What are your rules about smoking pot at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is new for us. Our college student is home for the summer and is smoking pot. I don’t like it and need to lay down some ground rules. If I say no pot at home, I don’t want to push them to go somewhere unsafe to smoke. I want them to stop completely. I have a high school-aged child and home and don’t want this around him either. How are you handling a pot-smoking young adult under your roof?

I started reading through the thread and stopped because of all the back and forth.

We had a similar issue, OP. I found a marijuana vape pen in my college kid's stuff. We told him not in the house, but it's so hard to detect smell-wise that I'm not sure if he's respecting that rule, although I hope he is. Honestly, I'd rather him roll a joint than smoke the manufactured crap they're getting at vape shops these days. That stuff worries me and I send my kid articles about the dangers of these products (and fentanyl). Any recreational marijuana use is not impacting my son's ability to function and meet his responsibilities so it's not something I would kick him out over. I'd rather have an eye on how he is doing so I could more easily intervene if there were problems. My parents were super strict about everything and all it did at that time was teach me to be a very good liar.

I'm sure this sounds crazy to hardliners, but there are more high functioning recreational pot users than people in this thread seem to realize. I know scads of smart, successful people - doctors, lawyers, etc. - in NoVa who use marijuana based products from time to time (but I don't know anyone who is open about any other drug use).

[Anonymous]

Today’s NYT had an article that pot smoking increases the risk of heart attacks and strokes, at surprisingly young ages.

Sorry, but there is a paywall.

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/19/well/marijuana-heart-health-risks.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

[Anonymous]

I'd just want to make sure he was willing to share

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is new for us. Our college student is home for the summer and is smoking pot. I don’t like it and need to lay down some ground rules. If I say no pot at home, I don’t want to push them to go somewhere unsafe to smoke. I want them to stop completely. I have a high school-aged child and home and don’t want this around him either. How are you handling a pot-smoking young adult under your roof?

There is no way my ds would even consider smoking weed or drinking or vaping in my home. No rules to be had. He thinks these behaviors are awful and is annoyed when someone is smoking in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest fans of weed that I know are highly successful 20-something lawyers, a married couple.

I dont know why everyone thinks that only complete losers, addicts and degenerates would even touch the stuff or that anyone who partake is on their way to ruin.

Sure tell your adult kids to take it outside, but don't disown them or act like you work for DEA and caught them smuggling meth across the border.

Fair.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t do drugs you won’t become addicted to drugs.

Trashy people smoke weed. Honestly, trashy people smoke in general. Cigarettes, cigars, weed, vapes, all these users are low rent losers. At least they’re easy to spot so you can avoid them.

[Anonymous]

Always interesting to me the super anti-THC crowd - it is legal. Not as socially acceptable as alcohol (an actual poison with long documented health hazards and addicitive potential).

OP - what age is your child and what are your rules about alcohol in the house? If I was your kid, I might call you on any hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Always interesting to me the super anti-THC crowd - it is legal. Not as socially acceptable as alcohol (an actual poison with long documented health hazards and addicitive potential).

OP - what age is your child and what are your rules about alcohol in the house? If I was your kid, I might call you on any hypocrisy.

Nothing hypocritical. You're just trying to justify your pot usage.

[Anonymous]

No to pot for a host of well documented reasons- weed dependency is real. My son’s 15 year old friend spent a year in rehab for it.
I have also seen adults close and personal obsessed with weed, unable to go a day (or a few hours) without a joint hit. They aren’t thriving, to say the least, don’t have jobs, they always smell terrible and the house looks like a tornado hit and smells like a low class dispensary.

Sorry - OP, I wouldn’t allow that stuff near my house.

[Anonymous]

+1
The kids are not alright.
Weed dependency is real and I don’t think we do anyone favors by saying it is “harmless” or “just weed.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:No smoking inside.

I find it equally horrifying and amusing (because I think it's BS) that so many of you would cut your kids off because they smoke pot occasionally.

I absolutely would cut off my kids if they smoked pot. We have a zero tolerance policy in our house. When they decide to stop acting like a loser, they can come back.

You're the only loser in that scenario. But your kids are probably better off without you.

+1

in 5 years the poster will make a thread "why dont my kids talk to me anymore???"

I have never met anyone who doesn’t have a relationship with parents because parents said no drugs. I have met plenty of adults who are drug dependent and whose parents allowed and even encouraged drug use. They may still smoke together, just as the adult child can’t get his/her life together.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am curious about your pot smoking child. How is it that they don’t know the rules of your house? Seems they must and seems they have to know it is unacceptable to you so why are they doing it? Rhetorical questions but you might want to address them.

[Anonymous]

(Also, to the guy who feeds his kids weed for breakfast… it is technically not legal. Still a schedule 1 drug.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t do drugs you won’t become addicted to drugs.

Trashy people smoke weed. Honestly, trashy people smoke in general. Cigarettes, cigars, weed, vapes, all these users are low rent losers. At least they’re easy to spot so you can avoid them.

I'm sure you think of yourself as high class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t do drugs you won’t become addicted to drugs.

Trashy people smoke weed. Honestly, trashy people smoke in general. Cigarettes, cigars, weed, vapes, all these users are low rent losers. At least they’re easy to spot so you can avoid them.

I'm sure you think of yourself as high class

Stay trashy DMV