is how it goes with my stepkids coming home from college, and now, when they visit post-college. DH does their laundry, Venmoes to reimburse them when they go out to eat during their stay, picks up after their dirty dishes that they leave out, once lent out my car for them to take to a party where they were drinking (his car is too nice afterall), ignored a vape and pot brought into the house (blamed it on our nanny, even though this only ever happend when they were here), and didn't protest them coming in loudly at 2 in the morning even though we had very young kids at home. I know, because I'm a stepmom, I'm evil for even feeling anger and resentment over how it went down. Now, when they visit over the holidays, my kids and I leave for my family's vacation home. Out of sight, out of mind. Therapy helped me realize that all of my anger goes to DH for being an absolute s*** spouse whenever they are here, so I leave now.

Take it up with him. We don't care or need to know about your shitty marriage.

PP directly refuted the statement, "You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts" by sharing how her DH is saying precisely that.

No she didn't. Before she went on that rant no one was, in fact, saying any of that. Are you really that dumb?

Clearly, you are projecting. You made an overbroad, absolutist statement, and when someone refuted it with direct evidence, your only response is a cheap ad hominem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love how some here have the only options to allow drugs in house or the ADULT offspring is homeless.

Adult home from college: Hi, Mom. Here’s my laundry. What’s for dinner? I’m home from college!
[adult home from college lights up to smoke in house]
Parent: Hey, no smoking in house, rules haven’t changed since you’ve been at college.
Adult home from college: Lighten up, I’m an adult now. Oh and wake me tomorrow at noon, I’m meeting friends for lunch. I’ll need cash.
[parent hands over cash, does laundry, makes dinner, sets reminder to wake at noon and says nothing more about smoking so adult home from college won’t end up homeless]

You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts.

This is how it goes with my stepkids coming home from college, and now, when they visit post-college. DH does their laundry, Venmoes to reimburse them when they go out to eat during their stay, picks up after their dirty dishes that they leave out, once lent out my car for them to take to a party where they were drinking (his car is too nice afterall), ignored a vape and pot brought into the house (blamed it on our nanny, even though this only ever happend when they were here), and didn't protest them coming in loudly at 2 in the morning even though we had very young kids at home. I know, because I'm a stepmom, I'm evil for even feeling anger and resentment over how it went down. Now, when they visit over the holidays, my kids and I leave for my family's vacation home. Out of sight, out of mind. Therapy helped me realize that all of my anger goes to DH for being an absolute s*** spouse whenever they are here, so I leave now.

Take it up with him. We don't care or need to know about your shitty marriage.

PP directly refuted the statement, "You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts" by sharing how her DH is saying precisely that.

No she didn't. Before she went on that rant no one was, in fact, saying any of that. Are you really that dumb?

Clearly, you are projecting. You made an overbroad, absolutist statement, and when someone refuted it with direct evidence, your only response is a cheap ad hominem.

OK you really are that dumb. Please post where someone in THIS THREAD (I think that was plainly obvious to everyone but you) said anything of the sorts before PPs unhinged rant about her husband. Please post your "evidence."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love how some here have the only options to allow drugs in house or the ADULT offspring is homeless.

Adult home from college: Hi, Mom. Here’s my laundry. What’s for dinner? I’m home from college!
[adult home from college lights up to smoke in house]
Parent: Hey, no smoking in house, rules haven’t changed since you’ve been at college.
Adult home from college: Lighten up, I’m an adult now. Oh and wake me tomorrow at noon, I’m meeting friends for lunch. I’ll need cash.
[parent hands over cash, does laundry, makes dinner, sets reminder to wake at noon and says nothing more about smoking so adult home from college won’t end up homeless]

You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts.

This is how it goes with my stepkids coming home from college, and now, when they visit post-college. DH does their laundry, Venmoes to reimburse them when they go out to eat during their stay, picks up after their dirty dishes that they leave out, once lent out my car for them to take to a party where they were drinking (his car is too nice afterall), ignored a vape and pot brought into the house (blamed it on our nanny, even though this only ever happend when they were here), and didn't protest them coming in loudly at 2 in the morning even though we had very young kids at home. I know, because I'm a stepmom, I'm evil for even feeling anger and resentment over how it went down. Now, when they visit over the holidays, my kids and I leave for my family's vacation home. Out of sight, out of mind. Therapy helped me realize that all of my anger goes to DH for being an absolute s*** spouse whenever they are here, so I leave now.

Take it up with him. We don't care or need to know about your shitty marriage.

PP directly refuted the statement, "You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts" by sharing how her DH is saying precisely that.

No she didn't. Before she went on that rant no one was, in fact, saying any of that. Are you really that dumb?

Clearly, you are projecting. You made an overbroad, absolutist statement, and when someone refuted it with direct evidence, your only response is a cheap ad hominem.

OK you really are that dumb. Please post where someone in THIS THREAD (I think that was plainly obvious to everyone but you) said anything of the sorts before PPs unhinged rant about her husband. Please post your "evidence."

