What are your rules about smoking pot at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They would not be welcome to stay at my house. There would not BE a pot-smoking young adult (or any age person) under my roof.

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[Anonymous]

OP, I wonder whether you ought to get your child mental health support? If my college kid knew the rules of my house included no pot,‘and the dear child brought it in anyway (and openly), it seems they are self-medicating or looking for attention. Thinking back to the adults I know who are friends, relatives or children of friends and whose parents gave them all opportunities available, those that fail to thrive are smoking / eating and or otherwise ingesting weed/THC. 100 percent of the time. I am NOT saying weed causes the failure to thrive. I am saying though that there is an obvious connection and perhaps it is used to cover up / self medicate mental health issues that need and deserve treatment before it is too late.

[Anonymous]

Zero in my house. And if you’re paying for college, that stops until they stop using. No point paying for school if they’re frying their brain. I’m not universally anti-cannabis, but nobody should use regularly before age 25-28, and certainly not a college kid. And absolutely it should be stigmatized enough that they know it’s “wrong” and shouldn’t do it in your home.

[Anonymous]

Rules are: no smoking (anything ) at home. And only smoke outside when you are old enough to smoke.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure this sounds crazy to hardliners, but there are more high functioning recreational pot users than people in this thread seem to realize. I know scads of smart, successful people - doctors, lawyers, etc. - in NoVa who use marijuana based products from time to time (but I don't know anyone who is open about any other drug use).

You know what the difference is? As college kids, those doctors and lawyers weren’t using today’s pharmaceutical-grade weed that has a THC component as high as 30%. If they smoked at all, it was the garbage that was grown in someone’s mom’s basement closet beneath a hydroponic lamp. Popping a gummy to help you sleep while medical school is 10 years in your rear view mirror is fine. Vaping today’s weed on the regular as a 20 yo? Yeah, you ain’t getting near medical school.

[Anonymous]

Exactly!
And since we are talking about doctors, talk to a doctor - pediatrician, anesthesiologist or pulmonologist - about what they are seeing with respect to kids who regularly use weed. The health care providers on the front line treat these kids and can tell you the horrific truth and consequence before the newspaper stories get written. (Anesthesiologists are saying that kids who regularly use aren’t receptive to the normal amount of anesthetics. Weed is interfering with normal pain pathways. )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero in my house. And if you’re paying for college, that stops until they stop using. No point paying for school if they’re frying their brain. I’m not universally anti-cannabis, but nobody should use regularly before age 25-28, and certainly not a college kid. And absolutely it should be stigmatized enough that they know it’s “wrong” and shouldn’t do it in your home.

You're an absolute idiot. I doubt you pay for college or even have kids of college age, but if you stopped paying for college abruptly, that would 1000% ruin their life much faster than pot would.

[Anonymous]

The poster is not an idiot! She just has a different viewpoint than you do.

I happen to agree that if my kid were regularly using cannabis in college (I know - after school special language, PP - you can hold your fire) makes college worthless and college at 60-90k a year should not be worthless. If my kid were regularly using as I am working my tail off to pay for it, you better believe I wouldn’t pay. Boundaries … and yes, using cannabis ought to be stigmatized because it is harmful to the health and well being of these kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Zero in my house. And if you’re paying for college, that stops until they stop using. No point paying for school if they’re frying their brain. I’m not universally anti-cannabis, but nobody should use regularly before age 25-28, and certainly not a college kid. And absolutely it should be stigmatized enough that they know it’s “wrong” and shouldn’t do it in your home.

You're an absolute idiot. I doubt you pay for college or even have kids of college age, but if you stopped paying for college abruptly, that would 1000% ruin their life much faster than pot would.

Its a little dramatic to say a parent not paying for college until DC gets their act together will "ruin their life."
Kids are entitled to many things from their parents but not college tuition. Its a huge investment from parents and if the kids are not taking that investment seriously it needs to pause until they are able to take it seriously.
People mature at different rates, taking a pause so they can grow up and take responsibility will not ruin their life.

[Anonymous]

Pot smokers end up in low paying jobs eventually anyway so why waste money on college if they’re spending their time there high?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Zero in my house. And if you’re paying for college, that stops until they stop using. No point paying for school if they’re frying their brain. I’m not universally anti-cannabis, but nobody should use regularly before age 25-28, and certainly not a college kid. And absolutely it should be stigmatized enough that they know it’s “wrong” and shouldn’t do it in your home.

You're an absolute idiot. I doubt you pay for college or even have kids of college age, but if you stopped paying for college abruptly, that would 1000% ruin their life much faster than pot would.

Its a little dramatic to say a parent not paying for college until DC gets their act together will "ruin their life."
Kids are entitled to many things from their parents but not college tuition. Its a huge investment from parents and if the kids are not taking that investment seriously it needs to pause until they are able to take it seriously.
People mature at different rates, taking a pause so they can grow up and take responsibility will not ruin their life.

I'll say it again. You are an idiot. You would happily ruin your kids future over a joint. I hope your kids never speak to you again if you do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pot smokers end up in low paying jobs eventually anyway so why waste money on college if they’re spending their time there high?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pot smokers end up in low paying jobs eventually anyway so why waste money on college if they’re spending their time there high?

I work for the general counsel of a huge organization in DC. He vapes. You're just dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The poster is not an idiot! She just has a different viewpoint than you do.

I happen to agree that if my kid were regularly using cannabis in college (I know - after school special language, PP - you can hold your fire) makes college worthless and college at 60-90k a year should not be worthless. If my kid were regularly using as I am working my tail off to pay for it, you better believe I wouldn’t pay. Boundaries … and yes, using cannabis ought to be stigmatized because it is harmful to the health and well being of these kids.

If they are getting all of their work done and performing, would you still jeopardize their future on principle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They would not be welcome to stay at my house. There would not BE a pot-smoking young adult (or any age person) under my roof.

This. I see this as an illness.