Would you go on a trip with a friend who doesn’t ever want to meet locally?

[Anonymous]

Just go in the date, your spouse will never know. It could spice things up at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.

Why are you so obsessed with meeting up ‘locally’? She doesn’t want to hang out with you in her home town or yours, she wants to travel with you! And you live 4 hours away, that is not local. I wouldn’t want to ski anywhere around DC, but I would totally go to the Alps with friends! I have some local friends, as in live in my same county, 15 mins away, and we mostly see each other on trips. Like maybe once or twice a year we’ll grab a quick dinner, but spend several days together in Europe or the Caribbean or whatever.

If you want to be part of this woman’s life, travel with her. Or tell her you’re done with her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.

Why are you so obsessed with meeting up ‘locally’? She doesn’t want to hang out with you in her home town or yours, she wants to travel with you! And you live 4 hours away, that is not local. I wouldn’t want to ski anywhere around DC, but I would totally go to the Alps with friends! I have some local friends, as in live in my same county, 15 mins away, and we mostly see each other on trips. Like maybe once or twice a year we’ll grab a quick dinner, but spend several days together in Europe or the Caribbean or whatever.

If you want to be part of this woman’s life, travel with her. Or tell her you’re done with her!

I am actually not trying to meet her at all. She was the one who randomly brings up some trip. DH thinks she just wants me to pay for it. That’s his perspective because she can’t do the trip without me paying for it so she asks if I want to go. In years past, I have paid in full for trips to Europe, Asia, Middle East, Vegas, Florida, Arizona, NYC. DH was annoyed because I still paid for her when she was married. He was like why are we still paying for her.

She couldn’t extend the work trip because it is an expensive area.

So either DH is right and she just takes advantage and has no interest in actually hanging out with me, only to go on trips. Or she is truly depressed or mentally ill. It is probably a mix of the two.

[Anonymous]

This is a friend who used to drive 3-4 hours to go on a stroller walk with me and then drive home. She came up to pick out a rocking chair for my nursery. She has handed out Halloween candy at my house while I took my kids out. As I mentioned, she lives close to my parents so I would stop by her or her family’s during holidays. So while I realize being 3-4 hours apart is not local, we used to meet up frequently.

[Anonymous]

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours.

That's pretty far. If I had a friend who lived that distance, I would not meet up very frequently either. If you want to go to the city where she is headed to for work, go and have fun. If you are not otherwise interested, decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just drop it.

I don’t think I’d want to see you either. You never shut up.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.

Lol.

This is worse writing and Helter skelter incongruent “plot” than Palm Royale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours.

That's pretty far. If I had a friend who lived that distance, I would not meet up very frequently either. If you want to go to the city where she is headed to for work, go and have fun. If you are not otherwise interested, decline.

I used to see her frequently, maybe once every 2 months. She would come to me. I would see her when I would visit my family. We may go on a trip together.

Before her divorce, I went to many events for her and her husband. Many meaning twice per year like her birthday or a family party. It may have been her sister or mutual friend’s birthday and they would invite me. I would drive up and spend a night or weekend.

I have not seen her in over five years before Covid so obviously not frequent anymore.

[Anonymous]

Meet her next time you go to Bangalore all February.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is such a hoot.

Half of it is the Op or a fake OP disclosing *new, exciting disclosures* or *forgotten information!*. And let’s not forget the back and forth *realtime updates*!

Now that I think about it….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.

Why are you so obsessed with meeting up ‘locally’? She doesn’t want to hang out with you in her home town or yours, she wants to travel with you! And you live 4 hours away, that is not local. I wouldn’t want to ski anywhere around DC, but I would totally go to the Alps with friends! I have some local friends, as in live in my same county, 15 mins away, and we mostly see each other on trips. Like maybe once or twice a year we’ll grab a quick dinner, but spend several days together in Europe or the Caribbean or whatever.

If you want to be part of this woman’s life, travel with her. Or tell her you’re done with her!

I am actually not trying to meet her at all. She was the one who randomly brings up some trip. DH thinks she just wants me to pay for it. That’s his perspective because she can’t do the trip without me paying for it so she asks if I want to go. In years past, I have paid in full for trips to Europe, Asia, Middle East, Vegas, Florida, Arizona, NYC. DH was annoyed because I still paid for her when she was married. He was like why are we still paying for her.

She couldn’t extend the work trip because it is an expensive area.

So either DH is right and she just takes advantage and has no interest in actually hanging out with me, only to go on trips. Or she is truly depressed or mentally ill. It is probably a mix of the two.

Troll who makes zero sense. This whole thread is OP troll and OP troll sock puppeting.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like another imaginary former friend and imaginary outlandish post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.

Why are you so obsessed with meeting up ‘locally’? She doesn’t want to hang out with you in her home town or yours, she wants to travel with you! And you live 4 hours away, that is not local. I wouldn’t want to ski anywhere around DC, but I would totally go to the Alps with friends! I have some local friends, as in live in my same county, 15 mins away, and we mostly see each other on trips. Like maybe once or twice a year we’ll grab a quick dinner, but spend several days together in Europe or the Caribbean or whatever.

If you want to be part of this woman’s life, travel with her. Or tell her you’re done with her!

I am actually not trying to meet her at all. She was the one who randomly brings up some trip. DH thinks she just wants me to pay for it. That’s his perspective because she can’t do the trip without me paying for it so she asks if I want to go. In years past, I have paid in full for trips to Europe, Asia, Middle East, Vegas, Florida, Arizona, NYC. DH was annoyed because I still paid for her when she was married. He was like why are we still paying for her.

She couldn’t extend the work trip because it is an expensive area.

So either DH is right and she just takes advantage and has no interest in actually hanging out with me, only to go on trips. Or she is truly depressed or mentally ill. It is probably a mix of the two.

Troll who makes zero sense. This whole thread is OP troll and OP troll sock puppeting.

How does it not make sense?

I have a childhood friend. We were very close. We lived in different states since college but have been in one another’s lives for decades. Until her divorce, we saw one another several times per year. Then she got divorced and her mom died. I have not seen my friend since her divorce, before Covid.

The money part is that I have mostly always covered my friend financially. I am in a lucrative field and always earned significantly more than my friend. My friend never finished college and has always worked in low paying fields. I ended up marrying a very high earner. DH earns a seven figure income. At some point, it didn’t make sense to ask my friend to chip in her hundreds and an international plane ticket was hard for her to save up for so I just paid for it. I always told Dh it was my birthday present, to go away with my best friend away so Dh was fine with it.

I have not seen or travelled with my friend for over five years.

[Anonymous]

lol.

Repeats herself for the 20th time.