Is it okay to be worried why our son still doesn't have a girlfriend at college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG. BUTT OUT. Your kid probably doesn't want to tell you if he even had a girlfriend.

From your post - you are anxious, overly involved, gossipy, judgmental, paranoid and shallow.

No wonder he doesn't share.

1000%

[Anonymous]

No, it is not okay. You should not be concerned at all. He could be screwing around and not advertising it. He certainly does not need a committed girlfrlend at age 21 and I am sure he does not want to tell you that he has sex without a girlfriend label. I am shocked by this post.

Many men do not tell families about girlfriends unless they are in a serious relationship. He should not be in a serious relationship at age 21!

FWIW, my ex husband only introduced one girlfriend to his parents at age 34...that was me. I assume they knew he was screwing around before that...but it is not like he was going to tell them!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. BUTT OUT. Your kid probably doesn't want to tell you if he even had a girlfriend.

From your post - you are anxious, overly involved, gossipy, judgmental, paranoid and shallow.



No wonder he doesn't share.

1000%

No doubt that this is all true, but I suspect many of us parents snoop social media in a similar fashion. Op just lacks our guile in admitting it.

[Anonymous]

“I offered to guide my son’s p into his GFs v but so far he hasn’t responded, is he gay?”

“Settle down, helicopter mom.”

[Anonymous]

Having had a boyfriend for much of college, (which I pretty much just went along with because my friends had one, too), I very much would not encourage the having of boyfriends/girlfriends in college. Let the kids have some fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you truly considered that he might be gay or bi, and needs time to figure it all out before he's ready to seriously date anyone?

Your whole girlfriend-girls-girlfriend-whataboutgirls mindset makes me think he might not be comfortable coming out to you or telling you he's questioning his sexuality. My brother was this way and didn't tell my parents he was gay until he was 100% sure and had a serious boyfriend--and that wasn't until he was 25.

+100. Your GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS routine is a bit much. He won’t be comfortable telling you about his dating relationships for a VERY long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably hooking up with lots of different girls. Hope you got him the HPV vaccine.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think you need a hobby. I hear crochet has become really popular. Try it.

[Anonymous]

It is abnormal to go through four years of university without at least one steady boyfriend or girlfriend. A young man at an Ivy should have no shortage of eager suitors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is abnormal to go through four years of university without at least one steady boyfriend or girlfriend. A young man at an Ivy should have no shortage of eager suitors.

You are full of crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is abnormal to go through four years of university without at least one steady boyfriend or girlfriend. A young man at an Ivy should have no shortage of eager suitors.

You are full of crap.

And apparently from the 1850s. Who TF says suitors anymore??

[Anonymous]

News flash: People can be happy without a relationship. Land the helicopter, OP and relax. Get your own life.

[Anonymous]

*Slides “So Your Son is Gay” pamphlet across desk to OP*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*Slides “So Your Son is Gay” pamphlet across desk to OP*

Or, could be: “Your Son Has No Desire to Talk about His Straight/Gay/Bi/Pan Dating Life with His Parents Because they are Intrusive AF”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is abnormal to go through four years of university without at least one steady boyfriend or girlfriend. A young man at an Ivy should have no shortage of eager suitors.

You are full of crap.

You believe more than 50% of university students go through four years of college with no boyfriend or girlfriend? You’d be wrong. You think a first boyfriend or girlfriend at age 23 is normal? It is not.