I told DH I want less sex..

[Anonymous]

When a man wants something in the relationship:

DCUM: controlling! Rapist! Divorce!

When a woman wants something in the relationship:

DCUM you go girl! You get what you deserve! Divorce him if he doesn’t give you what you want!

[Anonymous]

We can type the word "sex".

[Anonymous]

OP: "I want more sex from my husband"
DCUM: "He has Low T. Porn Addiction. ADHD."

OP: "My husband wants more sex from me."
DCUM: "He's a rapist. Also he needs to do more chores. Are you in your 30s, because you should have more children with that rapist while you are fertile."

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

Not f***ing you is not “abuse” ffs. You also don’t seem to grasp the faintest idea of what asexuality is. It cannot be forced onto someone…

[Anonymous]

I have not read this whole thread, but I did get to the part where the DH wants sex twice a day and this couple has two children under four, one of whom is a newborn. I stopped reading out of empathy for OP.

[Anonymous]

I feel like you have posted about your husband before. He's selfish. There's no way around it's one thing to want frequent sex. It's very different to be upset about not having it 5 days a week when your partner is offering 3 to 4 times a week , just had a baby and is sore

I have a suspicion that op and her husband are part of a misogynistic religion that preaches joyful availability and multiple pregnancies

[Anonymous]

As a man who enjoys sex, requiring it every day results in it being a task or obligation and no way will two people be happy. If you’ve got careers and kids 2-3 times a week is plenty. We are now empty nesters and that’s been our frequency for a long time though now we don’t worry about the walls having ears.

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read this whole thread, but I did get to the part where the DH wants sex twice a day and this couple has two children under four, one of whom is a newborn. I stopped reading out of empathy for OP.

Then you missed all the posts where OP came back and defended him. <eyeroll>

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

Not f***ing you is not “abuse” ffs. You also don’t seem to grasp the faintest idea of what asexuality is. It cannot be forced onto someone…

Maybe op and her husband can just be friends.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

That’s a lot of words to say you demand access to your partners body. #rapey

Maybe they can just be friends instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: "I want more sex from my husband"
DCUM: "He has Low T. Porn Addiction. ADHD."

OP: "My husband wants more sex from me."
DCUM: "He's a rapist. Also he needs to do more chores. Are you in your 30s, because you should have more children with that rapist while you are fertile."

100% spot-on.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

Not f***ing you is not “abuse” ffs. You also don’t seem to grasp the faintest idea of what asexuality is. It cannot be forced onto someone…

Maybe op and her husband can just be friends.

Do you have sex with your friends 3x a week?
It’s hardly a dead bedroom situation. He just wants on demand access to her body, which is not appropriate and is hurting her. I’m not sure what wrong with you to think this is how marriage should be, but I’m assuming you’re not married anyway so.

[Anonymous]

He is crazy to expect it that many times. Geez, men really are never happy, are they? That's why there's zero point in trying to appease their demands- just ignore them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: "I want more sex from my husband"
DCUM: "He has Low T. Porn Addiction. ADHD."

OP: "My husband wants more sex from me."
DCUM: "He's a rapist. Also he needs to do more chores. Are you in your 30s, because you should have more children with that rapist while you are fertile."

100% spot-on.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Let’s go with “transactional” for a moment, but view it through a different lens:

say one partner decides on less s*x; when you reach 11 or fewer instances of s*x per 12 months, you’re now in a s*xless marriage. Your “transactional” (or lack of it) imposes this on the other person.

Denial of affection/s*x is a form of emotional abuse.

If you deny sex completely, then you have forced your partner into becoming an asexual; that is literally the “A” in LGTBQIA+. In other words, you have forced them unwillingly to flip their sexual orientation 180 degrees against their will. How is THAT not also “gross” as you put it, PP ?

That’s a lot of words to say you demand access to your partners body. #rapey

Maybe they can just be friends instead?

Or Roommates