Signs of infidelity?
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Anonymous
| What are signs a spouse is having an affair? |
Anonymous
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A change in long established patterns.
New underwear, different from what was worn previously. Gym membership. Personal grooming changes. Won’t let cell phone out of sight. Working late. Working early. None of these alone mean spouse is in an affair but several of them together is a warning. |
Anonymous
| For my ex-wife, it was when her girls nights over three months started happening Friday and Saturday nights and she wasnt back till 4.am each time And we had two kids together. |
Anonymous
| What signs are you seeing? |
Anonymous
| Change in behavior - acting nice or the opposite shirt tempered/checked out, sudden interest in more sex or avoids it, Etc. |
Anonymous
| Sudden interest in sex acts they’d never done (with you) before. |
Anonymous
| I remember my XW at one time said “I don’t think people are meant to be monogamous.” At the time I thought, that’s an odd statement. Should have known. |
Anonymous
I would also add that he/she disappears randomly to make phone calls More business trips Distant Moody |
Anonymous
Hopefully you're now doing well. |
Anonymous
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None. I’m not kidding.
Never was late from work. No overnight trips. We had each other’s iPhone passwords and both left our phones lying around. No behavior changes. We still had sex 3-4 times per week. He went to her house on Fridays during work hours (hacked his iPhone locator to make it appear he was at work—it can be done). No phone calls. They communicated via Skype which left no trace. He always planned nice dinners, did stuff for anniversaries and bdays, coached kids teams and we had a great relationship—lots of friends and social stuff. He’s sick. A severe compartmentalizing narcissist. |
Anonymous
How did you eventually find out? |
Anonymous
He should teach a class on "How to Have an Affair". |
Anonymous
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He began closing and locking the home office door when he worked late at night. Our laundry room was in an alcove in the same space so I was at first inconvenienced and then puzzled.
The next clue was the phone company contacting me that our cell phones would be shut off. He had run up the long distance bill to many hundreds of dollars and there wasn’t enough left in our joint account to cover it. He tried to claim the calls were to a relative having a tough time, but the numbers didn’t match. |
Anonymous
| How does one have a long distance bill these days? |
Anonymous
This was almost two decades ago. |