Is it okay to be worried why our son still doesn't have a girlfriend at college?

[Anonymous]

Literally zero ex girlfriends would be a massive red flag to young ladies after college. And it is certainly a massive red flag now. The inexperience is setting him up to become a whipped gelded sap by some pushy alpha b-word social climbing conniver.

[Anonymous]

He will end up falling for some low born manipulator who's going to exploit his inexperience.

[Anonymous]

Who wants a girlfriend in college? My motto was why date one when you can date them all? You have the rest of your life to only have sex with one persons. Live why you can and experience the world. OPs kid is on the right track. He’s dating, which is all the experience he needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally zero ex girlfriends would be a massive red flag to young ladies after college. And it is certainly a massive red flag now. The inexperience is setting him up to become a whipped gelded sap by some pushy alpha b-word social climbing conniver.

OP, is this what you were hoping for when you started this thread?

[Anonymous]

No. It’s not okay to be worried. It’s none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Sorry he’s not a chad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry he’s not a chad.

Or, he could be tappin' dat all the time and simply not telling mommy. At least that's what I did.

[Anonymous]

It’s not abnormal but not normal either. Any 21 year old who is surrounded by hundreds of women his age on daily basis at a college campus, should be able to connect with someone who he finds attractive and likeminded. I think college is a great place to find partners who can be your friends as well as partners. You have opportunities to mingle, have common friends, academic interests, ambitions, events, sports, causes, parties, activities etc. If you can’t develop a good relationship there, it’s only going to get tougher in post college world.

That being said, may be your son is exploring his sexual orientation or doesn’t feel secure enough to get into a relationship. Hopefully he’ll figure it out with time as some are late bloomers, indecisive self-absorbed or into immature and temporary hookups without deep connections.

[Anonymous]

In some ways, it’s good not to have college relationships now because careers, debt, long distance, desire to hook up with others and pursuit of perfect partner can lead to breakups. Unfortunately, society is currently against committed and serious relationships, which it’s one root of emotional health issues, late marriages, infertility and divorces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry he’s not a chad.

Or, he could be tappin' dat all the time and simply not telling mommy. At least that's what I did.

parents know when they have chad kids.. Parents are not totally oblivious, even the most clueless immigrant ones.

[Anonymous]

Op has your son done study abroad?

I was like your son, then went to live in Europe and dating there was 10x easier (and no it wasn’t with eastern euro women or Roma).

Then I came back and it was easier for me to date having my European experience under My belt.

If your son is an average guy, dating in your teens and 20s is not easy (it gets easy in your thirties).

Thin 16-26 age conventionally attractive American women is dating on hard mode.

[Anonymous]

Your son is still young OP & may just be focused on his education.

Or perhaps he may not have met a girl that he is very interested in.

We all mature at different rates and your son appears on a very stable, solid path to success.

At twenty-one, he has many good dating years ahead of him.

I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of the probably hundred of teen and 20-something women in my Facebook friends and family orbit, I don't think there is one who hasn't posted one if not multiple boyfriends over the last few years. And nearly all of them are pictured with their family or with their boyfriend's family during a holiday, taking flights or road trips together, on and on. No college relationship is kept a secret in 2021. Sounds like something Kevin in the Office would claim -- "you don't know her, she goes to a different school." lol

It's 2021. People in college now roll their eyes at Facebook.

You sound old.

[Anonymous]

Just because cringy Facebook show offs keep posting about relationship after relationship like they are Hollywood celebrities, sensible portion of the population has stopped posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who wants a girlfriend in college? My motto was why date one when you can date them all? You have the rest of your life to only have sex with one persons. Live why you can and experience the world. OPs kid is on the right track. He’s dating, which is all the experience he needs.

This. There’s no need to take sand to the beach.