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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am SO confused by how you are perceiving this.

You are NOT LOCAL to each other. You live hours away from each other. She DOES want to see you - but on vacation.

She is single and wants someone to travel with!

The past few years she has been dealing with the pandemic and a sick and dying mom.

What is your problem? If you want to see her, so her. If you dont, dont. But dont not see her just because she'd rather go on a trip than hang out in her or your city.[/quote]

I was attempting to be anonymous. While I am 99% certain my friend does not go on DCUM, I am sure people in my DMV life do come on here. My friend and I live one state away. It is 2.5 hours no traffic but normally takes 3-4 hours. Yes, we don’t live 20 min away but it is very easy to meet locally, meaning her local in her area. I was not asking her to come to me or drive anywhere. As I wrote above, she lives close to my parents as we are childhood friends and I believe she currently lives at her mom’s house although I’m not even sure of that. She gets squirmy if I ask any details. She used to be very open but not anymore since her divorce.

We are on fine terms, the exact same as before this work trip even came up. I have not tried to see her since last year when she also asked me to go somewhere. Now that I think of it, she had asked me to go skiing in another country on short notice. If I remember correctly, it was difficult for me to coordinate because of the kids and I had said let’s meet up locally to ski. Locally meaning somewhere she and I both could drive to. The international and local ski trip never happened.[/quote]

Why are you so obsessed with meeting up ‘locally’? She doesn’t want to hang out with you in her home town or yours, she wants to travel with you! And you live 4 hours away, that is not local. I wouldn’t want to ski anywhere around DC, but I would totally go to the Alps with friends! I have some local friends, as in live in my same county, 15 mins away, and we mostly see each other on trips. Like maybe once or twice a year we’ll grab a quick dinner, but spend several days together in Europe or the Caribbean or whatever.

If you want to be part of this woman’s life, travel with her. Or tell her you’re done with her![/quote]

I am actually not trying to meet her at all. She was the one who randomly brings up some trip. DH thinks she just wants me to pay for it. That’s his perspective because she can’t do the trip without me paying for it so she asks if I want to go. In years past, I have paid in full for trips to Europe, Asia, Middle East, Vegas, Florida, Arizona, NYC. DH was annoyed because I still paid for her when she was married. He was like why are we still paying for her.

She couldn’t extend the work trip because it is an expensive area.

So either DH is right and she just takes advantage and has no interest in actually hanging out with me, only to go on trips. Or she is truly depressed or mentally ill. It is probably a mix of the two.[/quote]

Troll who makes zero sense. This whole thread is OP troll and OP troll sock puppeting. [/quote]

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