DH Destroyed My Le Creuset Dutch Oven

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real. If DH had bought her a new one, OP would be on here complaining that he got the wrong color or size. We all know her type.

This post is unnecessary. And "let's be real" you're just an a$$hole.

Yep. Or OP's careless, dufus of a 'husband' found the thread.

[Anonymous]

I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

This is an outlandish reaction. You are grieving your mom. Breaking the pot did not kill your mom.

This. It’s not about the pot. The pot had memories for you, and DH doesn’t understand. You need to talk to him about your underlying emotion - grief, and maybe teach him how to comfort you. Don’t email him links.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

I don't say this a lot but you are not being reasonable. Just order the replacement. He apologized. It's a kitchen pot/pan.

Amen.

A freaking pot that your mom bought you is not in the same category t a letter.
There's something seriously wrong with you that you would even think about shredding the letter for vengeance.
What kind of person thinks about getting revenge on their spouse.
You've got some major work to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

Yes they have an amazing warranty. Go to their website. They sent me a brand new one a few months ago.

[Anonymous]

The revenge you are imagining and “trying not do to” is next level - definitely cruel and scorched earth. This is about more than a pot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

Not gonna read this whole thread but you are acting like a total B. It was an accident and he apologized. Just get a new one if you want a new one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be annoyed, but I'd be over it by 3 months later. He apologized; what else would you want? People make mistakes. I'd prefer to buy the replacement so I get exactly what I want. It's not like him getting it saves you any money, what with being married and all. If you wanted him to replace it, did you ask him to do that? I'd still be annoyed if I asked him to replace it and he did not, but I wouldn't have asked for that.

She wants him to act like an adult and figure out a replacement.

It’s really disrespectful to expect that you can destroy something meaningful to another person, say “sorry” and be absolved of all responsibility.

Seriously, preschoolers know better. But apparently once men become adults the expectations drop below what we expect of3 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

Sounds like my ex-wife. She wrecked every car I ever bought for her, and the house, washing machines, dryers, and TVs, irons, and VRCs.

[Anonymous]

Dh likely would have encouraged me to buy another. He’d know I’d enjoy picking one out. How would he know what color I want? Or maybe I wanted a round instead of an oval? Or the 8qt instead?

But I also wouldn’t be mad at someone for making a genuine mistake. It’s not like he stood there and dropped it on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s so funny because my husband thought he was boiling water, but he was boiling an empty pot. It was ruined! Like yours he was apologetic, but I moved on. It’s just a pot. Can you buy a new one?

Me again!

OP, grow up. Fill out that warranty link yourself and pick the color you like. This tit for tat things that I read about on these forums so unhealthy. When my husband burned my pot he apologized. TBH there’s a there’s nothing to forgive because it’s an accident. You can’t hold onto these petty grudges and hold things against each other.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it- buy another one/fulfill the warranty/whatever. If it bugs you that much, point out that this pot was somehow a family heirloom and you were heartbroken that it was damaged and he wasn't considerate enough to make it right. But then move on.

If I destroyed a pot/powertool/piece of furniture, it wouldn't occur to me that DH would care that much. Some kind of personal jewelry/memento/family history/heirloom- sure. I guess you need to tell DH you take it that seriously so he can help you get over this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

This is not equivalent, OP. Not at all.

[Anonymous]

Why does he need to buy you one? Just order one on the internet that you like. Why are you waiting for him to buy it for you?