Why do women do so well compared to men post divorce?

[Anonymous]

My ex wife looks miserable as f***k. But that's hardly a surprise because she is rotten to the core. She has turned into a drunk and is rotating boyfriends. The last thing she told me when our divorce was final was that she was so high value and will end up with someone so much better than me. It's been 5 years. 2 more years and I will never hear from her ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many bitter threads here. I must be the only deliriously happy married person on this site. After 37 years, I can honestly say I love my spouse more today than ever.

Then this post ain't for you, boo. Keep it pushin'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex-H is out there looking fine as wine, thriving, fit and all that. I'm pretty sure he's still self-sabotaging and breaking hearts though. He does those two things the best.

Same with mine. Hardly a surprise though. He is incredibly charming smart and a 1st class womanizer. After AP#2 we called it quit. He is now dating someone probably 10 years younger than me and I won't lie she is very attractive. Again not a surprise. I am so much happier though..I no longer have to worry about him sleeping around and potentially catching some STI putting my health at risk. Despite his faults though he is a very good father. He doesn't miss meet any school event, travel with our son to his fencing tournaments, etc. Co-parenting has been a breeze. In a way we are both happy. He can live his forever bachelor life and I don't have to agree over an unfaithful partner

[Anonymous]

As a divorced woman I’m happy for a few reasons. The biggest reason is that I am no longer being physically, emotionally, and mentally abused. The abuse had me clinically depressed for years. There was no where to go but up after leaving. Next I’m doing better because I no longer live with an insecure hatter that tries to sabotage my career. Turns out unlike what my ex tried to reinforce daily (because he was afraid I’d out earn him), I am indeed smart and highly valuable on the job market. I am also doing better because I only have to take care of me and my kids. Not some stubborn messy man child’s Living in a clean home brings me joy. I’m also happier because I can hang out with my kids in peace. There is no Debbie downer killing the mood on family fun. Lastly, I’m doing better because dating has gone well. There are good men out there who have done their work, gone to therapy, and no how to treat women properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex-H is out there looking fine as wine, thriving, fit and all that. I'm pretty sure he's still self-sabotaging and breaking hearts though. He does those two things the best.

Same with mine. Hardly a surprise though. He is incredibly charming smart and a 1st class womanizer. After AP#2 we called it quit. He is now dating someone probably 10 years younger than me and I won't lie she is very attractive. Again not a surprise. I am so much happier though..I no longer have to worry about him sleeping around and potentially catching some STI putting my health at risk. Despite his faults though he is a very good father. He doesn't miss meet any school event, travel with our son to his fencing tournaments, etc. Co-parenting has been a breeze. In a way we are both happy. He can live his forever bachelor life and I don't have to agree over an unfaithful partner

Yes, I feel the exact same way! Mine is a womanizer as well only his AP #2 was the same as AP #1 (I was silly enough to take him back after the first time) and after a couple years they broke up. Surprise, surprise!! Now he's just out there rolling around looking for "love." Smh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so.

I’m a guy and I’m doing better . Have my own place, dating hotter younger women and have equal custody with my kid .

My gf now is steps above my ex wife in terms of looks and personality. And about 15 years younger. My last gf was 18 years younger .


Issue is most women are running around and date bf the same few guys, then getting their backs blown out and ghosted then think all guys are bad. It’s their own bad decisions and no one wants to be in a serious relationship with an old bitter hag with kids. Go out on dates, EVERY woman I’ve been on date with who is divorced says their ex-husband is a narcissist. Then they go out and date narcissists apparently, because they all complain their ex-boyfriends are too.

At first I’m like, that’s not even statistically possible — but then realized women usually try to date the top 5% and they wonder why they’re pumped and dumped. It was so easy to get single moms in their 40s to have sex in one or two dates. That’s why I called it quits on dating them and stuck To younger women who want more of a relationship.

Dude, it’s possible because you are a narcissist and attracting women who date narcissists.

This seems incredibly obvious to anyone who isn’t trying to dance circles around it.

Ooo watch out brother….armchair psychologists here.

