Husband following 20-year old on social media…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what a middle aged man is doing on Instagram in the first place.

What kind of stuff does she post? Sexy pictures? (Probably not if she doesn't have many followers). Pics of her dog? It could be harmless. But again, I think men who are active on Instagram, (with some exceptions, like if they're photographers or chefs or dog walkers) are losers.

The content she pots is relevant. If she is posting travel pictures, animals, food, family it's not a big deal. If she is posting seductive pics that's different because he knows her and has contact with her in real life. We need more information.

[Anonymous]

I think OP should ask him about it.

[Anonymous]

Just ask. I'm a 50 yo married guy ... I wouldn't normally follow a 20 yo on instagram, but if she requested to follow me, I might follow back ... but if my wife asked "who's that?" and it bothered her, I'd be fine to unfollow.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe how many dumb posters say OP is overreacting. Dumb like my AP's wife. You heard me.

Would you all be ok with your 40 yo husband asking a 20 yo hottie for her phone number? And her giving it to him? Because that's what this is.

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to figure out why following her on IG be a big deal if he sees her weekly anyway? If he wanted to cheat he already has an opening with his weekly appointment? What can he do on IG that he can’t accomplish with his weekly appointment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how many dumb posters say OP is overreacting. Dumb like my AP's wife. You heard me.

Would you all be ok with your 40 yo husband asking a 20 yo hottie for her phone number? And her giving it to him? Because that's what this is.

But he can get her number anytime with his weekly appointment? Hell he probably already has her number?

[Anonymous]

I used to go to a very attractive young woman who cut my hair because she was great at it. I had no illusions of getting with her. She changed salons a few times and kept in touch with me to let me know where she ended up, and then I'd go there. My son went to her also. Lost track of her after a while. If I had IG back then, that would have been convenient. Anyway, I agree it makes him look a little foolish but it's also a bit overbearing of you to police his friends or followers list online.

[Anonymous]

Why is he going once a week? That is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to go to a very attractive young woman who cut my hair because she was great at it. I had no illusions of getting with her. She changed salons a few times and kept in touch with me to let me know where she ended up, and then I'd go there. My son went to her also. Lost track of her after a while. If I had IG back then, that would have been convenient. Anyway, I agree it makes him look a little foolish but it's also a bit overbearing of you to police his friends or followers list online.

No the OP isn’t overbearing. If you told your wife about this upfront and then she was ok with it, no big deal. Otherwise it’s strange. And what’s the big deal about looking at spouse’s IG or other social media if you’ve got nothing to hide? Usually you’re not looking to find anything, and so not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is he going once a week? That is weird.

Exactly. I don’t get it either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he going once a week? That is weird.

Exactly. I don’t get it either.

Not OP, but pre-pandemic my husband used to get his hair cut with a 1" guard, and every week or 10 days it started to look scruffy. Since then he's learned how to do it himself, but when the kids were young, he liked the 20 minutes or so of "free" time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he going once a week? That is weird.

Exactly. I don’t get it either.

To get a little trim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how many dumb posters say OP is overreacting. Dumb like my AP's wife. You heard me.

Would you all be ok with your 40 yo husband asking a 20 yo hottie for her phone number? And her giving it to him? Because that's what this is.

Old guy here. As I posted above, I kept in touch with my 20 something hairdresser and had her phone number. My phone is full of professional contacts. That alone is not bad behavior. These days people keep in touch on IG and other places online. Unless his interactions with her are inappropriate, just adding her on IG by itself is no big deal. I have no idea about my W's online activities, who she follows on IG, who her friends are on FB or anything else and I couldn't care less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he going once a week? That is weird.

Exactly. I don’t get it either.

To get a little trim.

Good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what a middle aged man is doing on Instagram in the first place.

What kind of stuff does she post? Sexy pictures? (Probably not if she doesn't have many followers). Pics of her dog? It could be harmless. But again, I think men who are active on Instagram, (with some exceptions, like if they're photographers or chefs or dog walkers) are losers.

I don't think this post received enough mockery.