DH Destroyed My Le Creuset Dutch Oven

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

You sound insane. Like really truly insane. He apologized, now go get yourself the replacement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read this whole thread, but you sound lazy. It's your pot, your responsibility.

You win for dumbest post in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

You sound insane. Like really truly insane. He apologized, now go get yourself the replacement.

The DH really can’t stay away from this thread. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Buy a new one. You sound unhinged.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

Most sensible post on this whole thread.

But it really isn’t. They’re not strangers. They share a home and (presumably) they share finances. It is completely and utterly unnecessary for her to demand that HE replace the pot. It’s some petty bizarre power move on her part to demand this or even expect it. I’m sure he is fine with her spending their money to replace it, so she should just replace it rather than act like some spoiled princess who wants him to grovel at her feet because of an accident.

She sounds exhausting.

You missed the whole point. Spectacularly.

No the point is with a stranger if you broke something you would give them the money or buy the amazon replacement to send them on the spot because you don’t effing know them and will presumably never see them again and you certainly don’t share a joint bank account with them! So in that case it actually matters which person carries out the ordering of the replacement. In OP’s case it absolutely does not matter, and OP took the same amount of time to send her husband the “information he needed to replace it” as it would have taken her to just order a new one herself.

TLDR I didn’t miss your point, I just think your point is spectacularly stupid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

Most sensible post on this whole thread.

But it really isn’t. They’re not strangers. They share a home and (presumably) they share finances. It is completely and utterly unnecessary for her to demand that HE replace the pot. It’s some petty bizarre power move on her part to demand this or even expect it. I’m sure he is fine with her spending their money to replace it, so she should just replace it rather than act like some spoiled princess who wants him to grovel at her feet because of an accident.

She sounds exhausting.

You missed the whole point. Spectacularly.

No the point is with a stranger if you broke something you would give them the money or buy the amazon replacement to send them on the spot because you don’t effing know them and will presumably never see them again and you certainly don’t share a joint bank account with them! So in that case it actually matters which person carries out the ordering of the replacement. In OP’s case it absolutely does not matter, and OP took the same amount of time to send her husband the “information he needed to replace it” as it would have taken her to just order a new one herself.

TLDR I didn’t miss your point, I just think your point is spectacularly stupid.

Spoken exactly like someone who would treat a stranger better than someone they love. You even narrated the scenario! Thank you for further illustrating how awful that behavior is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

You sound insane. Like really truly insane. He apologized, now go get yourself the replacement.

The DH really can’t stay away from this thread. 🤣

Sorry OP, but nope, I am not on anyone's side, I just think you're crazy.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is sock puppeting this thread. You can't all be this insane.

[Anonymous]

Please share with him the depths of irrational thoughts you are experiencing due to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to (jokingly, I thought) call my wife "The Destroyer" for all the times she carelessly broke or ruined something we owned. Now she's my ex-wife. We didn't divorce solely because I called her "The Destroyer," but it didn't help. I meant it in fun; she took it as one more data point in "You think I do everything wrong." I'd much rather have "the Destroyer" back in my life, even with her gradually destroying everything we own.

Moral of the story? It's just a damned pot. Forgive and move on. Your marriage is worth more than even a pot—even a Le Creuset. And if it's not, you have bigger problems than one pot.

This. Do the paperwork to replace the pot or buy a new one OP.

My mom "blamed" my dad and I for a piece of china I broke when I was 2. I heard about it until I was 30, when I bought her a replacement and told her I never wanted to hear about it again. I was 2. Of course, the therapy I've had to go through for anxiety as an adult costs a whole lot more than the china.

The comparison of your toddler self to this woman's grown husband is pretty spot on, as it seems the consensus seems to be that the DH bears no responsibility other than "oops". This wasn't a saucepan from Amazon, it sounds like it had sentimental value and we all know the price of Le Creuset. So, a sincere apology and a replacement are in order, and really, this is bare bones courtesy for someone you love. It also ain't that hard, folks, it's a few words and an online purchase. DCUM seems to believe there is no middle ground or normalcy between completely absent effort from her H and him falling to his knees for forgiveness. It's pretty simple; you don't treat family worse than you'd treat a stranger, just because you can.

If a friend came over and cooked and broke my pot, I would just fill out the replacement myself rather than asking her to. Your post makes zero sense in this situation. The pot may have sentimental value but solution is quick and easily done by OP.

[Anonymous]

Just buy a new one.

[Anonymous]

I’d beat him over the head with the old one until he gets the message and gets you a new one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Le Creuset will replace. Send them an email.

OP here- Agreed. I told him this. I sent him the warranty link. I sent him the required pictures. He's done nothing. So I'm pissed and thinking irrationally. Like taking something important to him (old picture of him and his siblings, a letter his father wrote him in college), and shredding it. But I'm trying not to.

Individual and couples therapy stat!

[Anonymous]

My recommendation is for your DH to divorce you ASAP because you are cray cray.

[Anonymous]

Self-awareness is a virtue.