He’s right, you constantly hear women complain their exes are narcissists. So women inherently make bad decisions. They use the “he’s a narcissist” schtick to justify their crappy behaviors. Oh he was a narcissist so it’s ok I dumped him after I slept with a guy I met on tinder….most have an aversion to accountability, that’s why every failed relationship is the guys fault, you’ll never hear a woman admit she was at fault for anything.

With that being said, keep that in mind every time you go on a date and you hear them rant about their ex. If you find one who doesn’t she’s a woman you want to consider keeping around.

As for younger women, they’re often better looking and not bitter, have at it if you can.

[Anonymous]

I understand younger women are hotter, I completely agree. But I would not want to date somebody closer in age to my children than myself. I feel as if the age gap and cultural gap is just too large.

Additionally, but being proud of only dating women 15-20 years younger than you makes it obvious that you care nothing about women other than their looks. IME your ex is the lucky one. I wouldn't want to date a man who only cared about the status of dating younger women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather than make it a gender thing, why not just say that if one person is dead weight in the marriage, they will often fair worse in a divorce than their spouse. If one partner takes much better care of themselves, they'll do better on the dating scene than a spouse who let themselves go. If one partner has a significantly better career, they'll eventually end up in a better place most of the time, but this will vary by couple based on their age, length of marriage, where they live, and what they got in their settlement.

You left out the part where the non default parent more formally reverts back to simple, selfish singlehood life asap.

yep. it’s hard to stomach but at least I don’t have to deal with his disgusting socks and wet towels on a daily basis on top of the dead weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex-H is out there looking fine as wine, thriving, fit and all that. I'm pretty sure he's still self-sabotaging and breaking hearts though. He does those two things the best.

Same with mine. Hardly a surprise though. He is incredibly charming smart and a 1st class womanizer. After AP#2 we called it quit. He is now dating someone probably 10 years younger than me and I won't lie she is very attractive. Again not a surprise. I am so much happier though..I no longer have to worry about him sleeping around and potentially catching some STI putting my health at risk. Despite his faults though he is a very good father. He doesn't miss meet any school event, travel with our son to his fencing tournaments, etc. Co-parenting has been a breeze. In a way we are both happy. He can live his forever bachelor life and I don't have to agree over an unfaithful partner

dang you’re so grounded to be so calm about it! i’m impressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so.

I’m a guy and I’m doing better . Have my own place, dating hotter younger women and have equal custody with my kid .

My gf now is steps above my ex wife in terms of looks and personality. And about 15 years younger. My last gf was 18 years younger .


Issue is most women are running around and date bf the same few guys, then getting their backs blown out and ghosted then think all guys are bad. It’s their own bad decisions and no one wants to be in a serious relationship with an old bitter hag with kids. Go out on dates, EVERY woman I’ve been on date with who is divorced says their ex-husband is a narcissist. Then they go out and date narcissists apparently, because they all complain their ex-boyfriends are too.

At first I’m like, that’s not even statistically possible — but then realized women usually try to date the top 5% and they wonder why they’re pumped and dumped. It was so easy to get single moms in their 40s to have sex in one or two dates. That’s why I called it quits on dating them and stuck To younger women who want more of a relationship.

Dude, it’s possible because you are a narcissist and attracting women who date narcissists.

This seems incredibly obvious to anyone who isn’t trying to dance circles around it.

Ooo watch out brother….armchair psychologists here.

He’s right, you constantly hear women complain their exes are narcissists. So women inherently make bad decisions. They use the “he’s a narcissist” schtick to justify their crappy behaviors. Oh he was a narcissist so it’s ok I dumped him after I slept with a guy I met on tinder….most have an aversion to accountability, that’s why every failed relationship is the guys fault, you’ll never hear a woman admit she was at fault for anything.

With that being said, keep that in mind every time you go on a date and you hear them rant about their ex. If you find one who doesn’t she’s a woman you want to consider keeping around.

As for younger women, they’re often better looking and not bitter, have at it if you can.

oh yes, a dude who uses phrases like “getting their backs blown out” is definitely a high quality keeper and very respectful of women!

[Anonymous]

Women give emotionally and men take.

Also, studies have shown that when men get married their time spent on housekeeping goes down while women’s goes up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so.

I’m a guy and I’m doing better . Have my own place, dating hotter younger women and have equal custody with my kid .

