Why do women do so well compared to men post divorce?

[Anonymous]

In most marriages, even very healthy ones, women do most of the worrying and caretaking for both partners. More in unhealthy marriages. Post divorce, the woman only has to take care of her self, her happiness etc (and kids but she was doing it anyway). Men all of a sudden beed to do all the things mental and physical they didn't do prior and its hard. So they either remarry fast or don't do great. This is not everyone, but typical from what ive seen.

[Anonymous]

One reason - support network. Women have more friends than men.Womem maintain their friendship and help each other in times of emotional distress.

Men don't have friends. They have drinking and sports watching buddies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In most marriages, even very healthy ones, women do most of the worrying and caretaking for both partners. More in unhealthy marriages. Post divorce, the woman only has to take care of her self, her happiness etc (and kids but she was doing it anyway). Men all of a sudden beed to do all the things mental and physical they didn't do prior and its hard. So they either remarry fast or don't do great. This is not everyone, but typical from what ive seen.

+1. I am 47 newly divorced and your observation is correct. I never realized how much my ex wife supported me emotionally until now. Thankfully I have not rushed to a new relationship. I am still debating with myself whether I am truly capable of being an equal partner in a relationship...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they did everything to begin with.

This.

[Anonymous]

If sleeping around as it is the case with my ex wife (folks have been seeing her in bars making out with different guys in different nights) is proof that they are doing better then I will happily stay depressed lol

But then again it's not a gender thing. I think we guys are even worse because other guys encourage us to be super promiscuous post divorce whereas women are more likely to be restrained by their friends.

My friends think I am wasting my life by coming home watching TV or reading a book of spending time with our kids when they are with me instead off hooking up multiple times a week.

Honestly I am surprised how quickly some people start having sex hooking up going out all the time as soon as their divorce is official.

[Anonymous]

men make most of the money by far. The value of earning1 million a year+ is much higher than doing domestic work. Requires more skill and is a rarer skill among mankind.

In my country club world 95% of the wealth and income is coming from the men. The women mostly lay golf and tennis and order around the nannies.

Anonymous wrote:In most marriages, even very healthy ones, women do most of the worrying and caretaking for both partners. More in unhealthy marriages. Post divorce, the woman only has to take care of her self, her happiness etc (and kids but she was doing it anyway). Men all of a sudden beed to do all the things mental and physical they didn't do prior and its hard. So they either remarry fast or don't do great. This is not everyone, but typical from what ive seen.

[Anonymous]

* mostly play golf and tennis

[Anonymous]

IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women do so well post divorce compared to men? Women look and act happier. Their love life is better. Men on the other hand go downhill....

Because by the time we are done with divorce we are relieved and free and ready to reclaim what we so tragically gave away—ourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

These are assumptions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this true? Men seem to remarry pretty quickly and move on.

Men replace which isn’t always a good thing. They ignore their problems and act like they have no problems and this often involves lying to themselves. Replacing doesn’t mean moving on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women fare better emotionally, but men fare better financially.

Not true always true about the financial piece.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing the answer is misogyny?

[Anonymous]

So many bitter threads here. I must be the only deliriously happy married person on this site. After 37 years, I can honestly say I love my spouse more today than ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IME the men remarry faster and earn more; the women over 50 get plastic surgery and look desperate or spend time with their kids and never remarry. Sometime the women will have a boyfriend but it fades.

These are assumptions.

They are observations not assumptions. If the women are younger than 50 then yes they sometimes remarry.