Why do women do so well compared to men post divorce?

[Anonymous]

When you’re dating a much younger woman you’re just dating the person who hasn’t yet figured out or experienced the things that will make her a “train wreck” in 15 years. It’s the same person, most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you’re dating a much younger woman you’re just dating the person who hasn’t yet figured out or experienced the things that will make her a “train wreck” in 15 years. It’s the same person, most of the time.

And part of what makes a middle aged woman a trainwreck is the experience she has dating these 15 years older men. These men create the very problems they hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you’re dating a much younger woman you’re just dating the person who hasn’t yet figured out or experienced the things that will make her a “train wreck” in 15 years. It’s the same person, most of the time.

No that’s not what’s going on.

When you are selfish you shouldn’t be in a close relationship. And definitely should not have kids or dependents- you won’t or don’t take care of them.

You wreck the relationship and hit the Restart buttons over and over.

Maybe go for a low IQ milk maid type, who’s desperatez

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so.

I’m a guy and I’m doing better . Have my own place, dating hotter younger women and have equal custody with my kid .

My gf now is steps above my ex wife in terms of looks and personality. And about 15 years younger. My last gf was 18 years younger .


Issue is most women are running around and date bf the same few guys, then getting their backs blown out and ghosted then think all guys are bad. It’s their own bad decisions and no one wants to be in a serious relationship with an old bitter hag with kids. Go out on dates, EVERY woman I’ve been on date with who is divorced says their ex-husband is a narcissist. Then they go out and date narcissists apparently, because they all complain their ex-boyfriends are too.

At first I’m like, that’s not even statistically possible — but then realized women usually try to date the top 5% and they wonder why they’re pumped and dumped. It was so easy to get single moms in their 40s to have sex in one or two dates. That’s why I called it quits on dating them and stuck To younger women who want more of a relationship.

Dude, it’s possible because you are a narcissist and attracting women who date narcissists.

This seems incredibly obvious to anyone who isn’t trying to dance circles around it.

Ooo watch out brother….armchair psychologists here.

He’s right, you constantly hear women complain their exes are narcissists. So women inherently make bad decisions. They use the “he’s a narcissist” schtick to justify their crappy behaviors. Oh he was a narcissist so it’s ok I dumped him after I slept with a guy I met on tinder….most have an aversion to accountability, that’s why every failed relationship is the guys fault, you’ll never hear a woman admit she was at fault for anything.

With that being said, keep that in mind every time you go on a date and you hear them rant about their ex. If you find one who doesn’t she’s a woman you want to consider keeping around.

As for younger women, they’re often better looking and not bitter, have at it if you can.

I’m a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. I do hear some women say this, but very few. Certainly no one I know in my personal life talks like this.

If you find yourself consistently dating the very small portion of women who complain about all of the men they date being narcissists, then something about you is attractive to women who are attracted to narcissistic men.

I’m not saying that everyone who has ever dated a woman who complains about narcissistic exes is a narcissist himself. As you pointed out, these women have a poor sense of self and tend to date a lot of different men. But if you every woman you date has a past full of narcissistic exes that she has cheated on, then that is you. This is a seriously small percentage of women, and either you are seeking them out or they are seeking you out, and neither is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so.

I’m a guy and I’m doing better . Have my own place, dating hotter younger women and have equal custody with my kid .

My gf now is steps above my ex wife in terms of looks and personality. And about 15 years younger. My last gf was 18 years younger .


Issue is most women are running around and date bf the same few guys, then getting their backs blown out and ghosted then think all guys are bad. It’s their own bad decisions and no one wants to be in a serious relationship with an old bitter hag with kids. Go out on dates, EVERY woman I’ve been on date with who is divorced says their ex-husband is a narcissist. Then they go out and date narcissists apparently, because they all complain their ex-boyfriends are too.

At first I’m like, that’s not even statistically possible — but then realized women usually try to date the top 5% and they wonder why they’re pumped and dumped. It was so easy to get single moms in their 40s to have sex in one or two dates. That’s why I called it quits on dating them and stuck To younger women who want more of a relationship.

Dude, it’s possible because you are a narcissist and attracting women who date narcissists.

This seems incredibly obvious to anyone who isn’t trying to dance circles around it.

