When your kid is melting down and people try to "help"

[Anonymous]

What do you say?

You are in the middle of trying to focus on them, calm them down and fix whatever situation got you there.

Recently I got:
Old gentleman asking my child if we were abusing them (this was an unhelpful joke)
A woman telling them how great they looked (when the outfit they were in was not the outfit for the event)
More people interacting with said child that were making the situation worse and not better.

I didn't say anything because what can I say? I've got this, thanks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you say?

You are in the middle of trying to focus on them, calm them down and fix whatever situation got you there.

Recently I got:
Old gentleman asking my child if we were abusing them (this was an unhelpful joke)
A woman telling them how great they looked (when the outfit they were in was not the outfit for the event)
More people interacting with said child that were making the situation worse and not better.

I didn't say anything because what can I say? I've got this, thanks?

ugh, I feel your pain.

[Anonymous]

I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”

[Anonymous]

I’m struggling to figure out if this has just never happened to me or if I just ignored and forgot about it.

It’s probably the latter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”


Omg she got exactly what she deserved! Do NOT feel bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”

Omg she got exactly what she deserved! Do NOT feel bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”

Sympathetic as I am, you only proved her point unfortunately

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”

She was asking for it.

[Anonymous]

Of the two examples - an old lady telling your kids they look great is not exactly an aggression. It probably only stung because you had really dug in about their outfits and she was now contradicting you.

The other old man was weird but can certainly be ignored.

I just smile politely at this kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”

Sympathetic as I am, you only proved her point unfortunately

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck off (NP, but it had to be said).

+2. What a cow.

[Anonymous]

Ignore or "I got this". It really does suck, I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

“Leave us alone.”

Direct, true, and no roaring needed.

[Anonymous]

You should do exactly what you do with your toddler’s bad behavior- ignore, ignore, ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also feel your pain. I am not exactly proud of this, but one time on a pleasant autumn saturday in georgetown, an older woman approached my tantruming toddler who kept running toward the canal trying to jump in, and as i held my squirming child and trued to put them in their stroller, she said to my kid “oh your mommy is being ao mean to you, poor baby”. And i roared at her “go away, leave me alone!”

Sympathetic as I am, you only proved her point unfortunately

+1
Just like the behavior you SHOULD show your tantruming toddler, ignore her comment and continue doing what needs to be done. Or just say, "thanks" and move on. I don't engage the toddler and I don't engage unhelpful strangers. I definitely don't engage rude strangers. The situation corrects itself quicker with little or no intervention.

[Anonymous]

Your kid sounds horribly ill-behaved.