I told DH I want less sex..

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.


Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.


Is he afraid to masterbate?


Then what’s he need her for?

Do you treat your wife as a sex doll? Not a real person?


If she’s not using her hands or her mouth (at a minimum), she’s breaking the contract.
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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.


Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.


Is he afraid to masterbate?


Then what’s he need her for?

Do you treat your wife as a sex doll? Not a real person?


If she’s not using her hands or her mouth (at a minimum), she’s breaking the contract.

Did they sign a contract that says she has to have her body available for his desires whenever he wants it?
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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No its not. Not in a marriage

I feel like we just time warped to the 1800s.
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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.
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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.


Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.


Is he afraid to masterbate?


Then what’s he need her for?

Do you treat your wife as a sex doll? Not a real person?


If she’s not using her hands or her mouth (at a minimum), she’s breaking the contract.

Did they sign a contract that says she has to have her body available for his desires whenever he wants it?


Google “free use”
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Anonymous wrote:We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?


The first step down a long road. Bet in a year there will be no sex and you will think your marriage is great!
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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.


Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.


Is he afraid to masterbate?


Then what’s he need her for?

so he only married her for sex?


No. He didn’t marry only for sex. We have a great relationship but he has always had a high sex drive. I never minded because I loved daily sex until I got pregnant with my first. We went through barely having sex for the last 3 years. How he wants it more. We haven’t had daily sex for more than a couple of weeks and I’m already done with it. I told him he needs to cut it down to 3-4 times a week with two blowjobs. He agreed to this.
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Anonymous wrote:Does he make sure that you O each time? 5 O’s a week sounds heavenly. We are only at twice a week and I have to “remind” DH that I would like to climax too.


Yes! I O multiple times each time. He’s a great lover and always give me oral before intercourse. I am lucky to be able to O very easily. I can easily O 2-3 times in a 20 minute session.
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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.


There isn’t. He has been very understanding and patient. We had little sex the last 3 years. Sometimes it was months in between because of pregnancy and breastfeeding.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.


I’ve never had sex when I didn’t feel like it.
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Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.


I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.

If you’re sore, mix it up. You have three holes, so alternate.
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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.


Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.


Is he afraid to masterbate?


Then what’s he need her for?

so he only married her for sex?


No. He didn’t marry only for sex. We have a great relationship but he has always had a high sex drive. I never minded because I loved daily sex until I got pregnant with my first. We went through barely having sex for the last 3 years. How he wants it more. We haven’t had daily sex for more than a couple of weeks and I’m already done with it. I told him he needs to cut it down to 3-4 times a week with two blowjobs. He agreed to this.


Then why are you here posting?
Anonymous
Ew, no one cares about your boring sex life and how you want it less...go talk to your friends about this.
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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.


Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.


Is he afraid to masterbate?


Then what’s he need her for?

Do you treat your wife as a sex doll? Not a real person?


If she’s not using her hands or her mouth (at a minimum), she’s breaking the contract.

Did they sign a contract that says she has to have her body available for his desires whenever he wants it?

Yes she did when she married him
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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.
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