When your kid is melting down and people try to "help"

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Anonymous wrote:People, it’s defuse, not diffuse. They are tiny bombs, not essential oils!

Thanks grammar natzi.. that's the contribution you have to make. So helpful!

It's nazi, not "natzi".

[Anonymous]

So many perfect parents on this thread. Strange that I never seem to encounter any of your perfect children at school, or anywhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you let your child tantrum in public you put yourself in the position of getting unsolicited comments and advice. If you don’t like it remove your child when they melt down.

Yep, she sounds too permissive "allowing" her child to meltdown in public. Geez, you're obviously not a parent. This is actually normal age appropriate behavior. I'm sure if you were normal you melted down in public at some point. OP, we've all been there. Keep calm and carry on.

I have three children, now grown. And not a single one ever had a tantrum, public or private. I didn't keep them out too long so they got tired or hungry. The main reason was because they were taught how to behave in public.

If true, you have amazing, unusual children. Your kids, even at age 1 or 2 NEVER, even at home, got mad or frustrated or overtired and cried/screamed/flopped to the ground? I find this extremely hard to believe. I have one kid who rarely threw fits, and almost never in public, but it still happened.

This poster is so full of it. I'd bet this person has no children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you let your child tantrum in public you put yourself in the position of getting unsolicited comments and advice. If you don’t like it remove your child when they melt down.

Yep, she sounds too permissive "allowing" her child to meltdown in public. Geez, you're obviously not a parent. This is actually normal age appropriate behavior. I'm sure if you were normal you melted down in public at some point. OP, we've all been there. Keep calm and carry on.

I have three children, now grown. And not a single one ever had a tantrum, public or private. I didn't keep them out too long so they got tired or hungry. The main reason was because they were taught how to behave in public.

thanks Grandma. So what, your idea is that if you step in to scold the tantruming child or chastise the mother for bad parenting, that will help?

You already know that you are a crap parent with a spoiled brat. It would be unnecessary and cruel to remind you of your inadequacies.

PP ignore this nut job troll. This poster hates people. It oozes from their posts. We all do the best we can and it feels horrible in the moment. Just remember, more than likely there is a parent nearby trying to send you care and encouragement.

[Anonymous]

Sometime, the parents of young children seem to think it's their world and we are all just living in it.

Not that you don't have my sympathy OP, I just think you are wrong. If your kid is having a tantrum in shared space, then you don't suddenly own the space and get to dictate the behavior of all the other people in that space.

I would never interfere with a parent and child in mid tantrum, but I also don't think you have any right to say "f@@@ off" to someone who does. It's shared space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is having a tantrum in public then it's the public's business. The public should not be disturbed by your child's bad behavior and if interrupting the tantrum makes your child shut up then you should be grateful. God knows the rest of us are!

This. If you are in public and your kid is having a tantrum. It's EVERYONE's shared problem at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many perfect parents on this thread. Strange that I never seem to encounter any of your perfect children at school, or anywhere.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you let your child tantrum in public you put yourself in the position of getting unsolicited comments and advice. If you don’t like it remove your child when they melt down.

Yep, she sounds too permissive "allowing" her child to meltdown in public. Geez, you're obviously not a parent. This is actually normal age appropriate behavior. I'm sure if you were normal you melted down in public at some point. OP, we've all been there. Keep calm and carry on.

I have three children, now grown. And not a single one ever had a tantrum, public or private. I didn't keep them out too long so they got tired or hungry. The main reason was because they were taught how to behave in public.

If true, you have amazing, unusual children. Your kids, even at age 1 or 2 NEVER, even at home, got mad or frustrated or overtired and cried/screamed/flopped to the ground? I find this extremely hard to believe. I have one kid who rarely threw fits, and almost never in public, but it still happened.

This poster is so full of it. I'd bet this person has no children.

NP. My kids never had a tantrum. Those kids exist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, it’s defuse, not diffuse. They are tiny bombs, not essential oils!

Thanks grammar natzi.. that's the contribution you have to make. So helpful!

It's nazi, not "natzi".

I know. Auto correct kept changing to something wierd, so I hit check and send and it was wrong.... oh well, typing on a phone with fat thumbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many perfect parents on this thread. Strange that I never seem to encounter any of your perfect children at school, or anywhere.

+1
So strange... one would be inclined to think we would see the product of perfect parenting in the class, but no, I just don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you let your child tantrum in public you put yourself in the position of getting unsolicited comments and advice. If you don’t like it remove your child when they melt down.

Yep, she sounds too permissive "allowing" her child to meltdown in public. Geez, you're obviously not a parent. This is actually normal age appropriate behavior. I'm sure if you were normal you melted down in public at some point. OP, we've all been there. Keep calm and carry on.

I have three children, now grown. And not a single one ever had a tantrum, public or private. I didn't keep them out too long so they got tired or hungry. The main reason was because they were taught how to behave in public.

If true, you have amazing, unusual children. Your kids, even at age 1 or 2 NEVER, even at home, got mad or frustrated or overtired and cried/screamed/flopped to the ground? I find this extremely hard to believe. I have one kid who rarely threw fits, and almost never in public, but it still happened.

This poster is so full of it. I'd bet this person has no children.

NP. My kids never had a tantrum. Those kids exist.

You need to have your kid evaluated or be more involved in their lives.

[Anonymous]

Before I had kids I swore I wouldn't "let" my kids have tantrums. Hahahaha. I am a good parent, but I have highly emotional kids, so yeah sometimes they had meltdowns in public. We left immediately. They grew up and now they don't. It was a stage, it sucked. And I have sympathy for those who have kid's melting down in public, but if I see you give them a treat to placate them then I have no sympathy for you. You're literally paying them to do it again in the future.

[Anonymous]

"we need some space. please be on your way"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometime, the parents of young children seem to think it's their world and we are all just living in it.

Not that you don't have my sympathy OP, I just think you are wrong. If your kid is having a tantrum in shared space, then you don't suddenly own the space and get to dictate the behavior of all the other people in that space.

I would never interfere with a parent and child in mid tantrum, but I also don't think you have any right to say "f@@@ off" to someone who does. It's shared space.

+1. You are the adult and you don't get to tantrum just because you are frustrated with the situation and people walking by are reacting imperfectly. Really, don't worry so much about being embarrassed or judged, just focus on your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you let your child tantrum in public you put yourself in the position of getting unsolicited comments and advice. If you don’t like it remove your child when they melt down.

Yep, she sounds too permissive "allowing" her child to meltdown in public. Geez, you're obviously not a parent. This is actually normal age appropriate behavior. I'm sure if you were normal you melted down in public at some point. OP, we've all been there. Keep calm and carry on.

I have three children, now grown. And not a single one ever had a tantrum, public or private. I didn't keep them out too long so they got tired or hungry. The main reason was because they were taught how to behave in public.

If true, you have amazing, unusual children. Your kids, even at age 1 or 2 NEVER, even at home, got mad or frustrated or overtired and cried/screamed/flopped to the ground? I find this extremely hard to believe. I have one kid who rarely threw fits, and almost never in public, but it still happened.

This poster is so full of it. I'd bet this person has no children.

NP. My kids never had a tantrum. Those kids exist.

You need to have your kid evaluated or be more involved in their lives.

DP. Totally! My kid who was later diagnosed with HFA did not exhibit any terrible 2s behavior. When I hear a parent claim their child never tantrumed, I wonder. When I see a toddler in public who had thrown their entire little self face-down on the sidewalk screaming, I think “aha, so neurotypical!”