It was covered by PP in her original response. The only one who seems unhinged is you, and you are resorting to all caps, ad hominem attacks, and projections in response.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love how some here have the only options to allow drugs in house or the ADULT offspring is homeless.

Adult home from college: Hi, Mom. Here’s my laundry. What’s for dinner? I’m home from college!
[adult home from college lights up to smoke in house]
Parent: Hey, no smoking in house, rules haven’t changed since you’ve been at college.
Adult home from college: Lighten up, I’m an adult now. Oh and wake me tomorrow at noon, I’m meeting friends for lunch. I’ll need cash.
[parent hands over cash, does laundry, makes dinner, sets reminder to wake at noon and says nothing more about smoking so adult home from college won’t end up homeless]

You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts.

This is how it goes with my stepkids coming home from college, and now, when they visit post-college. DH does their laundry, Venmoes to reimburse them when they go out to eat during their stay, picks up after their dirty dishes that they leave out, once lent out my car for them to take to a party where they were drinking (his car is too nice afterall), ignored a vape and pot brought into the house (blamed it on our nanny, even though this only ever happend when they were here), and didn't protest them coming in loudly at 2 in the morning even though we had very young kids at home. I know, because I'm a stepmom, I'm evil for even feeling anger and resentment over how it went down. Now, when they visit over the holidays, my kids and I leave for my family's vacation home. Out of sight, out of mind. Therapy helped me realize that all of my anger goes to DH for being an absolute s*** spouse whenever they are here, so I leave now.

Take it up with him. We don't care or need to know about your shitty marriage.

PP directly refuted the statement, "You're an idiot. No one, absolutely no one, is saying anything of the sorts" by sharing how her DH is saying precisely that.

No she didn't. Before she went on that rant no one was, in fact, saying any of that. Are you really that dumb?

Clearly, you are projecting. You made an overbroad, absolutist statement, and when someone refuted it with direct evidence, your only response is a cheap ad hominem.

OK you really are that dumb. Please post where someone in THIS THREAD (I think that was plainly obvious to everyone but you) said anything of the sorts before PPs unhinged rant about her husband. Please post your "evidence."

It was covered by PP in her original response. The only one who seems unhinged is you, and you are resorting to all caps, ad hominem attacks, and projections in response.

OK so post the evidence. I'll wait.

[Anonymous]

Stop paying for college until he stops smoking poy

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Anonymous wrote:Stop paying for college until he stops smoking poy

Yeah, destroy their future over a joint. That's a brilliant idea.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop paying for college until he stops smoking poy

Yeah, destroy their future over a joint. That's a brilliant idea.

It’s the pot destroying his life.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop paying for college until he stops smoking poy

Yeah, destroy their future over a joint. That's a brilliant idea.

It’s the pot destroying his life.

That depends. Plenty of us lit up in our youth and turned out to be high achieving members of society. Black and white thinking will get you nowhere.

[Anonymous]

Do you realize that I am not commenting on setting boundaries? I'm commenting on "we would change the locks and the grandparents wouldn't take them in either." That kind of black and white, hystrionic thinking is shitty parenting, ESPECAILLY given that we are talking about adults here.

I never said I would allow pot smoking in my house.

The rest of your post is just nonsense I don't care to read or comment on.

Do you realize you are responding to multiple PPs? I am the one that commented on boundaries, but your following posts were all responding to other people. You are dense. Changing the locks is a consequence (for the earlier PP) of violating a boundary. Good parents do stuff like that, and it's not histrionics - its adults trying to raise healthy, respectful kids.

[Anonymous]

One does have to wonder about OP's kid because growing up and going to college in the 90s, none of us would have ever dared smoke anything, whether pot or cigarettes, at home. Ever. So I'm more intrigued by that this kid thinks it's ok to smoke at home. And apparently inside the house. Which tells me he has a real problem and it's worth getting to the bottom of it. This isn't the casual joint at a party.

[Anonymous]

The biggest fans of weed that I know are highly successful 20-something lawyers, a married couple.

I dont know why everyone thinks that only complete losers, addicts and degenerates would even touch the stuff or that anyone who partake is on their way to ruin.

Sure tell your adult kids to take it outside, but don't disown them or act like you work for DEA and caught them smuggling meth across the border.

[Anonymous]

There is a no smoking rule at home. I don't like the smell and don't want any room smelling of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest fans of weed that I know are highly successful 20-something lawyers, a married couple.

I dont know why everyone thinks that only complete losers, addicts and degenerates would even touch the stuff or that anyone who partake is on their way to ruin.

Sure tell your adult kids to take it outside, but don't disown them or act like you work for DEA and caught them smuggling meth across the border.

That’s not what’s up for discussion though. All good if for the lawyers to do what they want when they are not living at home and having bills paid for by their parents. Own home/own $, do what want. Parent home/parent $, their rules.

[Anonymous]

I would not have them living at home