Why do women do so well compared to men post divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In most marriages, even very healthy ones, women do most of the worrying and caretaking for both partners. More in unhealthy marriages. Post divorce, the woman only has to take care of her self, her happiness etc (and kids but she was doing it anyway). Men all of a sudden beed to do all the things mental and physical they didn't do prior and its hard. So they either remarry fast or don't do great. This is not everyone, but typical from what ive seen.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

These are assumptions.

They are observations not assumptions. If the women are younger than 50 then yes they sometimes remarry.

Show your statistics that women over 50 don't remarry. They do actually just in slightly smaller numbers than men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

Agreed and I'm a woman. I'm spending a lot of my time trying to make ends meet and raise the kids and getting judged by my peers. My friends are kind but judge negatively and worry about divorce spread and without a husband I often don't fit in well. Money is low so less ability to do social things. The kids are needy. It's a lot of work and my friendships have gone down, not up. I do feel more capable but that's mainly because I now have to do more. I got the house for the kids and its a ton of upkeep. I now get to do all the volunteer work and am looked down on if I dont do my share. Swim team is almost a daily second job. My ex is doing worse if you mean social status and better if you mean more money and a relaxing life. He's moved onto easy street with the responsibilities of someone single and out of college with no debt. Lives in some apartment in DC with a revolving door of lovers. It's like an early retirement. Meanwhile my child from age 10 on had to grow up basically without a father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

These are assumptions.

They are observations not assumptions. If the women are younger than 50 then yes they sometimes remarry.

Show your statistics that women over 50 don't remarry. They do actually just in slightly smaller numbers than men

Percent of People Who Divorced at 50 or Older and Did Not Remarry or Cohabit. The women who did partner again were more likely to remarry (12.5 percent) than to cohabit (10.9 percent). For men, it was the reverse: 16.5 percent of them cohabited, compared to 14.6 percent who remarried.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202302/what-do-most-people-over-50-do-after-divorce-stay-single?amp

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

These are assumptions.

They are observations not assumptions. If the women are younger than 50 then yes they sometimes remarry.

Show your statistics that women over 50 don't remarry. They do actually just in slightly smaller numbers than men

Percent of People Who Divorced at 50 or Older and Did Not Remarry or Cohabit. The women who did partner again were more likely to remarry (12.5 percent) than to cohabit (10.9 percent). For men, it was the reverse: 16.5 percent of them cohabited, compared to 14.6 percent who remarried.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202302/what-do-most-people-over-50-do-after-divorce-stay-single?amp

Right so almost 85 percent of both sexes don't cohabite or marry.

[Anonymous]

My bad. 70 to 75 percent don't remarry or cohabitation. I'm happy for this group but the statistics say it's about even and the majority don't even get to either of these stages again.

[Anonymous]

Vast amount of stereotyping going on here.

Years after divorce, I remarried and am a living much better than when I was married to her. ExW remains in a one-bedroom apartment, living in a state our anxiety. Our children are all young adults now so living with neither of us but I deal with ExW enough to know that she never moved on financially or emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My bad. 70 to 75 percent don't remarry or cohabitation. I'm happy for this group but the statistics say it's about even and the majority don't even get to either of these stages again.

Interesting. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Because people who give are usually healthier and happier than selfish people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced man and I can share my experience. When my wife filed for divorce it came as a shock. By the time she filed she had already grieved the end of the marriage I assume. And women have a better support network. Unlike men they don't suffer in silence. They talk. They will talk to anyone who will listen to them. So in my opinion this could explain the reason women do better post divorce. But this ability to cope better following a traumatic event like a divorce is also an innate advantage that women have over men. We cannot ignore our biological differences. Each sex has strengths and weaknesses compared to the other.

This seems like a very red pill (or purple pill?) thing to say. Being able to talk to your friends openly is definitely something that you can work on. Men are certainly able to have feelings and to voice them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women do so well post divorce compared to men? Women look and act happier. Their love life is better. Men on the other hand go downhill....

Look is the key word here.

[Anonymous]

1). Support network
2). Ability to find a new sexual partner (whether they want to or not, this is a tremendous advantage)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they did everything to begin with.

This.

Not if your wife had severe ADHD and struggled with executive functioning, follow-through, organization, energy, depression, phone addiction.

[Anonymous]

Men seem to remarry and move on pretty quickly.

[Anonymous]

Women at any age have an advantage whether married divorced or single. For example if a man wants to hook up he can only get a woman who also wants him. A woman on the other hand can be with the guy she wants because any man she picks will likely say yes because that man knows he is competing with countless other men out there.