Why do women do so well compared to men post divorce?

[Anonymous]

My ex-husband wanted a divorce and I think he is doing better if I’m being honest. He makes upwards of $350k, has a younger GF, lives in a place with zero maintenance and travels a lot. He’s also a better dad to our child.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was 45 I dated someone who was 28. She was a nice person, very sexy and attractive and super smart. I liked her a lot. Life differences get in the way. I had a mortgage, a kid, divorce and things like that. Life gets stressful. She had no worries, just her work. Her days included going to work and the gym and friends. Mine was work, kid, doing stuff around the house, gym, kids sports matches..etc. If you're divorced you know. Things got complicated with my kid and I think it was a little too much for her to deal with. I get that, so we parted ways. We talked for a while afterwards but haven't in months so probably for the best. No hard feelings though, I hope she finds someone good for her she's quite a catch.

I'm dating someone five-six years younger than me now (my ex was two years older) and it's more on the same level. She's smart, sexy and funny too. So more my speed.


Dating younger is fun (youngest women I dated was 24 when I was 42) and they look great, but then again you're dealing with people who do expect you to pay for everything, they haven't really discovered themselves sexually and different stages of your life. The awesome part is you can show them stuff in bed they haven't seen before. So hearing them say "I didn't know my body could do that" is super hot. The downside is you can show them stuff they haven't seen before. At this point I want someone who is like...let me do this to you I know I like it. That's hotter to me. Still sometime even when they're older you still get the aforementioned comment sometimes, and I'm like...who the hell have you been married to? did you NOT have fun in bed?

Also it's nice to have someone to relate to in terms of your daily life struggles. Younger women don't really know that.

My ex-wife has dated a couple of guys but I can tell you they're step down from me physically. At least what I have seen of them. So her loss in that area. But she chose the path to divorce so meh...that's her problem not mine.

I'm happy now with someone I really like so there's that. I hope it keeps working out because there's is something different about this one and i like it.

46 yo divorced male. Where do all these guys in their mid 40s keep meeting 20 year olds. Since getting divorced all I have dated is 40-50 year old women who are bitter and not wanting to remarry. I need to go on the apps or start talking more when I go to the gym.

[Anonymous]

Women come out of divorce poorer and with more burdens (childcare, etc), but freedom from abuse and servitude …. It makes for a happier woman.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was 45 I dated someone who was 28. She was a nice person, very sexy and attractive and super smart. I liked her a lot. Life differences get in the way. I had a mortgage, a kid, divorce and things like that. Life gets stressful. She had no worries, just her work. Her days included going to work and the gym and friends. Mine was work, kid, doing stuff around the house, gym, kids sports matches..etc. If you're divorced you know. Things got complicated with my kid and I think it was a little too much for her to deal with. I get that, so we parted ways. We talked for a while afterwards but haven't in months so probably for the best. No hard feelings though, I hope she finds someone good for her she's quite a catch.

I'm dating someone five-six years younger than me now (my ex was two years older) and it's more on the same level. She's smart, sexy and funny too. So more my speed.


Dating younger is fun (youngest women I dated was 24 when I was 42) and they look great, but then again you're dealing with people who do expect you to pay for everything, they haven't really discovered themselves sexually and different stages of your life. The awesome part is you can show them stuff in bed they haven't seen before. So hearing them say "I didn't know my body could do that" is super hot. The downside is you can show them stuff they haven't seen before. At this point I want someone who is like...let me do this to you I know I like it. That's hotter to me. Still sometime even when they're older you still get the aforementioned comment sometimes, and I'm like...who the hell have you been married to? did you NOT have fun in bed?

Also it's nice to have someone to relate to in terms of your daily life struggles. Younger women don't really know that.

My ex-wife has dated a couple of guys but I can tell you they're step down from me physically. At least what I have seen of them. So her loss in that area. But she chose the path to divorce so meh...that's her problem not mine.

I'm happy now with someone I really like so there's that. I hope it keeps working out because there's is something different about this one and i like it.

