I told DH I want less sex..

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

so he only married her for sex?

No. He didn’t marry only for sex. We have a great relationship but he has always had a high sex drive. I never minded because I loved daily sex until I got pregnant with my first. We went through barely having sex for the last 3 years. How he wants it more. We haven’t had daily sex for more than a couple of weeks and I’m already done with it. I told him he needs to cut it down to 3-4 times a week with two blowjobs. He agreed to this.

sounds so clinical

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

Do you treat your wife as a sex doll? Not a real person?

If she’s not using her hands or her mouth (at a minimum), she’s breaking the contract.

Did they sign a contract that says she has to have her body available for his desires whenever he wants it?

Yes she did when she married him

I doubt he had a contract made up that explicitly stated this. No, vows don't imply this. Are you living in the 1800s or something? Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.

I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.

If you’re sore, mix it up. You have three holes, so alternate.

I’m sure he’d appreciate the variety as well!

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

Do you treat your wife as a sex doll? Not a real person?

If she’s not using her hands or her mouth (at a minimum), she’s breaking the contract.

So… yes. You do treat your wife as a sex doll. She is not allowed to say no. Do you not have your own hands?

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Believe me, your DH wants less sex with you, too, but he's trying to avoid the drama of an affair. It's a compromise for you both to keep the marriage intact.

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds rapey. Sex should be about BOTH partners, not just for a man to get his rocks off. Presumably he has two working hands for the other days.

Well there isn't a perfect time that both people are in the mood often there are compromises.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.

I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.

1-2 times a day ? Who has time for that ?!?

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds rapey. Sex should be about BOTH partners, not just for a man to get his rocks off. Presumably he has two working hands for the other days.

Well there isn't a perfect time that both people are in the mood often there are compromises.

How do you compromise on sex? Either you feel like it or you don't. Otherwise it becomes just another chore, which builds up resentment.

IMO, men should just not have kids. It ruins their sex life.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? I would just feel used honestly.

+1 it's rapey to have sex when you don't want it.

No it’s not. Not in a marriage

Marital rape is a thing babe.

There’s no rape in op’s marriage.

Yet it still exists! Even if you try to deny it, rape does happen in marriage and no it’s not ok.

Rape is never ok. However there’s no rape in this situation

having sex when you don't feel like it because the other person wants you to is rapey.

Its not rape unless someone is forcing them. Op is having sex out of her free will.

Having sex when you don't feel like it is rapey, not that it's rape. It's still gross. It's transactional.

Def gives transactional.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, your DH wants less sex with you, too, but he's trying to avoid the drama of an affair. It's a compromise for you both to keep the marriage intact.

DP here. Why does everyone on this site act like cheating is the worst thing someone can do to another person? People who think this had lived charmed lives.

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Then what’s he need her for?

so he only married her for sex?

No. He didn’t marry only for sex. We have a great relationship but he has always had a high sex drive. I never minded because I loved daily sex until I got pregnant with my first. We went through barely having sex for the last 3 years. How he wants it more. We haven’t had daily sex for more than a couple of weeks and I’m already done with it. I told him he needs to cut it down to 3-4 times a week with two blowjobs. He agreed to this.

Then why are you here posting?

this

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Thats gross, especially in a marriage

Oh my god Carrie’s mom has entered the chat.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, your DH wants less sex with you, too, but he's trying to avoid the drama of an affair. It's a compromise for you both to keep the marriage intact.

DP here. Why does everyone on this site act like cheating is the worst thing someone can do to another person? People who think this had lived charmed lives.

seems to me you have low expectations of marriage and are cynical.

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Anonymous wrote:We had three children in almost exactly four years so my husband knew that everyday sex wasn't going to happen. It would have been a quickie at best. We found that twice a week was just fine (always on Sunday night!) and we'd really take our time and often try new things. He'd get pretty horny as I recovered from C-sections but a good BJ and HJ took care of that. Needing sex every day is ridiculous.

Most of the sex is quickies. His biggest thing was more blowjob because that was an almost never thing since we had kids.

Is he afraid to masterbate?

Thats gross, especially in a marriage

Oh my god Carrie’s mom has entered the chat.

who is carrie's mom?