Wife doesn’t care for looking good, dressing well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want her to dress up, take her somewhere worth dressing up for.

As a SAHM, no way in hell am I dressing up every day, I need to be able to play at the park with my kids. Can’t do that in jeans. Plus my clothes get completely dirty by the end of the day. But if my H takes me somewhere nice, or better yet when we have a weekend away, I’ll dress up.

If she’s wearing the same outfit for days on end, then it’s probably depression and she needs help. But if you’re pissed she wears yoga pants when you want her to wear jeans, back off and maybe re-assess what you find valuable about your wife.

Oh good points. OP should take his wife out. Why would she dress up to work from home/be with the kids/do chores.

[Anonymous]

This is an issue in my marriage as well. DH buys me clothes in styles I don’t normally wear and gets mad I don’t wear them.

Why do you care so much? Can’t you just love her the way she feels most comfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she's gone completely frumpy. I'm a SAHM and manage to put effort into my clothes, although I'm wearing jean shorts and a cute tee. It's not that hard, I don't know what these other posters are going on about. Would you like it if your husband walked around the house in frumpy clothes? I wouldn't.

I don't know, OP. Maybe she is depressed?

Ugh. Maybe she doesn’t feel like she needs wear clothes she doesn’t like.

It’s not that hard for YOU. For others it can be really hard to put themselves out there.

[Anonymous]

Everyone saying "take her out" -- stop being dense. He'd like her to put some effort in every day, or most days, rather than just special occasions. And I think that's a valid request. It signals the desire to BE desired, which is part of a healthy relationship.

My advice for OP would be to stop hinting and just tell her it would mean a lot to you if you both could return to the days of trying to impress and woo each other. Of course, that conversation will only work if you're otherwise in a good place relationship-wise and she isn't privately resentful of you. If she gets offended or doesn't follow through, no more talks on the subject. Time to accept it and figure out if it's a dealbreaker.

I've been considering making a similar thread lately, but I knew I'd get thrown a bunch of specious "it's her body!!1!" arguments. Most of my female friends have easy, low-stress lives with kind husbands, yet they don't put an ounce of effort into looking attractive. It strikes me as disrespectful and rude to their partners to not do a few simple things to maintain attractiveness. Is it really that hard to dye your grays every 7 weeks when you don't have a job and you're wealthy and your kids are in school? Come on. I'm not talking about pageant makeup or working out or anything time-consuming.

[Anonymous]

Troll post, don’t feed it.

[Anonymous]

It's a pandemic.

And no one wants to wear jeans when it's 90+ degrees outside and 60+% humidity OP. That's how you get yeast infections.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I think it's fair for men and women to both want a small amount of effort from their partners, especially if they put in effort before marriage. If my DH wore sweats and old tees and never shaved or combed is hair, I'd be frustrated. I put on a small amount of makeup and jeans at the least as a SAHM. I haven't bought any clothes at all during the pandemic because I am either at home or at the park or hiking, but once i'm out in the world I will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a pandemic.

And no one wants to wear jeans when it's 90+ degrees outside and 60+% humidity OP. That's how you get yeast infections.

You can wear shorts. Tights are hotter than shorts. I do not understand how yoga tights became the standard bottom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a global pandemic dude?

She's not really going anywhere.

You are a control freak.

+1 Your the man on the street who randomly tells women to smile.

+100000

I used to wear makeup and get dressed up for work and date nights and be cute and dressy at home. Guess what happened?! A fukin pandemic where I have to cook clean work and parent. I’m wearing tights and leggings with holes that are comfy and get stained and t shirts. Suck it up, cupcake, or take care of shit around the house so I can lounge in my dressy wear.

[Anonymous]

I wasn’t put here on this earth to be decorative.

— Another DW who wants to tell you that unless you’re 24/7 dressing like Carey Grant while mopping like Alice from the Brady Bunch, you can STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a pandemic.

And no one wants to wear jeans when it's 90+ degrees outside and 60+% humidity OP. That's how you get yeast infections.

You can wear shorts. Tights are hotter than shorts. I do not understand how yoga tights became the standard bottom.

Many women don’t feel comfortable wearing shorts, not sure why. Oh wait perhaps it is because 98% of men and others in society reduce them to how they look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a pandemic.

And no one wants to wear jeans when it's 90+ degrees outside and 60+% humidity OP. That's how you get yeast infections.

You can wear shorts. Tights are hotter than shorts. I do not understand how yoga tights became the standard bottom.

Jean shorts in 90+ humid weather are also how you get yeast infections. You must not understand how women's bodies work, they need some wicking in the lady parts. It's not the legs that are the problem, lol.

Loose pants and skirts are the way to go. Or wicking. Which is probably what your wife is already wearing.

[Anonymous]

This is sounding more and more like a troll.

There is no way a heterosexual male is going to want his wife to *not* wear yoga pants or some sort of capri leggings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wasn’t put here on this earth to be decorative.

— Another DW who wants to tell you that unless you’re 24/7 dressing like Carey Grant while mopping like Alice from the Brady Bunch, you can STFU.

It's funny cuz it's true!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is sounding more and more like a troll.

There is no way a heterosexual male is going to want his wife to *not* wear yoga pants or some sort of capri leggings.

+1