I told DH I want less sex..

[Anonymous]

We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?

Troll harder?

[Anonymous]

Your DH is being selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?

Troll harder?

Not a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.

I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.

I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.

You two are very close in expectations! Usually when people post about differing sex drives here they are a factor of ten apart. This is something that can’t be that hard to work out and it’s going to change with time and circumstances anyway. What will matter isn’t what you agree on right now, it’s how you work together to solve it.

[Anonymous]

How did he react?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did he react?

I’ve posted how he reacted. He isn’t happy with me wanting less sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did he react?

I’ve posted how he reacted. He isn’t happy with me wanting less sex.

Easy solution, BJ for the extra time per week you don’t want. Should be no soreness.

[ZachF]

Most married men can only dream about 3-4 times a week. That's plenty and I'm saying that as a man. Anticipation makes it more exciting. He needs to learn how to woo you on those down days and not act like a pouty beyatch. Let him know what a turn-off that is.

[Anonymous]

Without being explicit, is the sex just as pleasurable for you as it is for him? You mentioned being sore, and him still wanting access to your body. I wouldn't want to have sex if my partner was experiencing discomfort, so that's a little concerning to me. I would focus on lowering the frequency and having him focus on things solely pleasurable for you, so you aren't experiencing pain.

[Anonymous]

Get ready for him to cheat.

[Anonymous]

He’s already cheating

Make sure you are on the pill.

[Anonymous]

So he’s willing to do 7 times a week and you’re willing to do 4 times a week. You’re only 3 days apart. Can’t you guys compromise with 5-6 times a week?

[Anonymous]

Compromise. Can you two agree upon 3-4x a week?

This all sounds super transactional.