Husband following 20-year old on social media…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, who are you following on your IG or Facebook and other social media? And who follows you, messages you, and interacts with you on social media? Do you, for example, have any men who aren't family members who you interact with on social media? Younger men? Would you be willing to give up all social media to focus solely on your spouse?

This goes both ways, you know.

OP here: Of course he is following other women on social media who I don’t have a problem with (family, friends, co-workers, etc). I meant to say I don’t think he should be meeting random women and connecting with them through social media. What’s the point, other than to open a door for further communication?

And no, I don’t interact with any other male on a regular basis. If it bothered my husband that I was following certain people, of course I wouldn’t mind unfollowing them. I do agree it goes. both ways…

Maybe I missed this but have you told him it bothers you and he refused to unfollow her? Because I'm a PP who doesn't think the act of them following each other is necessarily a red flag, but that would definitely be one.

[Anonymous]

Nice!

Let him live a little

[Anonymous]

What was her comment? How’s your sex life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pedo.

Can we please save this word for actual pedophiles?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What was her comment? How’s your sex life?

That’s really irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Not appropriate. Just isn't. I wouldn't jump to crazy conclusions but I also wouldn't pretend it's normal.

[Anonymous]

Lol OP is over reacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: He’s 41 years old. It bothers me because personally I don’t think it’s okay for my husband to be chatting and exchanging contact information with ANY other women, let alone a 20-year old. I wanted to see if Im over reacting…

Pedo tendency

[Anonymous]

Your husband is slapping the ham to her IG

[Anonymous]

Everyone needs to relax. This is no different than him knowing the young girl at the barbershop. Those of us who have been on social media for most of our adult lives have all kinds of follows and friends on there that we barely know.

He's your husband. You either trust him or you don't....

[Anonymous]

What industry does he work in OP? It may be more appropriate for certain jobs. If he's in recruitment / entertainment / TV production it would be less surprising because that is about networking with lots of different kinds of people.

But if he's a school teacher / banker / insurance man then no, probably it's not a good thing. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I don't see any problem with this. Why everything has to be taken in sexual or cheating context? Op, please stop being insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see any problem with this. Why everything has to be taken in sexual or cheating context? Op, please stop being insecure.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see any problem with this. Why everything has to be taken in sexual or cheating context? Op, please stop being insecure.

+1

You’re delusional. It isn’t insecure to see that your husband sought out the contact information of a girl who can’t yet drink that he barely knows. Come on. You may not mind your husband making you both look ridiculous, or trying to cheat on you with a college aged girl, but many of us would.

[Anonymous]

I’d have a huge problem with this. OP, didn’t you say he’s in his 40s and you are in your 20s? Looks like he is looking for his next younger wife.