Wife doesn’t care for looking good, dressing well

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Anonymous wrote:If you want her to dress up, take her somewhere worth dressing up for.

As a SAHM, no way in hell am I dressing up every day, I need to be able to play at the park with my kids. Can’t do that in jeans. Plus my clothes get completely dirty by the end of the day. But if my H takes me somewhere nice, or better yet when we have a weekend away, I’ll dress up.

If she’s wearing the same outfit for days on end, then it’s probably depression and she needs help. But if you’re pissed she wears yoga pants when you want her to wear jeans, back off and maybe re-assess what you find valuable about your wife.

Sorry, don’t care how you or anyone else dresses, but the statement in bold is simply stupid.

Denim is extremely inflexible, which is why you never see workout clothes made out of it.

I wear denim maybe 3-4x a year. It’s just way too uncomfortable and restrictive for me. I don’t wear anything I can’t do a full squat in.

But I was a gymnast and dancer, and I’m used to being able to use the full range of motion of my joints. Not being able to feels suffocating for me.

PP - I understand preferring other pants to jeans, don’t get me wrong. I also prefer to wear workout clothes to play with my kids. But to state that one “can’t“ do it in jeans is just ridiculous. People do extremely active WORK in jeans all the time. If you can’t squat in jeans it’s perhaps because your jeans are too tight or not a high enough rise. Again, I understand that jeans are not everyone’s cup of tea anymore, but people are acting like putting on a pair of jeans is the equivalent of a full length ballgown and heels.

I don’t understand how jeans are now considered dressing up.

Yes! When I put on jeans, I’m dressing down, not dressing up. Jeans are work clothes, not dressy clothes.

Agree. I’m a SAHM to 3 and wear jeans daily in cooler months and linen wrap dresses, skirts, in the summer. I never wear yoga pants/sweats in public outside of the gym. If I am wearing them at home it is because I have the stomach flu or some other good reason I just couldn’t manage to put on a real outfit. Im active and in good shape but athleisure looks dumpy and lazy outside of the gym (including at home). Jeans now being considered “uncomfortable” and dressing up is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:So glad my H is attracted to me no matter what I wear. Although he’d probably say he’s most attracted when I wear nothing at all, ha.

That's my dh too.

Pretty sure this is what all DHs prefer.

That would be mighty awkward for work-related video calls though.

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This thread makes me so excited to wear my workout clothes around today. I would anyway because I’m so much more likely to do my daily workout if I don’t have to change but I love that it riles up so many uptight people.

Also my husband compliments my body more when I’m wearing that than anything else, so I only look dumpy to people who insist on wearing classy hairdos and jeans to the playground.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me so excited to wear my workout clothes around today. I would anyway because I’m so much more likely to do my daily workout if I don’t have to change but I love that it riles up so many uptight people.

Also my husband compliments my body more when I’m wearing that than anything else, so I only look dumpy to people who insist on wearing classy hairdos and jeans to the playground.

Yep, you sound lazy if you need to wear workout clothes the entire day to somehow motivate you to actually workout, since changing clothes is just too much effort. You hit the right note.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I agree! With just a little bit of effort with makeup and clothes I like what I see and that makes me feel good. I really do this for myself but it is nice to get compliments from my husband of many years.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

You can only do so much with the base material you are working with or the expectations are way too high. But to give up and look dumpy is very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

You can only do so much with the base material you are working with or the expectations are way too high. But to give up and look dumpy is very sad.

Not the case for me, my base material is fantastic. I still get hit on all the time in my athleisurewear. Just like I would get hit on right and left in college even when I’d go to the store sick and in my pajamas. And I still get tons of compliments from random women on how good my body looks.