My gf now is steps above my ex wife in terms of looks and personality. And about 15 years younger. My last gf was 18 years younger .


Issue is most women are running around and date bf the same few guys, then getting their backs blown out and ghosted then think all guys are bad. It’s their own bad decisions and no one wants to be in a serious relationship with an old bitter hag with kids. Go out on dates, EVERY woman I’ve been on date with who is divorced says their ex-husband is a narcissist. Then they go out and date narcissists apparently, because they all complain their ex-boyfriends are too.

At first I’m like, that’s not even statistically possible — but then realized women usually try to date the top 5% and they wonder why they’re pumped and dumped. It was so easy to get single moms in their 40s to have sex in one or two dates. That’s why I called it quits on dating them and stuck To younger women who want more of a relationship.

Dude, it’s possible because you are a narcissist and attracting women who date narcissists.

This seems incredibly obvious to anyone who isn’t trying to dance circles around it.

Ooo watch out brother….armchair psychologists here.

He’s right, you constantly hear women complain their exes are narcissists. So women inherently make bad decisions. They use the “he’s a narcissist” schtick to justify their crappy behaviors. Oh he was a narcissist so it’s ok I dumped him after I slept with a guy I met on tinder….most have an aversion to accountability, that’s why every failed relationship is the guys fault, you’ll never hear a woman admit she was at fault for anything.

With that being said, keep that in mind every time you go on a date and you hear them rant about their ex. If you find one who doesn’t she’s a woman you want to consider keeping around.

As for younger women, they’re often better looking and not bitter, have at it if you can.

oh yes, a dude who uses phrases like “getting their backs blown out” is definitely a high quality keeper and very respectful of women!

Lol. I had the same impression of the PP.

That said, I think women who say that their exes were narcissists are pretty much the same as men who say their exes were psychos. Some percentage of those are giving accurate, honest assessments of their exes, but mostly they were, themselves, the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women "do better" on average post-divorce.

However, a small subset of "high value" men will truly skyrocket post-divorce. There are the ones who do not fall into substance abuse, poor food choices, and spiraling thoughts. They get into better shape, date younger, etc.

But lets not miss the forest for the trees. Most men post-divorce do horribly.

True, but high value men often attract high value younger women who want their own family and they aren't willing to settle for less time or money from their spouse, regardless of what other things he has going on in his life. Is the 50-year-old man with a gorgeous, 30-something wife and two young kids doing better than his 50-something ex who has intentionally elected not to remarry? She may live in a smaller house or a condo, but she's free, and presumably, has plenty of money after a divorce settlement from a high value ex.

But she lives a sexless life and feels lonely. Most high value 50+ year old men will prefer dating 30-40 year old women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women give emotionally and men take.

Also, studies have shown that when men get married their time spent on housekeeping goes down while women’s goes up.

That would make sense just based on the percentage of women who no longer work at marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand younger women are hotter, I completely agree. But I would not want to date somebody closer in age to my children than myself. I feel as if the age gap and cultural gap is just too large.

Additionally, but being proud of only dating women 15-20 years younger than you makes it obvious that you care nothing about women other than their looks. IME your ex is the lucky one. I wouldn't want to date a man who only cared about the status of dating younger women.

Hotter, less bitter, less mental issues, open their schedules for you if they like you, out in effort. There’s a plethora of reasons high value men like you get attractive women. Men are visually driven, so if the woman you’re with is hot that’s a good thing. But when she has a good personality and does t rant about her “narcissistic” ex that’s a big bonus .

The best woman I dated was 16 years younger than me. She was an amazing person intellectually and physically. She loved the gym, she had a great job and a good personality. Ahh she asked for in return was respect (which I gave in droves) and not hurt her. I did mess that relationship up though, not by being disrespectful or hurting her, I certainly didn’t, I was a little too needy. That was on me and it ended up being too much for her. I admit I wasn’t in the best place mentally but thought I was. We broke up amicably but it stung. But even with me not at my best I still pulled an utter bombshell of a woman and regret messing it up. All my friends were jealous and my female friends called me a “predator”. She was 28 she was capable of making her own decisions, but whatever stay mad.


But lessons learned.

After that I didn’t want to date women my age, because most are train wrecks