DH Destroyed My Le Creuset Dutch Oven

[Anonymous]

There are much deeper issues going on in that marriage then a 25-year-old pot. OP may want to look deep to see about buried resentments and talk them out with her spouse rather than letting resentments simmer. That is a death knell for healthy marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you printed out the warranty and sent him pictures, why don’t you just submit the claim. You have everything you need. It’s seems petty to not just fox this problem yourself and instead stew on it. If you are the cook, this pan is more important to you than it is to him. If you ran over his golf clubs, it would be up to him to replace them since he knows exactly what he wants and needs from a set of golf clubs. Maybe you want a different color or size or shape. He doesn’t know that.

Wut!? Petty?

You are what is wrong with people today.

Please tell me the rest of you are raising kids to understand that they correct their mistakes.

You don't just break something and say "Whoops! My bad!" and walk away.

I'm raising my kids to not be petty, accidents happen move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did OP's DH damage the pot? Did the enamel actually crack? Or did nothing happen?

Right, she didn't say the enamel was cracked. If it's just discolored, that can be remedied.

OP here. No. It is cracked. A spot about the size of a bottlecap is totally off revealing rust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say, "Hey, any update on when my new Le Creuset will arrive? It's been a while."

Hopefully he will either say, "Oh no, I totally forgot, I'm so sorry" or he'll just run off and submit the claim that second.

Worse case scenario, he says he'll do it but forgets again. In that case, I would have a serious conversation about him not responding to things that are really important to you, and how it makes you feel.

Ah yes, continue with some more passive aggressive moves. That will fix it.

[Anonymous]

The idea that you'd intentionally destroy letters or photos from you husband's family in response to an accidental destruction of cookware is crazy. And crazy that you are feeling this three months after the fact.

That is an outsized reaction, and it would be best for you (and your family) if you can figure out why you are having such a reaction and fix that issue.

Is it about your mom? About your role as cook for the family? Being an empty nester? Your relationship with your husband?

None of us knows why this is so upsetting to you, but you should take some time to think about it.

[Anonymous]

I would be really, really upset too. But the revenge fantasies are over the top. I like PP's script about "what are you doing to fix this" but be sure you want him to actually replace it and not just show remorse and initiative. For me personally, I probably would want to order it myself so I got the right size/color. When it comes to kitchen items as gifts, I find I routine get *almost* what I asked for (stand mixer that doesn't tilt, dutch oven 2 qts smaller than I wanted, etc.), and that ends up irking me every time I use it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did OP's DH damage the pot? Did the enamel actually crack? Or did nothing happen?

Right, she didn't say the enamel was cracked. If it's just discolored, that can be remedied.

OP here. No. It is cracked. A spot about the size of a bottlecap is totally off revealing rust.

Why would the crack "reveal" rust? I have cast iron cookware that is not enameled, and it doesn't rust if you dry it reasonably soon after using it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you printed out the warranty and sent him pictures, why don’t you just submit the claim. You have everything you need. It’s seems petty to not just fox this problem yourself and instead stew on it. If you are the cook, this pan is more important to you than it is to him. If you ran over his golf clubs, it would be up to him to replace them since he knows exactly what he wants and needs from a set of golf clubs. Maybe you want a different color or size or shape. He doesn’t know that.

Wut!? Petty?

You are what is wrong with people today.

Please tell me the rest of you are raising kids to understand that they correct their mistakes.

You don't just break something and say "Whoops! My bad!" and walk away.

NP. What I'm hoping to teach my kids is this: when you're in the wrong, apologize and fix it. When someone else in the wrong, forgive and move on. You should fix things when you break them, but you also shouldn't stew and be angry when someone else doesn't do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did OP's DH damage the pot? Did the enamel actually crack? Or did nothing happen?

Right, she didn't say the enamel was cracked. If it's just discolored, that can be remedied.

OP here. No. It is cracked. A spot about the size of a bottlecap is totally off revealing rust.

Why would the crack "reveal" rust? I have cast iron cookware that is not enameled, and it doesn't rust if you dry it reasonably soon after using it.

I will never understand people on this site's desperate need to gaslight OPs even when it's nothing to do with the topic. OP says "he destroyed this thing I loved, and I'm so mad I'm having revenge fantasies about destroying something he loves, am I overreacting?" and here you come to say "I don't think he destroyed anything! Sure people have linked to the manufacturer's website about why what he did destroys the thing, but you sound like an unreliable narrator! He did nothing wrong in the first place, your thing is fine, go cook in it right now!!"

[Anonymous]

OP---if the point is that you want a new pot, then you need to deal with sending the photos and warranty info to Le Creuset and getting it taken care of and getting exactly what you want. You are letting resentment get in the way of your ultimate objective. Your husband isn't going to deal with it because he doesn't care about it like you do. What goes around comes around---sooner or later there will be something that he really cares about (but you don't) and he will want you to fix it. Then you don't and leave it to him---citing back to this experience and the fact that you had to step up and remedy his errors. Sometimes people just need to get natural consequences for their behaviors and it takes awhile for those to evolve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea that you'd intentionally destroy letters or photos from you husband's family in response to an accidental destruction of cookware is crazy. And crazy that you are feeling this three months after the fact.

That is an outsized reaction, and it would be best for you (and your family) if you can figure out why you are having such a reaction and fix that issue.

Is it about your mom? About your role as cook for the family? Being an empty nester? Your relationship with your husband?

None of us knows why this is so upsetting to you, but you should take some time to think about it.

It's upsetting because her DH is a selfish jerk. I can't believe any of you are defending his lack of action. I mean, I can, it's just depressing that this is the current state of man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

Just do it yourself. I think you must be angry about other things about him and you are focusing on this.

[Anonymous]

Kind of off topic. What do you use a Dutch oven for? I find them HEAVY and don’t like to use one on my ceramic stovetop, so I gave mine away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re still mad after 3 months? Why not go to Williams Sonoma and buy a new one? They have some great new colors.

Not everyone has that kind of money.

[Anonymous]

check ebay, replacements inc, the manufacturer.