I told DH I want less sex..

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4 times a week is plenty. OP is not a sex doll.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, your DH wants less sex with you, too, but he's trying to avoid the drama of an affair. It's a compromise for you both to keep the marriage intact.

DP here. Why does everyone on this site act like cheating is the worst thing someone can do to another person? People who think this had lived charmed lives.

Some non-cheaters appreciate fidelity in their marriage. Cheaters obviously don’t care.

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It is scientifically shown that afterglow lasts for 2 days.

Anything beyond that is just for fun, not for romantic connection.

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

so he only married her for sex?

No. He didn’t marry only for sex. We have a great relationship but he has always had a high sex drive. I never minded because I loved daily sex until I got pregnant with my first. We went through barely having sex for the last 3 years. How he wants it more. We haven’t had daily sex for more than a couple of weeks and I’m already done with it. I told him he needs to cut it down to 3-4 times a week with two blowjobs. He agreed to this.

Then why are you here posting?

Because perverted trolling is fun

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, your DH wants less sex with you, too, but he's trying to avoid the drama of an affair. It's a compromise for you both to keep the marriage intact.

Nope.

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And then 10 years later when his sex drive plummets, his confidence shot from ED etc you will come back on this forum asking for tips on how to find an AP.

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Anonymous wrote:And then 10 years later when his sex drive plummets, his confidence shot from ED etc you will come back on this forum asking for tips on how to find an AP.

Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.

I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.

If you’re sore, mix it up. You have three holes, so alternate.

Solid advice.

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Anonymous wrote:How did he react?

I’ve posted how he reacted. He isn’t happy with me wanting less sex.

Can’t you give BJs instead?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

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The first thing you should do if you want to strengthen your marriage is dial back the sex. Good job. Report back?

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Anonymous wrote:The first thing you should do if you want to strengthen your marriage is dial back the sex. Good job. Report back?

and add more kids to assist.

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Anonymous wrote:It is scientifically shown that afterglow lasts for 2 days.

Anything beyond that is just for fun, not for romantic connection.

Speak for yourself. We have a very intense romantic connection. Everytime is romantic and very intimate. Fun is a result not an intent for us.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

That’s a lot of words to say you demand access to your partners body. #rapey