Ooo watch out brother….armchair psychologists here.

He’s right, you constantly hear women complain their exes are narcissists. So women inherently make bad decisions. They use the “he’s a narcissist” schtick to justify their crappy behaviors. Oh he was a narcissist so it’s ok I dumped him after I slept with a guy I met on tinder….most have an aversion to accountability, that’s why every failed relationship is the guys fault, you’ll never hear a woman admit she was at fault for anything.

With that being said, keep that in mind every time you go on a date and you hear them rant about their ex. If you find one who doesn’t she’s a woman you want to consider keeping around.

As for younger women, they’re often better looking and not bitter, have at it if you can.

I’m a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. I do hear some women say this, but very few. Certainly no one I know in my personal life talks like this.

If you find yourself consistently dating the very small portion of women who complain about all of the men they date being narcissists, then something about you is attractive to women who are attracted to narcissistic men.

I’m not saying that everyone who has ever dated a woman who complains about narcissistic exes is a narcissist himself. As you pointed out, these women have a poor sense of self and tend to date a lot of different men. But if you every woman you date has a past full of narcissistic exes that she has cheated on, then that is you. This is a seriously small percentage of women, and either you are seeking them out or they are seeking you out, and neither is good.

You’re full of garbage and it shows. Studies show women are attracted to narcissists.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201406/why-we-fall-narcissists?amp

It’s either genetics or bad decision making skills.

You’re a woman so no woman is going to complain to you about their narcissistic ex, they’re not dating you. Guys hear it all the time.

I’d figure that’s not statistically possible, are they dating the same guys? Turns out yeah…yeah they are.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/women-more-selective-80-men-unattractive-on-dating-apps-recent-research

https://m.economictimes.com/magazines/panache/the-math-behind-dating-apps-women-like-only-4-out-of-100-profiles-men-more-likely-to-swipe-right/amp_articleshow/75736043.cms

They’re all selecting 10% or at tops 20% of men so they’re dating the same guys . Those who don’t use dating apps are consistently complaining they can’t find guys. But I’ve seen guys dating multiple women at a time and they seem fine with it. Why? Because he has a ton of money. So they’re selectively putting themselves in their situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you’re dating a much younger woman you’re just dating the person who hasn’t yet figured out or experienced the things that will make her a “train wreck” in 15 years. It’s the same person, most of the time.

Doubtful.

A lot of bitter divorced women out there . They get particularly bitter if their ex has moved on to a younger woman, and ironically those relationships end up in marriages.

I did better than my ex-wife who ended up putting on more weight, looks horrible and is of course constantly bothering me when she knows I’m happy. She’s the one who wanted a divorce not me. But yet here we are.

[Anonymous]

A lot of marriages that break up have an abuser and an abused person. The abused person is instantly “doing better” coming out of the divorce if they are no longer being abused. Data suggests that even physical abuse in marriage is split about 50/50 by sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so.

I’m a guy and I’m doing better . Have my own place, dating hotter younger women and have equal custody with my kid .

My gf now is steps above my ex wife in terms of looks and personality. And about 15 years younger. My last gf was 18 years younger .


Issue is most women are running around and date bf the same few guys, then getting their backs blown out and ghosted then think all guys are bad. It’s their own bad decisions and no one wants to be in a serious relationship with an old bitter hag with kids. Go out on dates, EVERY woman I’ve been on date with who is divorced says their ex-husband is a narcissist. Then they go out and date narcissists apparently, because they all complain their ex-boyfriends are too.

At first I’m like, that’s not even statistically possible — but then realized women usually try to date the top 5% and they wonder why they’re pumped and dumped. It was so easy to get single moms in their 40s to have sex in one or two dates. That’s why I called it quits on dating them and stuck To younger women who want more of a relationship.

Dude, it’s possible because you are a narcissist and attracting women who date narcissists.

This seems incredibly obvious to anyone who isn’t trying to dance circles around it.

Ooo watch out brother….armchair psychologists here.

He’s right, you constantly hear women complain their exes are narcissists. So women inherently make bad decisions. They use the “he’s a narcissist” schtick to justify their crappy behaviors. Oh he was a narcissist so it’s ok I dumped him after I slept with a guy I met on tinder….most have an aversion to accountability, that’s why every failed relationship is the guys fault, you’ll never hear a woman admit she was at fault for anything.

