DH Destroyed My Le Creuset Dutch Oven

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s so funny because my husband thought he was boiling water, but he was boiling an empty pot. It was ruined! Like yours he was apologetic, but I moved on. It’s just a pot. Can you buy a new one?

Me again!

OP, grow up. Fill out that warranty link yourself and pick the color you like. This tit for tat things that I read about on these forums so unhealthy. When my husband burned my pot he apologized. TBH there’s a there’s nothing to forgive because it’s an accident. You can’t hold onto these petty grudges and hold things against each other.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

This is an outlandish reaction. You are grieving your mom. Breaking the pot did not kill your mom.

Wow. That poor man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

Most sensible post on this whole thread.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are unhinged and need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

Most sensible post on this whole thread.

But it really isn’t. They’re not strangers. They share a home and (presumably) they share finances. It is completely and utterly unnecessary for her to demand that HE replace the pot. It’s some petty bizarre power move on her part to demand this or even expect it. I’m sure he is fine with her spending their money to replace it, so she should just replace it rather than act like some spoiled princess who wants him to grovel at her feet because of an accident.

She sounds exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

Most sensible post on this whole thread.

But it really isn’t. They’re not strangers. They share a home and (presumably) they share finances. It is completely and utterly unnecessary for her to demand that HE replace the pot. It’s some petty bizarre power move on her part to demand this or even expect it. I’m sure he is fine with her spending their money to replace it, so she should just replace it rather than act like some spoiled princess who wants him to grovel at her feet because of an accident.

She sounds exhausting.

You missed the whole point. Spectacularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are unhinged and need help.

Look, the DH found this thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are unhinged and need help.

Look, the DH found this thread!

Doesn’t mean he’s wrong!

[Anonymous]

Oh my God, it’s a pot. Le Creuset or not—this is an item meant to be used until it is used up, that time came, you need a new one. Get it and get therapy.

[Anonymous]

My guitar gently weeps!

[Anonymous]

This here is some real Encanto type sh!t.

The pot is a metaphor. OP wanted to stir it; DH burned it.

[Anonymous]

Three months over a pot? Is your mother still alive? Was this the family pot from your grandmother? The only scenario I could see this being reasonable would be if this was the last gift your mother gave you or something. Buy a new pot? They’re like $400? Or get the Amazon essential Dutch oven which is the same exact pot for 50$

[Anonymous]

I haven't read this whole thread, but you sound lazy. It's your pot, your responsibility.