The sad truth is a lot of men are very bad in bed! But hey, kudos to you for giving the ladies a good time 😘

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Anonymous wrote:Women come out of divorce poorer and with more burdens (childcare, etc), but freedom from abuse and servitude …. It makes for a happier woman.

I’m hoping this is true. My kid is devastated and doesn’t know it’s going to get worse because we’ll have to move. I’m hoping that when I get a few months of freedom I’ll feel stronger. At a minimum at least I’ll be able to control my own finances (stbx refused to cooperate in saving/budgeting/investing), and I won’t have the extra housework he creates. Stbx is not taking any custody time yet so maybe when he does and I get a night or two off a week I’ll regain some energy. The divorce wasn’t exactly my choice because I was willing to gut it out for my kid but everyone in my life (friends, relatives, therapists) wanted me to get out.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.

And the other 1/2 earn 0. It's the SAHMs that don't have family $ that usually sink below their former standard of living.

Yeah. Know a few gunning for exit affairs that went belly up, got caught, got served and now middle aged thrown into the working world they haven’t been a part of for 20 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.

And the other 1/2 earn 0. It's the SAHMs that don't have family $ that usually sink below their former standard of living.

Yeah. Know a few gunning for exit affairs that went belly up, got caught, got served and now middle aged thrown into the working world they haven’t been a part of for 20 years.

My son's best frend's mom is one of them. Hadn't worked since he was born 17 years ago. She screwed another dad (single) in our kid's circle of friends and her husband found out. Dropped her like a hot potato. She went from being basically retired, living in a huge house in Old Town, married to a decent enough guy making about 400k to working as a K prep assiatant and living in a shitty one bed apartment on Duke street

I'm pretty sure the affair wasn't worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.

And the other 1/2 earn 0. It's the SAHMs that don't have family $ that usually sink below their former standard of living.

Yeah. Know a few gunning for exit affairs that went belly up, got caught, got served and now middle aged thrown into the working world they haven’t been a part of for 20 years.

My son's best frend's mom is one of them. Hadn't worked since he was born 17 years ago. She screwed another dad (single) in our kid's circle of friends and her husband found out. Dropped her like a hot potato. She went from being basically retired, living in a huge house in Old Town, married to a decent enough guy making about 400k to working as a K prep assiatant and living in a shitty one bed apartment on Duke street

I'm pretty sure the affair wasn't worth it.

I don’t know. This isn’t me, but I’m getting a little tired of the big house in the suburbs and spending so much of my life managing other people’s belongings. Living in a one bedroom apartment sounds kind of nice.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.

And the other 1/2 earn 0. It's the SAHMs that don't have family $ that usually sink below their former standard of living.

Yeah. Know a few gunning for exit affairs that went belly up, got caught, got served and now middle aged thrown into the working world they haven’t been a part of for 20 years.

My son's best frend's mom is one of them. Hadn't worked since he was born 17 years ago. She screwed another dad (single) in our kid's circle of friends and her husband found out. Dropped her like a hot potato. She went from being basically retired, living in a huge house in Old Town, married to a decent enough guy making about 400k to working as a K prep assiatant and living in a shitty one bed apartment on Duke street

I'm pretty sure the affair wasn't worth it.

I don’t know. This isn’t me, but I’m getting a little tired of the big house in the suburbs and spending so much of my life managing other people’s belongings. Living in a one bedroom apartment sounds kind of nice.

"I'm happier by myself in a squallid effeciency off Duke street, surrounded by illegals and sex offenders than I was in a 2.5M historic row house in Old Town!"

-said no one ever.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman had a ton of family money going into or during the marriage, or she divorced a wealthy guy, she is going to struggle a lot after divorce.

What, why? Half of women earn at least 40% of their HHI.

And the other 1/2 earn 0. It's the SAHMs that don't have family $ that usually sink below their former standard of living.

Yeah. Know a few gunning for exit affairs that went belly up, got caught, got served and now middle aged thrown into the working world they haven’t been a part of for 20 years.

