DH Destroyed My Le Creuset Dutch Oven

[Anonymous]

Was it just implied that he would take care of it or was there an actual conversation where he agreed to buying a new one? To me, there is nothing in your description of the situation that would lead me to believe that he was the one who would get a replacement. Sending him the warranty link wasn't enough.

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Anonymous wrote:I scratched my husband's truck while he was out of town for business. Bad. I felt terrible, I still feel terrible. I actually didn't scratch it, the guy helping me load the truck did, but it was my responsibility. I'm so grateful that my husband didn't seethe with anger or resentment.

He gave me a hug and told me it's just a vehicle (even though he loves that thing). It would require a new paint job of the side panel, and he didn't think we should worry about the expense right now.

And, if that was covered under the warranty and your husband sent you a link and pictures to submit,you would do it right away, right?

No. He would handle it.

Even though you felt and still feel terrible, you wouldn't handle it if he asked you?

I mean I would try, but he would want to make the decisions (and I would want him to drive the process)...where to get it repaired, cost, and a number of other things. I'd pay for it, even though we have joint accounts, we still have our own money. If I were OP's husband I'd send her to the store or online to pick out whatever new one she wanted. I wouldn't just go grab any old one thinking it's the best replacement. She obviously has very strong feelings and preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kind of off topic. What do you use a Dutch oven for? I find them HEAVY and don’t like to use one on my ceramic stovetop, so I gave mine away.

So much. I have a big one that I use for soups, stews, etc. I have a casserole-looking one that I use anytime I would usually use a skillet. Eggs, browning chicken, etc. They admittedly don't move often - they pretty much live on my stovetop because they get used every day. Cleaning is super easy, I usually give them a nice swipe with clean paper towels and really clean them hard once every few days. Yes, they are monstrously heavy. And the way that most people use them, they can seem like vanity pieces. But they are absolute workhorses built for daily use.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP---if the point is that you want a new pot, then you need to deal with sending the photos and warranty info to Le Creuset and getting it taken care of and getting exactly what you want. You are letting resentment get in the way of your ultimate objective. Your husband isn't going to deal with it because he doesn't care about it like you do. What goes around comes around---sooner or later there will be something that he really cares about (but you don't) and he will want you to fix it. Then you don't and leave it to him---citing back to this experience and the fact that you had to step up and remedy his errors. Sometimes people just need to get natural consequences for their behaviors and it takes awhile for those to evolve.

FFS.

The bold is not "natural consequences" for the DH like PP wants to claim. Great job, though, PP, at couching your mean-spirited advice inside therapy-talk blather about "natural consequences" and "evolving" them and "remedying errors." What a load of BS.

If you wrote honestly, you'd instead say: You think OP should sit tight, keep stewing and seething, and just wait to pounce gleefully on the moment when "something that he really cares about (but you don't)" gets damaged.

There is NO healthy relationship where one person bides their time hoping for the other person to experiences a loss, so the first person can rub it in.

And that, at its core, is what PP is suggesting. Not "natural consequences," but a long-awaited moment of "Now YOU know how it feels, suck it up, buttercup, and no way would I help you because you didn't help ME the way I wanted months (or years) ago! At last, you'll get it!" How profoundly immature.

That is an ugly, vindictive way to conduct a relationship. Do not do this, OP. Be an actual adult and talk to your DH NOW, instead of waiting for the universe to punish him for you, so you can shrug him off. PP's path above is toxic to a relationship and turns it into tit-for-tat vengefulness that lasts and lasts.

I suspect PP is the type who'll come back coolly and say, "Why so worked up?" and the other usual DCUM attempts to laugh off a post. Eh, who cares? PP's advice is resentful manipulativeness wrapped in a pretty package and no amount of deflection can hide that

Spot on, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re still mad after 3 months? Why not go to Williams Sonoma and buy a new one? They have some great new colors.

Not everyone has that kind of money.

Well if the family doesn't have that kind of money, then maybe that's why the husband hasn't bought a new one for her.

Then he should have been all the more careful using the pan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kind of off topic. What do you use a Dutch oven for? I find them HEAVY and don’t like to use one on my ceramic stovetop, so I gave mine away.

I use mine for everything. I have a dozen Le Creusets in all shapes, sizes and colors. They go right from stove to table.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re still mad after 3 months? Why not go to Williams Sonoma and buy a new one? They have some great new colors.

Not everyone has that kind of money.

Well if the family doesn't have that kind of money, then maybe that's why the husband hasn't bought a new one for her.

Then he should have been all the more careful using the pan.

OP should submit the warranty claim. It's important to her, and stewing on it is not making it better. If they deny it, find a similar one online. Look at market places and resell stores. Then tell your husband a replacement costs X, and ask for his debit card.

[Anonymous]

I am sympathetic to OP if the situation is the DH breaks something, says sorry, then expects her to do the work to fix it. That’s not making amends. Just calmly tell him this is frustrating and that part of being sorry is making it right. If money is an issue, he should figure out what he will sacrifice to make up for what he did. (Although if this isn’t a chronic problem I’d say we should bear the cost equally. I’ve certainly screwed up and damaged things and we dealt with it as a joint cost.)

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Anonymous wrote:You’re still mad after 3 months? Why not go to Williams Sonoma and buy a new one? They have some great new colors.

Not everyone has that kind of money.

Well if the family doesn't have that kind of money, then maybe that's why the husband hasn't bought a new one for her.

Then he should have been all the more careful using the pan.

That's very helpful in this context.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re still mad after 3 months? Why not go to Williams Sonoma and buy a new one? They have some great new colors.

Not everyone has that kind of money.

Well if the family doesn't have that kind of money, then maybe that's why the husband hasn't bought a new one for her.

Then he should have been all the more careful using the pan.

He didn't use the pan, he used the stove top. The pan should have been put away.

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Anonymous wrote:Kind of off topic. What do you use a Dutch oven for? I find them HEAVY and don’t like to use one on my ceramic stovetop, so I gave mine away.

I use mine for everything. I have a dozen Le Creusets in all shapes, sizes and colors. They go right from stove to table.

I sold mine (all gifts) on eBay. Too heavy.

[Anonymous]

Let’s be real. If DH had bought her a new one, OP would be on here complaining that he got the wrong color or size. We all know her type.

[Anonymous]

In the 3 years since my husband retired and took over all of the cooking, he has broken the handle on the oven door, ruined any baking pans he's used, broke the blender and the mixer, we're on our second crockpot, broke the washer and dented the refrigerator. Not even counting the cooking utensils he's ruined using them for things that have nothing to do with cooking. I'm just grateful he doesn't bake.

My advice, replace it or move on. What's done is done. No point hanging your puss over something that small.

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Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

I don't say this a lot but you are not being reasonable. Just order the replacement. He apologized. It's a kitchen pot/pan.

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real. If DH had bought her a new one, OP would be on here complaining that he got the wrong color or size. We all know her type.

This post is unnecessary. And "let's be real" you're just an a$$hole.