How long is too long for in-laws to stay?

Anonymous
It does not matter what other ILs do, and how long they stay. Be clear about your expectations, and come up with dates that are reasonable. This does not have to be an emotional decision.
Anonymous
An old adage attributed to Benjamin Franklin — “guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days”
Anonymous
My in laws would stay 7-10 days every month, those hellish times I won't wish on anyone,
Gosh, I am so glad they are no longer in my life, our house was their vacation spot, lol
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My in laws would stay 7-10 days every month, those hellish times I won't wish on anyone,
Gosh, I am so glad they are no longer in my life, our house was their vacation spot, lol


Same here, my MIL literally picks the lengthiest stay, cheapest Wednesday flights, and expects to have everything she does or eats paid by us, in order to “make it worth her while,” as she repeatedly has said.

Classy indeed.

And yes, they have millions in the bank, in rental properties and in the stock market.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My in laws would stay 7-10 days every month, those hellish times I won't wish on anyone,
Gosh, I am so glad they are no longer in my life, our house was their vacation spot, lol


Same here, my MIL literally picks the lengthiest stay, cheapest Wednesday flights, and expects to have everything she does or eats paid by us, in order to “make it worth her while,” as she repeatedly has said.

Classy indeed.

And yes, they have millions in the bank, in rental properties and in the stock market.


Don’t forget expecting a ride to and from the airport while choosing the airport that is 90 minutes/ 2-3 hours in traffic away over the one that is fifteen minutes away to save $50 on the tickets.
Anonymous
We have a loose rule that you get to be in guest capacity for 3 days (we plan and provide all meals and plan and execute fun outings); if you’re still here after that you’re in housemate territory and on your own.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They are her parents. They are family. Your house is their house. They should always be welcome to stay for as long as they’d like.


nah…nope…negative. 5 days MAX
Anonymous
My MIL came to stay for 14 days, but it was really more like 16. We almost got divorced.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My MIL came to stay for 14 days, but it was really more like 16. We almost got divorced.


People should learn from this story. Your home is for you immediate family .
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They are her parents. They are family. Your house is their house. They should always be welcome to stay for as long as they’d like.


WRONG. 3 days Max.
Anonymous
For my in laws, I could do up to 2 weeks. They are chill and don't expect to be entertained or waited on so I can do my own thing when they are visiting or when we are visiting them. For my mom, I can do about 4 days of her in our house before I'm ready for her to leave. She nit picks, expects attention at all times, and can just be exhausting to deal with.

So it completely depends on how they behave.
Anonymous
That is a hard situation—she’s very social and OP not as much. I always dreaded that kind of dynamic and am so happy my DH and I have similar social tendencies now. It wasn’t always that way, but we found a medium that works. OP you have to find that balance obviously. Try out different solutions.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They are her parents. They are family. Your house is their house. They should always be welcome to stay for as long as they’d like.


Nope. Everyone needs to have their own house and stay there most of the time.

Do you have a guest room where people stay or are they sleeping on the sofa?
Anonymous
Op, your communication style is a little passive aggressive based on this post. “I don’t necessarily have a problem” “this isn’t a problem per se” — obviously it’s a problem and that’s why you’re here!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They are her parents. They are family. Your house is their house. They should always be welcome to stay for as long as they’d like.


Nope. Everyone needs to have their own house and stay there most of the time.

Do you have a guest room where people stay or are they sleeping on the sofa?


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