It’s pretty great that I can be comfortable most of the time, then dress up when I feel like it, and be happy with how I look either way.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

+1. I don’t dress up because I don’t look good anyways. Middle-aged women don’t suddenly look hot with a bit of lip gloss and form fitting clothes. They still look middle-aged, you can just see all the lumps and bumps from aging and childbirth. If I could throw on a dress and look good I would. I don’t. And spending all that time,energy, and anticipation to just look bad afterwards doesn’t make me feel good. It just makes me hate my appearance more.

Society puts so much pressure and emphasis on women’s appearance. It messes with your self esteem trying to fit into a mold that you can’t.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me so excited to wear my workout clothes around today. I would anyway because I’m so much more likely to do my daily workout if I don’t have to change but I love that it riles up so many uptight people.

Also my husband compliments my body more when I’m wearing that than anything else, so I only look dumpy to people who insist on wearing classy hairdos and jeans to the playground.

If you have a decent body and don’t pick unflattering shapes/cuts/materials I am sure you can look great in your athleisure. Lots of women do. Maybe I missed it, but since OP is complaining that his wife does NOT look nice/great, than presumably whatever clothes she is wearing, athleisure or not, look like crap.

For the slow folks in the back: this thread ain’t about you, shockingly enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

You can only do so much with the base material you are working with or the expectations are way too high. But to give up and look dumpy is very sad.

Not the case for me, my base material is fantastic. I still get hit on all the time in my athleisurewear. Just like I would get hit on right and left in college even when I’d go to the store sick and in my pajamas. And I still get tons of compliments from random women on how good my body looks.

It’s pretty great that I can be comfortable most of the time, then dress up when I feel like it, and be happy with how I look either way.

🙄 Shouldn’t you be rising up out of the sea on a giant shell or something? Why are you wasting your time on DCUM?

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Anonymous wrote:I remember taking a very high level job at a company where the CEO, soon to be terminated, only hired beautiful young women for support positions. My wife showed up one day with our young kids to see where Dad worked…dressed in mom gear….and she said that’s the last time she was going any where near our offices in mom gear. She really upped her game after that and she definitely had the underpinnings to make it happen. Many years later she still likes to look good.

Np that sounded like a terrible place to work as a woman
You aren't valued unless you are eye candy for the men.

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

You can only do so much with the base material you are working with or the expectations are way too high. But to give up and look dumpy is very sad.

Not the case for me, my base material is fantastic. I still get hit on all the time in my athleisurewear. Just like I would get hit on right and left in college even when I’d go to the store sick and in my pajamas. And I still get tons of compliments from random women on how good my body looks.

It’s pretty great that I can be comfortable most of the time, then dress up when I feel like it, and be happy with how I look either way.

🙄 Shouldn’t you be rising up out of the sea on a giant shell or something? Why are you wasting your time on DCUM?

The 6 Jason Momoa look-alikes who carry my shell have the day off. It was the right thing to do after what I put them through this weekend

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Anonymous wrote:Legit don’t understand women who are content to look dumpy.

Same. Personally it puts me in a better mood when I put some effort into my appearance.

I think the issue is that some women find that they put in a ton of effort in to dressing up and still don't like the way they look. It kind of emphasizes the problem.

You can only do so much with the base material you are working with or the expectations are way too high. But to give up and look dumpy is very sad.

Not the case for me, my base material is fantastic. I still get hit on all the time in my athleisurewear. Just like I would get hit on right and left in college even when I’d go to the store sick and in my pajamas. And I still get tons of compliments from random women on how good my body looks.

It’s pretty great that I can be comfortable most of the time, then dress up when I feel like it, and be happy with how I look either way.

🙄 Shouldn’t you be rising up out of the sea on a giant shell or something? Why are you wasting your time on DCUM?

The 6 Jason Momoa look-alikes who carry my shell have the day off. It was the right thing to do after what I put them through this weekend

Hmm.. I can’t relate. I have never been hit on in my life! Deep down I know it’s because I am so fabulously beautiful that mere mortal men know they would just be wasting their time… 😉

For the amount of attention you receive, maybe you just look easy?