Making my husband get a vasectomy

[Anonymous]

OP, Your husband is gaslighting you.

He told you to continue using birth control and have sex with him the way he wants while blaming you for trying to control his body!

You r more than fair, OP.
He needs to step up get that vasectomy done

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

[Anonymous]

I did same - no more pill, so his choices were condom, vasectomy, abstinence. Thing was I’d have been thrilled to have another kid. So that was biggest threat. He got snipped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use Natural Family Planning (track your cycle) in combo with Pull and Pray. That's what we do! Works well as long as he's not a premature ejaculator.

Get ready for all of the people who don’t understand this to tell you how stupid you are.

This is what we do and have done for over 15 years. Three wanted pregnancies, zero unwanted pregnancies. Zero arguments about birth control.

Are there really men out there who never get to finish inside their wives?

No. Because you aren't fertile for that long -- there is really a two week window when you can have sex with no protection. You just need to really understand your cycle (and be someone wit a very regular cycle.)

We use condoms for two weeks, and nothing for two weeks. Sex for 15 years, two wanted pregnancies and 0 unwanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be able to have sex with someone who was that selfish.

Yup. I’m not one of those women who’s sexually attracted to selfish, immature, a-holes.

To each their own

+1. I have the nicer car and the garage spot too! I get the side of the bed I want and the part of the closet I want. Happily married 20 years. It was husband’s idea to get snipped when we were done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

And your husband doesn’t GAF about you other than a convenient sex partner he doesn’t need to use a condom with. Divorce would be better than this kind of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

I am 100 percent serious when I say I would prefer to be divorced than be gaslit the way OPs entitled husband is treating her. I swear to god if a woman can’t refuse an implant into her body without worrying about divorce what kind of marriage does she have? If you were happy with an IUD than good for you, your situation doesn’t apply here. Her husband is not entitled to condom free sex at the expense of a medical procedure she does not want.

[Anonymous]

Are you his 2nd wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

And your husband doesn’t GAF about you other than a convenient sex partner he doesn’t need to use a condom with. Divorce would be better than this kind of marriage.

Yah, none of that is true.

Married 40 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

You’re dumber than a box of rocks. The husband can use condoms or abstain.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for starting this thread. My husband and I have talked about him getting a vasectomy for about the last four years. Hormonal BC doesn’t work well for me and I’m not interested in getting an IUD. Happy with our two kids and don’t plan to have more. However, he’s never made an appointment. So for years, he has just pulled out because he won’t use condoms. Which honestly leaves a lot to be desired. Any thoughts/suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

You’re a doormat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

You’re dumber than a box of rocks. The husband can use condoms or abstain.

Or she can get off the stick and get an IUD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

You’re a doormat.

No. I got what I wanted and didn't try "to force" my DH to do something.

I actually loved mu Mirena.

OP is a drama lama.

[Anonymous]

Like someone posted earlier, keep it to the back door and you’re guaranteed not to have another child.