With that being said, keep that in mind every time you go on a date and you hear them rant about their ex. If you find one who doesn’t she’s a woman you want to consider keeping around.

As for younger women, they’re often better looking and not bitter, have at it if you can.

I’m a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. I do hear some women say this, but very few. Certainly no one I know in my personal life talks like this.

If you find yourself consistently dating the very small portion of women who complain about all of the men they date being narcissists, then something about you is attractive to women who are attracted to narcissistic men.

I’m not saying that everyone who has ever dated a woman who complains about narcissistic exes is a narcissist himself. As you pointed out, these women have a poor sense of self and tend to date a lot of different men. But if you every woman you date has a past full of narcissistic exes that she has cheated on, then that is you. This is a seriously small percentage of women, and either you are seeking them out or they are seeking you out, and neither is good.

You’re full of garbage and it shows. Studies show women are attracted to narcissists.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201406/why-we-fall-narcissists?amp

It’s either genetics or bad decision making skills.

You’re a woman so no woman is going to complain to you about their narcissistic ex, they’re not dating you. Guys hear it all the time.

I’d figure that’s not statistically possible, are they dating the same guys? Turns out yeah…yeah they are.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/women-more-selective-80-men-unattractive-on-dating-apps-recent-research

https://m.economictimes.com/magazines/panache/the-math-behind-dating-apps-women-like-only-4-out-of-100-profiles-men-more-likely-to-swipe-right/amp_articleshow/75736043.cms

They’re all selecting 10% or at tops 20% of men so they’re dating the same guys . Those who don’t use dating apps are consistently complaining they can’t find guys. But I’ve seen guys dating multiple women at a time and they seem fine with it. Why? Because he has a ton of money. So they’re selectively putting themselves in their situation.

Do you really think that women never complain to other women about their boyfriend/husband?

[Anonymous]

This isn't my experience, my mom struggled a lot financially when she divorced my dad and she's still single while dad is happily remarried and rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't my experience, my mom struggled a lot financially when she divorced my dad and she's still single while dad is happily remarried and rich.

This is much more typical.

[Anonymous]

Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't my experience, my mom struggled a lot financially when she divorced my dad and she's still single while dad is happily remarried and rich.

This is much more typical.

Is is still the case though today? I feel like women are now more open to dating someone younger which gives them more choice. And further women are doing much better in terms of wage equality. We don’t have full equality yet but we cannot say that divorced women today are going to be financially worse off because in many couples the men do not significantly earn more than women. And in fact we see it in the increasing number of men now receiving child support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many bitter threads here. I must be the only deliriously happy married person on this site. After 37 years, I can honestly say I love my spouse more today than ever.

Wrong thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand younger women are hotter, I completely agree. But I would not want to date somebody closer in age to my children than myself. I feel as if the age gap and cultural gap is just too large.

Additionally, but being proud of only dating women 15-20 years younger than you makes it obvious that you care nothing about women other than their looks. IME your ex is the lucky one. I wouldn't want to date a man who only cared about the status of dating younger women.

Hotter, less bitter, less mental issues, open their schedules for you if they like you, out in effort. There’s a plethora of reasons high value men like you get attractive women. Men are visually driven, so if the woman you’re with is hot that’s a good thing. But when she has a good personality and does t rant about her “narcissistic” ex that’s a big bonus .

The best woman I dated was 16 years younger than me. She was an amazing person intellectually and physically. She loved the gym, she had a great job and a good personality. Ahh she asked for in return was respect (which I gave in droves) and not hurt her. I did mess that relationship up though, not by being disrespectful or hurting her, I certainly didn’t, I was a little too needy. That was on me and it ended up being too much for her. I admit I wasn’t in the best place mentally but thought I was. We broke up amicably but it stung. But even with me not at my best I still pulled an utter bombshell of a woman and regret messing it up. All my friends were jealous and my female friends called me a “predator”. She was 28 she was capable of making her own decisions, but whatever stay mad.


But lessons learned.

After that I didn’t want to date women my age, because most are train wrecks

This statement says so much about you than the women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.