My son's best frend's mom is one of them. Hadn't worked since he was born 17 years ago. She screwed another dad (single) in our kid's circle of friends and her husband found out. Dropped her like a hot potato. She went from being basically retired, living in a huge house in Old Town, married to a decent enough guy making about 400k to working as a K prep assiatant and living in a shitty one bed apartment on Duke street

I'm pretty sure the affair wasn't worth it.

I don’t know. This isn’t me, but I’m getting a little tired of the big house in the suburbs and spending so much of my life managing other people’s belongings. Living in a one bedroom apartment sounds kind of nice.

"I'm happier by myself in a squallid effeciency off Duke street, surrounded by illegals and sex offenders than I was in a 2.5M historic row house in Old Town!"

-said no one ever.

How many people say that they were happier when they were first married, even though they were young and broke?
There is nothing inherently fulfilling about a house.

[Anonymous]

I’m doing way better than my ex-wife. She has gained weight, dated a couple of losers and she keeps bugging me more than she should.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was 45 I dated someone who was 28. She was a nice person, very sexy and attractive and super smart. I liked her a lot. Life differences get in the way. I had a mortgage, a kid, divorce and things like that. Life gets stressful. She had no worries, just her work. Her days included going to work and the gym and friends. Mine was work, kid, doing stuff around the house, gym, kids sports matches..etc. If you're divorced you know. Things got complicated with my kid and I think it was a little too much for her to deal with. I get that, so we parted ways. We talked for a while afterwards but haven't in months so probably for the best. No hard feelings though, I hope she finds someone good for her she's quite a catch.

I'm dating someone five-six years younger than me now (my ex was two years older) and it's more on the same level. She's smart, sexy and funny too. So more my speed.


Dating younger is fun (youngest women I dated was 24 when I was 42) and they look great, but then again you're dealing with people who do expect you to pay for everything, they haven't really discovered themselves sexually and different stages of your life. The awesome part is you can show them stuff in bed they haven't seen before. So hearing them say "I didn't know my body could do that" is super hot. The downside is you can show them stuff they haven't seen before. At this point I want someone who is like...let me do this to you I know I like it. That's hotter to me. Still sometime even when they're older you still get the aforementioned comment sometimes, and I'm like...who the hell have you been married to? did you NOT have fun in bed?

Also it's nice to have someone to relate to in terms of your daily life struggles. Younger women don't really know that.

My ex-wife has dated a couple of guys but I can tell you they're step down from me physically. At least what I have seen of them. So her loss in that area. But she chose the path to divorce so meh...that's her problem not mine.

I'm happy now with someone I really like so there's that. I hope it keeps working out because there's is something different about this one and i like it.

How did you meet said 28 yo? Asking for a friend.

[Anonymous]

Glow ups are the best revenge

[Anonymous]

I don't think women necessarily do better and smart women honestly are unlikely to ever be in relationship again especially if they already have children.

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Dating younger is fun (youngest women I dated was 24 when I was 42) and they look great, but then again you're dealing with people who do expect you to pay for everything, they haven't really discovered themselves sexually and different stages of your life. The awesome part is you can show them stuff in bed they haven't seen before. So hearing them say "I didn't know my body could do that" is super hot. The downside is you can show them stuff they haven't seen before. At this point I want someone who is like...let me do this to you I know I like it. That's hotter to me. Still sometime even when they're older you still get the aforementioned comment sometimes, and I'm like...who the hell have you been married to? did you NOT have fun in bed?

Also it's nice to have someone to relate to in terms of your daily life struggles. Younger women don't really know that.

My ex-wife has dated a couple of guys but I can tell you they're step down from me physically. At least what I have seen of them. So her loss in that area. But she chose the path to divorce so meh...that's her problem not mine.

I'm happy now with someone I really like so there's that. I hope it keeps working out because there's is something different about this one and i like it.

PP, you’re looking for a sex worker, not a partner.