I told DH I want less sex..

[Anonymous]

Open it up, OP!

[Anonymous]

We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

My husband can go every day and would be quite satisfied with it. I, on the other hand, do not like every day. It starts to feel like a chore if it is every day. Like brush your teeth every night and do it. It lacked so much intimacy, no connection, just obligation. So we do it 2 times a week and an additional one time to please him. My body part does not even enjoy every day and yes, it has to recover for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you enjoy the sex? Or just have it to get it out of the way?

I enjoy the sex. I love sex and it’s been great but too frequently makes me sore the next morning. Even gentle sex can make me sore if we are having sex everyday.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

I don’t feel used. We have an almost 1 year and almost 3 year old. We had little sex when our second came because we were both so tired. It was down to once a week at most. Our marriage is fine but we wanted to get back to the way we used to be. This involves making time for each other and frequent sex.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- How has your husband encouraged these efforts to have and continue to have frequent sex. Was it simply to agree that it’s in the best interest of the relationship?

I wish my wife was willing to have sex once a week.

He is an equal parent and we split everything 50/50. He takes me out and hires a sitter so we have ample time together. He initiates sex. We wanted more sex and a stronger bond after the last 3 years of little sex and little time together because of pregnancy, breastfeeding, and having young kids while working full time jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:Get ready for him to cheat.

100%

My close friend lost interest in sex after baby #2. Her husband traveled a lot for work and was hooking up with randoms during those trips to satisfy his needs. Then it morphed into him lying about having work trips and taking PTO to meet with his APs. That's how he got caught.

We all warned her that she needed to see a doc or do some therapy to find out why she had zero sex drive b/c it would cause him to stray. She said we were crazy because he was such a perfect husband and dad.

He isn’t cheating. He wouldn’t do that.

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds rapey. Sex should be about BOTH partners, not just for a man to get his rocks off. Presumably he has two working hands for the other days.

He doesn’t force me. He is fine if I say no. He just expresses how he would like it often.

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds rapey. Sex should be about BOTH partners, not just for a man to get his rocks off. Presumably he has two working hands for the other days.

+1 who the heck demands sex twice a day! And pouts if he doesn't get it? That's frankly outrageous. He needs therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

Indeed. Why get married at all? Actually, don't have kids if you want that much sex all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

so he only married her for sex?