Making my husband get a vasectomy
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Anonymous
He can produce millions of sperm per squirt. She's got one egg per cycle. He's higher risk of causing pregnancy so he should get a vasectomy or catch those effers in a condom. |
Anonymous
No...this is how I ended up with my second unplanned pregnancy. |
Anonymous
| His body, his choice. Use a condom, don't have sex or just don't let him ejac inside of you. |
Anonymous
Bozo. |
Anonymous
You can use any logic here and also say that since she's at higher medical risks in case of unwanted pregnancy, it's in her interests to get tubes tied. He's not all that rosy either but it's only within her control to control her body |
Anonymous
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OP here. We won’t be getting divorced.
We need a permanent solution. I and two relatively easy pregnancies but do not want a. Third. I’m also 35 and considered high risk if we ever did have another baby. We are pro-life ( for us) and don’t believe in abortion. This is why I want to make sure another child isn’t possible. |
Anonymous
| I asked nicely and DH resisted. Then I ended up with a blood clot in my leg and pulmonary embolism in my lung as a result of taking hormonal birth control into my 40s. Then he got the vasectomy. Wished I'd given that ultimatum, OP. Stand your ground. |
Anonymous
| What if you decide to divorce and his new wife wants babies? |
Anonymous
If you study the history of birth control within Christianity, you will becoming increasingly uneasy with birth control, too. No church body of any stripe--Catholic, Orthodox, or Protestant--accepted birth control until the Anglicans led the way in 1938 or so. I was brought up that, essentially, everything except abortion is okay. But this flies in the face of the historical teaching of the church. |
Anonymous
| Team OP 100%. But my husband didn't argue. |
Anonymous
Get ready for all of the people who don’t understand this to tell you how stupid you are. This is what we do and have done for over 15 years. Three wanted pregnancies, zero unwanted pregnancies. Zero arguments about birth control. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't be able to have sex with someone who was that selfish. |
Anonymous
My husband was the one who brought up the vasectomy. But just like he can't tell her to get an IUD, she can't tell him to get a vasectomy. They can use condoms, abstinence, or other methods. Generally I think most men who refuse a vasectomy are selfish, but it is still their body. |
Anonymous
How’d you end up with your first unplanned pregnancy? Sounds like a user error issue. |
Anonymous
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Tubal ligation is done under general anesthesia! General anesthesia, laparoscopic surgery and even outpatient visits to a hospital come with risks of infection, strokes, neurological damage and exposing yourself to errors, plus I think it’s contraindicated if the patient has ever had a history of endometriosis.
Vasectomy is performed under local anesthesia, takes around 12 minutes and full recovery soreness at the surgical site are typically fully resolved within three days, sexual function can resume within 10 days in most cases. When I had a vasectomy the doctor gave me a prescription for single Valium that I forgot to take, I drove myself to and from surgery and spent the rest of the day watching TV. I was back at my very physically demanding job the following day. My recovery was complete and I was back in action within a week, the only sort of scary thing that happened was my first “issue“ was kinda bloody, that possibility was in the pamphlet but I didn’t bother reading that far down. My wife had two natural child births and a C-section, two 1/4” incisions and a 12 minute surgery was the least I could do. Your husband is being a lightweight and I’m sorry. |