DH Destroyed My Le Creuset Dutch Oven

[Anonymous]

That my mother gave me 25 years ago. A massive 13 qt enameled cast iron piece I'd fed our family out of for decades. I'll admit I am extremely upset. It was an accident- he thought he was warming another pot of water on the stove, but he was really cooking an empty pot. He basically chalked it up to "Sorry- didn't mean to do that."

This was 3 months ago and he's done nothing to fix the situation- ie buy me another one.

Would you be annoyed?

[Anonymous]

There are ways to restore it. Look online

[Anonymous]

Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That my mother gave me 25 years ago. A massive 13 qt enameled cast iron piece I'd fed our family out of for decades. I'll admit I am extremely upset. It was an accident- he thought he was warming another pot of water on the stove, but he was really cooking an empty pot. He basically chalked it up to "Sorry- didn't mean to do that."

This was 3 months ago and he's done nothing to fix the situation- ie buy me another one.

Would you be annoyed?

Initially, I’d be mad. After 3 months I’d ask myself if I am not too attached to things.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed, but I'd be over it by 3 months later. He apologized; what else would you want? People make mistakes. I'd prefer to buy the replacement so I get exactly what I want. It's not like him getting it saves you any money, what with being married and all. If you wanted him to replace it, did you ask him to do that? I'd still be annoyed if I asked him to replace it and he did not, but I wouldn't have asked for that.

[Anonymous]

You’re still mad after 3 months? Why not go to Williams Sonoma and buy a new one? They have some great new colors.

[Anonymous]

Did you ask him to replace it?

If your money is shared, maybe he assumes you will just replace it.

Stewing for months is not a healthy reaction.

“Things” are not that important, though I understand this had sentimental value for you.

[Anonymous]

Why not just say, DH, I’m going to pick a new Le Creuset pot and order it, ok?

It was an accident, and he’s sorry. Just get a new one and call it a day. Why make him try to read your mind or feel worse than he already does?

[Anonymous]

Tell him you want a new one for thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

[Anonymous]

Three months? I hope I would be compassionate and remind myself that people make mistakes, that nothing lasts forever, including Dutch ovens and beloved family, that we come from dust and to dust we return, and our lives together are short, and I would buy myself a new pot if I wanted one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That my mother gave me 25 years ago. A massive 13 qt enameled cast iron piece I'd fed our family out of for decades. I'll admit I am extremely upset. It was an accident- he thought he was warming another pot of water on the stove, but he was really cooking an empty pot. He basically chalked it up to "Sorry- didn't mean to do that."

This was 3 months ago and he's done nothing to fix the situation- ie buy me another one.

Would you be annoyed?

Based on your post, there is nothing he can do to fix the situation - time machines aren't a thing and anything less would clearly not be enough for you.

[Anonymous]

That’s so funny because my husband thought he was boiling water, but he was boiling an empty pot. It was ruined! Like yours he was apologetic, but I moved on. It’s just a pot. Can you buy a new one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

This is an outlandish reaction. You are grieving your mom. Breaking the pot did not kill your mom.

[Anonymous]

How's your marriage going outside of this? I would dig deeper to figure out why I'm so upset. My guess is that this really isn't about a pot.