Making my husband get a vasectomy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

You’re dumber than a box of rocks. The husband can use condoms or abstain.

Or she can get off the stick and get an IUD.

She’ll get off her husbands stick permanently, if he isn’t willing to take some responsibility here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

You’re dumber than a box of rocks. The husband can use condoms or abstain.

Or she can get off the stick and get an IUD.

She’ll get off her husbands stick permanently, if he isn’t willing to take some responsibility here.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about having your tubes tied , OP? Since you no longer want kids

OP here. It’s a major surgery and a risk. Vasectomy is much easier.

Not really.

Yes, actually. Fact.

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Anonymous wrote:Contrary to the popular claim, good vasectomies are not really reversible. If, God forbid, you should be hit by a bus tomorrow, would you really want to preclude your husband from having children with his second wife? I think not.

Cycle tracking works very well. It's the people who aren't doing it carefully who get surprises. You can have something like the Flo app on your phone. Pretty easy.

He's 53. He doesn't need anymore kids and my kids don't need their inheritance split.

That's not your decision to make. His body - his choice. You don't want to get pregnant get tubal. It's an easy procedure, can be done via laparoscopy

Yes, his body, his choice.

He can use condoms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

OP is throwing a temper tantrum that is going to end her marriage.

It is her job to take care of herself if she doesn't want more children and not force her husband to get a surgery he doesn't want.

DP - I love my mirena as well, but the way OPs husband is acting is really disgusting. She is not throwing a temper tantrum, she's standing up for her own body. He has multiple choices if he doesn't want to get a V, she is being more than reasonable. IUD's are not without their own risks as well, even though both of us have been very lucky (assuming).

Another DP. I love my hormonal BC and I firmly believe each person should be the one making the decision about his or her reproductive potential. The issue is that OP’s husband refuses to choose or take any responsibility. Not only does he leave the choice to her, he then complains about the choices she suggests, instead asking her to bear the burden.

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How are condoms even an appropriate choice? I know so, so many condom babies. I would never rely on condoms and would be a nervous wreck. Same for pull-out. Especially as a fertile person.

You carried the babies, he can get the V.

Ridiculous men.

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Anonymous wrote:What about having your tubes tied , OP? Since you no longer want kids

OP here. It’s a major surgery and a risk. Vasectomy is much easier.

No it is not major surgery. It is outpatient.

It's done under general anesthesia and the general recommendation is to take 4 to 7 days off work.

[Anonymous]

I use a cervical cap because DH was happy with porn and his hand and I wasn’t. It caused a lot of problems in the marriage to be honest. The cervical cap is working but we’ve only been using it for a year and I am 39- hopefully not that fertile.

Re cycle tracking, I want sex the most when I am ovulating.

[Anonymous]

If YOU don't want to get pregnant, then YOU use birth control.

[Anonymous]

I got a bilateral salpingectomy (tubes removed instead of "tied") after our last baby because it is more effective than a vasectomy, is effective immediately, and I was 100% ready to be done with pregnancy.

I personally would not rely on condoms or natural family planning unless you are okay with the possibility of unintended pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If YOU don't want to get pregnant, then YOU use birth control.

She can choose not to have sex. That’s the most effective form of birth control.

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Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

You’re a doormat.

No. I got what I wanted and didn't try "to force" my DH to do something.

I actually loved mu Mirena.

OP is a drama lama.

If you wanted a hormonal IUD wtf are you doing posting on a thread for someone who doesn’t? Do you have just basic difficulty reading?

[Anonymous]

Has he ever gotten mad about the condoms?

[Anonymous]

I bet he was narried before OP and was glad he didn't get snipped. So now he will never get snipped.
OP is not the first baby mama

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If YOU don't want to get pregnant, then YOU use birth control.

They’re married you nincompoop.