Husband following 20-year old on social media…

[Anonymous]

follow at least 20 young women on Insta. Yes, they are scantily clad (or naked). Sometimes I comment, and they seem to welcome my comments.

I am embarrassed for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband if this was weird. He says something was wrong with that guy. We’re in our 40s and have friends with kids that age. It’s squicky.

The squicky bit was me. He made one of those faces like when you see someone run into a telephone pole. Yoinks

Oh, YOUR husband doesn't approve. Well, then, that settles that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband if this was weird. He says something was wrong with that guy. We’re in our 40s and have friends with kids that age. It’s squicky.

The squicky bit was me. He made one of those faces like when you see someone run into a telephone pole. Yoinks

He knows what to say to placate you. I bet he walks around on eggshells all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This feels like the male equivalent of complaining about vibrators.

She's not running off with your man. He gets a harmless fantasy.

Nah. More like if she went and followed the UPS guy’s personal account.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think there is anything weird about it. Is he cheating? I don’t know, but following someone in IG is harmless. I have no idea who my husband follows and I don’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Backstory: My husband gets his hair cut weekly at a little strip mall place that’s staffed by cute young college-aged girls. I literally never thought ANYTHING of it until today, when I see that him and one of the front desk girls now follow each other on IG. She’s not the one who cuts his hair. She also does not have a ton of followers on IG (less than 500) and her IG profile is completely separate from the salons profile. Would this bother you?

I think this part is key. What guy goes for a weekly trim?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband if this was weird. He says something was wrong with that guy. We’re in our 40s and have friends with kids that age. It’s squicky.

You should ask him if you look fat in jeans, or if he fantasizes about other women when he is having sex with you. He will be super honest about those responses as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Backstory: My husband gets his hair cut weekly at a little strip mall place that’s staffed by cute young college-aged girls. I literally never thought ANYTHING of it until today, when I see that him and one of the front desk girls now follow each other on IG. She’s not the one who cuts his hair. She also does not have a ton of followers on IG (less than 500) and her IG profile is completely separate from the salons profile. Would this bother you?

I think this part is key. What guy goes for a weekly trim?

Anyone with a fade, high & tight, etc.

[Anonymous]

No way. He sounds very sketchy.

[Anonymous]

OP here: I wanted to comment on some of the previous posts, particularly the ones accusing me of being sexless. We actually have a very active sex life. Since every guy here uses that as the excuse for their behavior…now what’s the reason? I’m also very fit and energetic.

Also, I get that guys look at porn accounts, I’m not a prude. But this is an actual person whom he sees on a weekly basis, not just some internet porn star who he would never have a chance with. I think that makes a huge difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The one thing I would not do is tell him that I knew. Work on the marriage. If he loves you and is trustworthy this will go away.

Uh, no. That's not how this works. Or OP finds out that he has a fetish for very young women. That doesn't go away because you "love someone"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I follow at least 20 young women on Insta. Yes, they are scantily clad (or naked). Sometimes I comment, and they seem to welcome my comments.

Eww. You know they think you are lame, right?

That's okay. 30 years ago a subscription to Playboy cost $35/year. I prefer non-Playboy-model types, and Insta is free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I wanted to comment on some of the previous posts, particularly the ones accusing me of being sexless. We actually have a very active sex life. Since every guy here uses that as the excuse for their behavior…now what’s the reason? I’m also very fit and energetic.

Also, I get that guys look at porn accounts, I’m not a prude. But this is an actual person whom he sees on a weekly basis, not just some internet porn star who he would never have a chance with. I think that makes a huge difference.

Look, OP, either you trust your husband or you don't. As you said, he sees the person on a weekly basis. That's a lot, actually, and could have let to this happening in one of so many innocent ways. And he's not hiding anything from you, after all. They follow each other on social media for you and the whole world to see. Since she's apparently the only young hottie he's following my hunch is that she initiated it and he went along, and either forgot or was too sheepish to tell you because, well, look at how you're reacting after all.

Either let it go, or just ask him how it happened already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I wanted to comment on some of the previous posts, particularly the ones accusing me of being sexless. We actually have a very active sex life. Since every guy here uses that as the excuse for their behavior…now what’s the reason? I’m also very fit and energetic.

Also, I get that guys look at porn accounts, I’m not a prude. But this is an actual person whom he sees on a weekly basis, not just some internet porn star who he would never have a chance with. I think that makes a huge difference.

Isn't there a simple, innocent explanation? He finds young women hot? All men do. He's normal. Unless you think he is sleeping with her, I'd let it go. That you have a great sex life together makes it less likely he will risk losing you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband if this was weird. He says something was wrong with that guy. We’re in our 40s and have friends with kids that age. It’s squicky.

The squicky bit was me. He made one of those faces like when you see someone run into a telephone pole. Yoinks

He knows what to say to placate you. I bet he walks around on eggshells all day.

Believe it or not some guys don’t want to f young women that remind them of their friends kids.