Why do women do so well compared to men post divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.

And the other 1/2 earn 0. It's the SAHMs that don't have family $ that usually sink below their former standard of living.

Yeah. Know a few gunning for exit affairs that went belly up, got caught, got served and now middle aged thrown into the working world they haven’t been a part of for 20 years.

My son's best frend's mom is one of them. Hadn't worked since he was born 17 years ago. She screwed another dad (single) in our kid's circle of friends and her husband found out. Dropped her like a hot potato. She went from being basically retired, living in a huge house in Old Town, married to a decent enough guy making about 400k to working as a K prep assiatant and living in a shitty one bed apartment on Duke street

I'm pretty sure the affair wasn't worth it.

Former neighbor- similar. Husband dumped her after finding out about affairs. Had to sell the dream home and move into a crappy rental apartment in Rockville. Working a job 20-somethings do as a side hobby, not middle aged people as a primary source of income.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think women necessarily do better and smart women honestly are unlikely to ever be in relationship again especially if they already have children.

Sounds like me.

I am definitely not doing better by any yardstick. On some level, I’m pretty envious of XH who seems to have started fresh, as if we never existed at all. I’m firmly in the never again camp. My kids come first. It’s also easy to say “never again” when you know there isn’t much demand for 50+ moms with younger kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

Curious why you can’t do this also? Date a younger man, travel all the time?

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

Curious why you can’t do this also? Date a younger man, travel all the time?

Maybe I'll answer for her but I could be wrong. I think a lot of women are still not into dating younger especially if they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't think women are visually driven the men are. Men are more attracted to youth compared to woman.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

Curious why you can’t do this also? Date a younger man, travel all the time?

Maybe I'll answer for her but I could be wrong. I think a lot of women are still not into dating younger especially if they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't think women are visually driven the men are. Men are more attracted to youth compared to woman.

I don’t know. I am a woman I am 1000% visually driven and to men as well. So I just don’t get it.

Especially if you are financially ok and not looking to stay afloat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women do so well post divorce compared to men? Women look and act happier. Their love life is better. Men on the other hand go downhill....

Not true, unless in 55+ age group.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

Curious why you can’t do this also? Date a younger man, travel all the time?

Maybe I'll answer for her but I could be wrong. I think a lot of women are still not into dating younger especially if they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't think women are visually driven the men are. Men are more attracted to youth compared to woman.

I don’t know. I am a woman I am 1000% visually driven and to men as well. So I just don’t get it.

Especially if you are financially ok and not looking to stay afloat.

I am not going I am 45 but very fit and attractive. From what I have seen it seems that there are more attractive women than men. Men just have more attractive women across all.ages to choose from. Men for whatever reasons just don't keep in shape regardless of age. After 40 it's a disaster men are totally okay with having a massive belly. Big love handles, chest that look like breast how do women even get wet when presented with a naked person like that.

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pp not going meant "young"

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

Curious why you can’t do this also? Date a younger man, travel all the time?

Maybe I'll answer for her but I could be wrong. I think a lot of women are still not into dating younger especially if they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't think women are visually driven the men are. Men are more attracted to youth compared to woman.

I don’t know. I am a woman I am 1000% visually driven and to men as well. So I just don’t get it.

Especially if you are financially ok and not looking to stay afloat.

I am not going I am 45 but very fit and attractive. From what I have seen it seems that there are more attractive women than men. Men just have more attractive women across all.ages to choose from. Men for whatever reasons just don't keep in shape regardless of age. After 40 it's a disaster men are totally okay with having a massive belly. Big love handles, chest that look like breast how do women even get wet when presented with a naked person like that.[b]

The first makes sense. Women just try harder. All a man has to do is look good in addition and he will be successful then.

And I agree. They don’t get turned on by that. I think part of why the stereotype older women don’t want sex is their husbands are overweight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

Curious why you can’t do this also? Date a younger man, travel all the time?

I make an ok salary but not as much as him and we have a kid that have a bit more than him. Life is expensive on a single income in this area and I have to spend my money on other things besides travel. If I could get a younger man I would. I’ve tried. 😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m doing way better than my ex-wife. She has gained weight, dated a couple of losers and she keeps bugging me more than she should.

And,weight gain plays into the equation how?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m doing way better than my ex-wife. She has gained weight, dated a couple of losers and she keeps bugging me more than she should.

And,weight gain plays into the equation how?

For whatever reason when people get fat many find that to be less attractive. Go figure!

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Anonymous wrote:When I was 45 I dated someone who was 28. She was a nice person, very sexy and attractive and super smart. I liked her a lot. Life differences get in the way. I had a mortgage, a kid, divorce and things like that. Life gets stressful. She had no worries, just her work. Her days included going to work and the gym and friends. Mine was work, kid, doing stuff around the house, gym, kids sports matches..etc. If you're divorced you know. Things got complicated with my kid and I think it was a little too much for her to deal with. I get that, so we parted ways. We talked for a while afterwards but haven't in months so probably for the best. No hard feelings though, I hope she finds someone good for her she's quite a catch.

I'm dating someone five-six years younger than me now (my ex was two years older) and it's more on the same level. She's smart, sexy and funny too. So more my speed.


Dating younger is fun (youngest women I dated was 24 when I was 42) and they look great, but then again you're dealing with people who do expect you to pay for everything, they haven't really discovered themselves sexually and different stages of your life. The awesome part is you can show them stuff in bed they haven't seen before. So hearing them say "I didn't know my body could do that" is super hot. The downside is you can show them stuff they haven't seen before. At this point I want someone who is like...let me do this to you I know I like it. That's hotter to me. Still sometime even when they're older you still get the aforementioned comment sometimes, and I'm like...who the hell have you been married to? did you NOT have fun in bed?

Also it's nice to have someone to relate to in terms of your daily life struggles. Younger women don't really know that.

My ex-wife has dated a couple of guys but I can tell you they're step down from me physically. At least what I have seen of them. So her loss in that area. But she chose the path to divorce so meh...that's her problem not mine.

I'm happy now with someone I really like so there's that. I hope it keeps working out because there's is something different about this one and i like it.

The sad truth is a lot of men are very bad in bed! But hey, kudos to you for giving the ladies a good time 😘

Agreed. It's amazing how many men in their 40s are not great in bed, but they think they are because they have had so many experiences. Maybe going younger is better for them because the young ones also don't know what is good. HA! HA! HA!

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Women spend a lot of time worrying about their children and men go and make new children.

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My Xh is doing way better than me. He has had a real glow-up. It's been almost 4 years since our divorce and he has found a long term GF. He's 41 and she is 30. He's an amazing catch, makes a ton of money and is easy on the eyes so I'm not surprised. It sucks but it's the truth if I am being honest with the situation. I am stressed, tired and running around between, work and kid stuff. It has all aged me. Not to mention the trauma the actual divorce caused too.